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To feel like a dreadful mother!

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Anonynony · 11/04/2014 13:22

Oh God I'm freaking out, just had the worst experience of my life as a mother (which I absolutely love and am so thankful every day for)

My nearly 3 year old started roaring at me in the shop today and picking up loose veg, I just said right that's it we're going and went to the till and bought my credit, she was still shouting and roaring so I walked ahead of her and took her scooter from the door way and walked out presuming she was beside me. I noticed people on the road looking at me disgustedly and presumed it was because of her roaring. But I turned around and she was stuck in the shop door :O it's a big heavy door and I obviously let it close on her!! She wasn't hurt but stuck none the less and a woman was helping her and looking at me like I was filth! I feel like it, I've never been so ashamed :( a whole cafe and shop saw. I feel sick to my stomach I can only imagine how it looked.
I feel like social workers will be knocking any minute!

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BitsinTatters · 11/04/2014 13:23

Haha haha

Ahem

BitsinTatters · 11/04/2014 13:23

Bet she won't roar at you in that shop again.

Parrot46 · 11/04/2014 13:30

I believe EVERY mother has had such moments so dont feel so bad. To share some of mine: accidentally locked sleeping baby in the car and had to have a window broken to get her out; accidentally took the childs legs out from under her going down an ice slide at speed before she had walked off; accidentally lost both of them at various times and in various places etc etc. Both still alive happy and healthy and love to hear the stories of their various near misses with fate that are all my fault.

MammaTJ · 11/04/2014 13:32

Don't worry about what these random people thought. They didn't see all that came before. and if they start a thread judging you,we will be sure to put them right

AJayne48 · 11/04/2014 13:35

You won't be alone in this, it was an accident. You didn't want her to get stuck in the door. I have had accidents as a mother that will haunt me but these things happen, I asked for advice when it happened to me and lovely people told me there stories about when things don't go to plan.

You'll feel like this for a while but in years to come you will be laughing about it with your daughter. No one was hurt thankfully and as for the people scowling just ignore them, if they have nothing better to do than judge then feel sorry for them and be thankful that you will never meet them again.

Don't beat yourself up too much!

LokiDokey · 11/04/2014 13:35

Hahah oops.
We've all had our dreadful mother moments, I dropped DS on his head and DD walked around for almost a month on a broken knee so don't stress it.

Jenda · 11/04/2014 13:36

I promise this is going to be a funny story she will like you telling oneday! Mortifying but hilarious, don't worry about the people who saw, I'm sure they aren't perfect

BlackeyedSusan · 11/04/2014 13:37

here/ you will need this and this and for later this

perhaps they were looking in horrort at the doors that shut on your child.

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Anonynony · 11/04/2014 13:40

I must have looked unhinged though, that's what's upsetting me the most is how I must have looked like a loose cannon storming off on my child and letting a really heavy door close on her! God it's so different to how it really is but I can only imagine what they all thought and I can't believe I care so much

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DesperatelySeekingSedatives · 11/04/2014 13:41

You'll laugh about it one day I swear. had similar scenes with both of mine. I walked off without my DD once when she was mid tantrum thinking she'd follow me (she always had before when id done that). only this time the little madam called my bluff and shot off down the road in the opposite direction. I had to run after her and catch her with loads of people watching and hoiking their judgey pants up to their ears

Topseyt · 11/04/2014 17:38

I was once in a shoe shop getting shoes for my youngest daughter, who needed them at the time. My eldest daughter (then about 6) was with us, but had only recently had a new pair of shoes and didn't need any at that point. That didn't stop her getting mega stroppy about it though.

As I was paying for youngest's shoes my eldest threw a huge wobbly and yelled "MUM, I REFUSE TO LEAVE THIS SHOP WITHOUT MORE NEW SHOES".

I called her bluff and said that if she wasn't leaving without more new shoes I would leave the shop without her, and I did. Within less than a minute she had joined me, with a shocked face on and stunned into a silence which lasted the rest of the way home. I don't know what the other people in the shop or anywhere nearby must have thought, and I don't much care either. My daughter is now a healthy and happy 18 year old and we look back on the "incident" if that is what you call it and laugh now. It taught her the required lesson at the time though.

Don't be too hard on yourself OP. We have all done similar.

MrsDrRanj · 11/04/2014 17:45

Oh love, the other day I was on the bus with my 2 year old who unexpectedly jumped out of his buggy and legged it down the bus aisle before I could grab hold of him. I grabbed him eventually but the bus driver shouted at me infront of everyone. I was mortified and cried as I walked home. He didn't know I was struggling with awful toothache, family issues and a toddler who had been screaming ALL DAY.

People can be dicks. You are not a bad mother, kids can be impossible!

Have some wine and chocolate, hold your head up and tell yourself tomorrow is a new day. I'm sure you're doing just fine x

fideline · 11/04/2014 17:48

Don't feel bad. It was an accident.

If you'd pandered to the tantrum, that woud also have earned you filthy looks.

Nomama · 11/04/2014 17:52

Well, it's a pity she isn't a bit older, she may not remember the incident very clearly.

But you can.... it sounds just right for trotting out when you first meet her drop dead gorgeous forever boyfriend - all of them!

I am babygirl hear me roar... sqoooooooooooooouish

Smo2 · 11/04/2014 17:53

One time, I was walking through the natural history museum and my daughter, who has cerebral palsy was wandering behind me as she does...she tripped up the stairs and fell flat on her face, worse still she had kne of those bear hats on...so she looked like one of those rugs with an animal head n ..splayed out across the floor....so oblivious was I , someone has to stop me to point out she'd fallen over...!

She's 11 now, and still never lets me forget it!

You're not bad, and I promise you will laugh about it in years to come! Xx

PurplePidjin · 11/04/2014 17:53

On another day it would have been a different outcome - my 17mo tantrummed all the way up the quiet road into town and I mean dropping to the pavement refusing to move while I moved on a few yards and waited for him to catch up. Less than a minute into walking up the actual busy high street an old lady complimented me on how good he was at walking at such a young age She'd definitely have cats-bum-mouthed at me if she'd seen us before! Luck of the draw, it'll be some other poor sod's turn next probably mine

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Anonynony · 11/04/2014 18:27

Oh you've all given me a much needed laugh thanks so so much!
I had just been offered a place on a college course I desperately wanted and was over the moon until that, God I'm really going to watch the faces I make because all those dirty looks killed me today

I'm definitely not going back to that shop anytime soon though not a single sympathetic or knowing look even before she got stuck in the door! I always give the poor mother "the look"! Ugh!

So glad I posted though, thanks again!!

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oldgrandmama · 11/04/2014 18:39

I lost my three year old daughter in Selfridges, six days before Christmas, it was somewhat crowded (!) and she didn't like holding my hand, so I said 'OK, just stay by my side' ...

Ten minutes later, after I'd aged abut 40 years, message came over tannoy telling me she was at the Chanel counter. There she was, sitting on one of those high stools like some snooty entitled Sloane waiting for a makeup session, while glamorous Chanel 'consultants' clucked around her then gave me the evil eye as I shamefacedly collected her.

It's only taken her forty-one years to get over it ... [JOKING! ]

NationMcKinley · 11/04/2014 18:44

You Are Not Alone Anon I have 3 small boys and believe me I could regale you for days hours with my parenting exploits. Don't worry and ignore any catsbumfaces. Have some

BolshierAyraStark · 11/04/2014 20:34

Have this as this is a funny story & you will laugh about it shortly.

CatThiefKeith · 11/04/2014 23:23

My dm once made me walk all round town in the school shoes she'd just bought me 'to break them in'.

I kept telling her they hurt but she took no notice, she thought I just didn't like them because they were brown I didn't

When we got home they still had a load of paper shoved in the toes!

Trust me, you'll both laugh one day....

Finney2 · 11/04/2014 23:31

I was in Tesco a couple of weeks ago with my 3-y-o. He was having a tantrum because I wouldn't buy him an electric toothbrush. I tried to pick him up off the floor by placing my hands under his armpits but at the exact same time he decided to kick out and squirm and, defying gravity, he absolutely flew head first across the floor and hit his head on a shelf. It looked exactly like I had thrown him across the bloody shop. I got out of there before security could march me out.

WilsonFrickett · 11/04/2014 23:57

When we got DS his first scooter, DP said 'he must never go on it without a helmet'. DS hated wearing a helmet and I just didn't see the need. Till he sort of 'tripped' over a paving slab on his first outing on it sailed over the handle and landed on his forehead.

I actually still can't laugh about that one, but DS and DP think it's hilarious. At least your dc didn't actually get hurt....

NotTodayJosephine · 12/04/2014 00:10

I left one of my kids locked in the car outside the house when he was about 7. We didn't notice he wasn't with us for half an hour. I have four kids but I know that is no excuse. He could have unlocked the doors from inside but he heard them click so thought he couldn't.

MexicanSpringtime · 12/04/2014 00:13

I have so many stories, but maybe the worst was when a friend was moving house and we went along to help, while the children were playing quietly. It turned out they had happily been taking my friend's ventilin tablets and my daughter (whom I had always been very careful to teach about not taking medicine unless I gave it to her) had taken the most. We had to leg it to the hospital with five poisoned children. Fortunately no after effects and the doctors and nurses refrained from criticising us.

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