to not let dh be in sole charge of 3dc at the swimming pool

[PrincessScrumpy]

Dh and I took our 3dds swimming. At the end of our swim, dh said he thought one of us should go and get dry and dressed then it would be easier to get the girls sorted. This meaning dh or I would be in the pool alone for a few minutes with 2 two-year-olds and a 6 year old (who can sort of swim). Pool rules are 2 non swimming dc per adult. It was quiet and all dc can touch the bottom in the learner pool, plus 2yos had arm bands but I know I'd never forgive myself if anything happened and dh isn't always brilliant at observation. (He's a fab farther btw). Anyway, I said no so we didn't do it but dh made it clear he thought I was nuts. Aibu?

I take my 2 non swimming dsc's and my 7mo dd swimming on my own, the learner pool is very small and less than 1 metre deep, the older ones can stand up no prob and both can swim a little bit.

Yanbu with regards pointing out the pool rules, but for phrasing it in the way you have here then sorry but I think you sound like yabu if that makes sense?

I would take my 3 DC aged 6, 5 and 2 swimming if the pool rules allowed it. We never go in the big pool, they all wear armbands and stay close to me.

As a single parent of 3 older DCs I am very wary about taking them swimming on my own, even though two of them are reasonably strong swimmers. However, XH doesn't have an issue with it and he is a stronger swimmer than me I trust that he can do a better job of keeping them safe on his own.

I understand where you're coming from, but I think if your DH was comfortable with it then it would have been fine. However, those sticklers for the rules may have scuppered it anyway!

Having had to wade into a pool and rescue 4yr old ds with baby dd under my arm, having left dh in sole charge of ds, YANBU. Thank God I was still watching from the side of the pool, that's all I can say.

Okay I accept I may be u but at the same time I'm okay with that. SOme risks are not worth taking. I think 2 5/6 year olds is very different to 2 2 year olds who are over confident with no fear.