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Delete friend on Facebook because she has gone to disney without kids again!

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chocolatelolly · 07/04/2014 19:25

Everytime I see her latest post about what fun she is having it gets me annoyed! Ok bit of background info, she has two children age 7 and age 8, she is currently in florida on her honeymoon. She also went last year with her partner without the children. Am I the only one that thinks this is awful?
Fair enough go on holiday without your children, but disney world?

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Mintyy · 08/04/2014 12:32

I have no desire to go to Disney - which means that my children won't go. That's life, I guess . We are going to California next year and will take them to Universal Studios or similar.

FrenchJunebug · 08/04/2014 12:32

my child said "what's disney?" and shrugged.

UABVVVVU

DioneTheDiabolist · 08/04/2014 12:36

My DM has been to Disney quite a few times. Once with DB, all the other times she has gone with her sister, brother and friends. She loves it. She is in her sixties.

Gruntfuttock · 08/04/2014 12:38

Well, it's fine if you have never had any desire to go to Disney, but the OP's friend obviously loves the place, so it's strange that she wouldn't want to share it with her children, who at 7 and 8 are the perfect age to enjoy it, I would have thought.

AliceDoesntLiveHereAnymore · 08/04/2014 12:46

Not necessarily. At age 9, my DD was JUST tall enough to go on all the rides. Maybe at 7 and 8, they're not quite there yet, and the parents are waiting until they're both well old enough to enjoy the bigger stuff too.

I don't plan on taking mine until they are in their early teens.

encyclogirl · 08/04/2014 12:51

We go to Florida a lot, and I think it's pretty crap of her to go twice without her dc. Mine would be gutted to miss out.

I'm reminded of Denise Royle in one Christmas episode where she turned up at her Mums sans dc for the day.

"Weeeell Christmas is not a time for children is it?"

MrJollyLivesNextDoor · 08/04/2014 13:27

Depends what you mean by 'Disney' though. Epcot and Busch Gardens (BG is not Disney) - all would be perfectly enjoyable as adults without kids.
As would Islands of Adventure, SeaWorld and Universal (all non-Disney).

Maybe they like theme parks and roller coasters?

I don't think it's unreasonable for adults to go and enjoy these parks (or any of the Disney ones if that's what they're into) although I can't imagine leaving DS at home in order to do so.

candycoatedwaterdrops · 08/04/2014 13:43

Coming back to this thread, I do think it's a bit mean but certainly not 'cruel' as some people have stated. It also depends if she went purely for Disney or chose that location and spent the day in Disney. The latter makes her slight less mean IMO.

lylasmam2012 · 08/04/2014 13:48

We went to Orlando on honeymoon and spent 1 day at Disneyland, spent more time in Universal Studios though, much better - we didn't have kids at the time.

I have a 19 month old daughter and I went to Disneyland Paris with my husband for my 30th and didn't bring her. She wouldn't have been able to go on any of the rides I wanted to go on, so it would have been a waste of money!

MysweetAudrina · 08/04/2014 13:48

Myself and dh went to Disneyland Paris when our 3 older children were small without them. They have forgive us. They are 21,20,18 now. We may bring the younger ones in the next few years. I dont particularly like disney but we got complimentary tickets and accommodation.

2rebecca · 08/04/2014 13:49

Going away on honeymoon and not taking your kids NBU
Going to florida on your honeymoon NBU
Deciding to go to Disneland whilst you're there NBU
Posting on facebook about it so your kids can hear about it and feel left out is the unreasonable bit to me, not the going there in the first place.
I'd have kept quiet about it and played it down when I got back, although I'm another person who wouldn't go without kids because I hate queuing and tinny music.

consideringadoption84 · 08/04/2014 15:18

I don't have children and I've been to EuroDisney with friends. Only for the day because we were in Paris for a week anyway. It was fun and is a good day out for a group of adults who like rides and want a bit of a laugh.

But I also went to Euro Disney the year it opened (I think) when I was 7 and my sister was 5. My Gran paid for our whole family to go and, although I don't think I even really knew what Disney Land was before I went, I can still remember the magic and the excitement of it. It is one of my very best childhood memories. I do (with hindsight) feel sorry for my Dad though because nobody wanted to/could go on Thunder Mountain with him! Grin

So, I think that adults going alone as part of a honeymoon is fine and she is not being unreasonable now. But going as her holiday last year without her children was unreasonable.

I'm not sure I can believe there are children who actively don't want to go though?! I believe there are children who would choose many other places in preference and aren't especially bothered about going but if it came down to a normal weekend in the summer holidays and you said to your children, 'darlings, do you want to play in the garden, go to Tesco and feed the ducks this weekend or shall we hop on the Eurostar and go to Disney Land for the day?' would they really, honestly pick option one? Shock (I don't have children, I'm not saying this is impossible. I'm just surprised.)

JohnnyBarthes · 08/04/2014 15:42

Mine has never expressed an interest. I seriously don't get the angst here - presumably they'll take the kids another year if they love it so much Confused

JohnFarleysRuskin · 08/04/2014 16:24

I seriously don't get a mother who twice chooses to go to Disney on holiday without her kids.

She sounds like a twat.

FanFuckingTastic · 08/04/2014 17:50

My idea on visiting the theme parks in Florida was that I was scoping them out to see whether they'd be possible with the kids. Pretty sure I'd need to hire a big car and a folding mobility scooter as there is loads of walking around.

Also, the boy is still a bit timid as was proven when we went to Thorpe Park, he'd only really enjoy the little rides, and they may be a bit immature for him now at eight. My girl on the other hand is tiny short and fearless, she'd not get on the rides she liked, but would love the Disney experience, but Busch Gardens, Universal and the Water Parks might be a bit too much for her.

I enjoyed myself so much I'd go back in the meantime, while they were holidaying with their dads most likely, and I'd still do something nice with them in the UK. It's a long flight and temperatures can be very high over there, I want them to be at the right age to enjoy it all together, not to have one bored and the other upset. Or both of them struggling with the heat. I think upper primary age would be good.

I can't wait to go to Thorpe Park without them, so I can go on the rollercoasters myself. But intend on taking them as many times as I possibly can with our free passes.

Treaclepot · 08/04/2014 18:07

Honeymoon without kids - great idea
At disney - unusual choice but whatever floats yer boat
Second time without kids - really fucking tight.

My collegue goes away twice a year on a girls holiday without her DC, fair dos, but she has never taken her DC on holiday as she 'can't afford it' Hmm selfish bint.

SlimJiminy · 08/04/2014 18:14

I went to Disney World on my honeymoon. I wouldn't object to someone else going to Mauritius or Barbados or wherever else they wanted to go on their honeymoon, so why should anyone else object to our choice? Loved it. Definitely is possible to go without kids and we saw/chatted to many couples there who felt the same.

Having said that, we wouldn't go back without kids (we don't have any yet but hope to go back as a family one day). And we definitely wouldn't leave our hypothetical children behind.

But I also wouldn't begrudge a friend a honeymoon to a destination of his/her choosing. I'd think it was a bit mean to leave the kids behind, but it's actually sod all to do with me, so not much you can do about it. Hide her if you don't like it.

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chocolatelolly · 08/04/2014 18:37

The latest picture is a photo of her Mickey Mouse waffles.
Part of me wants to hide all posts and the other part wants to see what she does next. Good idea about adding a comment, was thinking something like,' oh the kids loved the (insert name of ride) there when we went

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candycoatedwaterdrops · 08/04/2014 18:40

You sound lovely chocolatelolly. Hmm
It's not something I would do but you are coming across a lot worse than her. Delete her, she probably has less bitchy friends.

Charley50 · 08/04/2014 18:41

I think it's weird and not very nice to go to Disneyland without your kids.

RussianBlu · 08/04/2014 18:43

Has anybody made a comment about her children on facebook? I don't think I would be able to resist!

The person earlier who posted about the Royale Family Christmas episode reminds me of something I heard about a family who had the grandparents over for xmas day. One of the grandparents got the rage in the morning and went to stay upstairs for most of the day because they didn't like that all the attention was on the children and their present opening (children approx. 5 and 8)!!!!! I think it rather ruined the day and made the dinner somewhat tense.

Seminyak · 08/04/2014 19:00

YABU for saying she's 'gone to Disney'. You mean Disneyland.

IABU for getting annoyed at that phrase. But it's lazy and annoying!

Seminyak · 08/04/2014 19:01

/world Wink Grin

MistressDeeCee · 09/04/2014 01:30

Just wondering if, since she met her partner, they've taken the DCs away on a family holiday? Or is it all about him?

RandomInternetStranger · 09/04/2014 02:16

I went to Disney World on my honeymoon, that's not the problem. The problem is that it's the second time this couple have gone without their children when the kids would undoubtedly want to go and it would be upsetting to the kids to be excluded from a wonderful child focussed holiday which would be a fantastic memory for them forever and is very selfish of the couple. If they had gone to say Vegas on a drinking & gambling holiday alone, or a typical adult oriented honeymoon destination like the Maldives, then fine but it's a child's dream and excluding the children is just cruel. I wouldn't want to be friends with someone like that and would be able to resist saying something about it.