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Delete friend on Facebook because she has gone to disney without kids again!

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chocolatelolly · 07/04/2014 19:25

Everytime I see her latest post about what fun she is having it gets me annoyed! Ok bit of background info, she has two children age 7 and age 8, she is currently in florida on her honeymoon. She also went last year with her partner without the children. Am I the only one that thinks this is awful?
Fair enough go on holiday without your children, but disney world?

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DoJo · 08/04/2014 10:53

Obvious exception being if you have a child who genuinely wouldn't want to go. Which I can't imagine exists.

They definitely do - at least two in my family and another two in my husband's. Disneyland/world aren't the be all and end all to every child in the world, despite what their adverts tell you.

Fakebook · 08/04/2014 11:02

Yanbu. Who the hell would do this not once, but twice?! Selfish cow. And I don't care if its her flipping honeymoon.

blanchedeveraux · 08/04/2014 11:11

I went to Disney before I had kids and can honestly say I would rather go to the 7th circle of hell than return. My DCs have inherited (been indoctrinated) my distrust of all things Mickey Mouse so when we (hopefully) go to Florida next year, Disney won't be on the agenda.

IamInvisible · 08/04/2014 11:26

YANBU.

DH and I went on a child free holiday last week. Our first, our kids are 19&17. When were there we were talking to another couple about where we fancy going in the future. My parent's have a friend who runs holiday place in Borneo and DH's suggested going there to see the orang-utans. I said I'd have to take the kids. The other woman asked why and I said "because they've always wanted to see them and it would be like going to Disney World without them". She said " you wouldn't go to Disney without your kids? I would! You're weird!"

ormirian · 08/04/2014 11:31

Sounds hideous. What possible reason would there be for going without children? .

Perhaps she is planning to go with the children soon. Hope so otherwise it seems a bit mean.

MostWicked · 08/04/2014 11:32

Before my mum and dad went to Disney, mum asked me and my sister if we would mind if they went. She said that they would love to take us one day but didn't know when or if that would be possible.
It didn't occur to me for a minute to be upset or annoyed or resent her going. I didn't think they were being selfish, they were taking advantage of an opportunity.

All these cries from people who are sure the kids would be upset, don't know. Having been in the same position, I can honestly say that I was happy for my parents.

JohnFarleysRuskin · 08/04/2014 11:34

Gosh- I thought honeymoons were for shagging not wearing Mickey ears.

And yes, the two are mutually exclusive.

I would delete then exterminate.

JohnFarleysRuskin · 08/04/2014 11:35

It's like going to soft play for your birthday. Wearing a nappy.

HoldOnHoldOnSoldier · 08/04/2014 11:36

This thread is very judgemental.

How do you know the honeymoon was not a wedding gift? A trip for TWO to Florida?

The kids could be off somewhere else with another family member/friend?

You just don't know and UAbeing totallyU to comment and bitch behind your so called friends back.

JohnFarleysRuskin · 08/04/2014 11:38

And last year? She keeps being given trips for two to Disney?

That poor lady.

CalamitouslyWrong · 08/04/2014 11:39

I've told this story before, but I feel that this is definitely the thread for it.

When I was 12 my parents had recently s

CalamitouslyWrong · 08/04/2014 11:42

When I was 12 my parents had recently split up. My dad booked a Disney Florida holiday for him, me and my sister. We were super excited.

A couple of days before the holiday he decided that he wasn't taking us to spite my mum (who presumably has made plans of her own that she had to change). Instead, he took my aunt and cousin.

The weekend after he came back he insisted on picking me up, taking me to visit the aunt and cousin and showing me all the photos/telling me how brilliant it was. My cousin talked about it for years.

Fuckers. All three of them.

Gruntfuttock · 08/04/2014 11:45

Calamitously what a terrible thing for a father to do to his children. Parents are supposed to love their children and want them to be happy. What he did was unforgiveable.

difficultpickle · 08/04/2014 11:45

When we went to Disneyland Paris we met lots of couples who were there without dcs. Ds (then 6) and I thought it was weird. Some of the couples we spoke to had been there numerous times. None of them had their own dcs. Personally I would find it very odd if a friend of mine with dcs did two lavish holidays without taking them on at least one of them (I wouldn't expect to take dcs on a honeymoon but I also wouldn't chose a traditionally family holiday as my honeymoon destination either).

I also think it is pretty mean to go on a non-honeymoon expensive holiday without the dcs and then have a cheap caravan holiday with dcs. My ds certainly would know the difference and not appreciate it if I did the same.

CalamitouslyWrong · 08/04/2014 11:48

Oh I know. I don't have any contact with him. He'll die alone, the miserable bastard.

It just struck me that this was the thread for a story about a parent going to disneyworld without their kids.

I'm sure the OP's FB friend didn't get her kids all excited about going to Disney and then not take them (and take someone else instead). Presumably the kids are doing something with their dad instead.

MissUumellmahaye · 08/04/2014 11:49

Sounds hideous with or without children! Grin

Trazzletoes · 08/04/2014 11:51

Wrong Shock that's horrible.

I wouldn't have an issue with her going on honeymoon without her DCs, even to Disney. I also don't see anything weird about child-free adults going to Disney.

I think it is odd and mean that she's there for 2 years in a row without her DCs and they have never been.

Whoever said they would be too short for most of the rides - no. My DS is 4 (though he is very tall) and can fit on everything bar about 3 or 4 rides if he chose to do so. But he doesn't like being scared.

It is such a magical experience for the DCs, it would feel odd to me if I were to leave them at home. But then I love Disney and so do the DCs. I would imagine it would be fairly unusual (though clearly not impossible) for a mother to like it so much she had gone 2 years in a row but to have children that age who have no interest in it at all.

Trazzletoes · 08/04/2014 11:52

Horrible that he didn't take you, not that you don't have contact with him!

Applespearsorangesandlemons · 08/04/2014 11:54

I have no desire to go to Disney with kids let alone without. I agree that it seems a bit weird to go there for a child free honeymoon when there are so many fabulous places to explore where you wouldn't want to take kids but it would make me delete her.

CalamitouslyWrong · 08/04/2014 11:54

My mum (very kindly) took the kids (and us) to Disneyland Paris last summer. When looking things up beforehand I came across some really odd people (Disney forums attract them, it seems).

There's a Disney princess character dining experience thing and we found this strange woman who had been to it about 10 different times. She didn't have any children and she'd post reviews and photos of her visits on the Disney forums, most of which included moaning that the people dressed up as Cinderella etc didn't spent as much time with adults on their own as they did with small children.

You'd think it would be obvious why that was. Confused

midnightagents · 08/04/2014 11:56

Yabu. This is a complete non-issue, wouldnt even cross my mind to be annoyed if a friend honeymooned in a kids place without kids.

AliceDoesntLiveHereAnymore · 08/04/2014 11:56

When we were small children, my parents went to Disneyland without us, leaving us with my aunt and uncle. Not a huge deal - my dad was in the military and flew into California, meeting my mother there, and they had time together at Disneyland for a bit and then he had to go back out of the country. It wasn't long leave, and they hadn't had time together in ages. I always thought it was rather amusing, really. We went to lots of places growing up, although never went to Disneyland. When I took my DD for the first time at age 9, that was the first time I'd been as well.

These things happen. It's not the end of the world, you know.

summertimeandthelivingiseasy · 08/04/2014 12:03

In the 1940s, my FIL's parents used to go on holiday to Blackpool with some other families, leaving FIL with his 'Auntie' Nel.

He never forgave them (but there were lots of other similar issues too.)

Applespearsorangesandlemons · 08/04/2014 12:21

Is there anyone else apart from me who doesn't feel that Disney is the holiday of a life time and one which all children dream of. I went to Disney as a chid, it was ok, I wasnt that fussed on it. We took the children to Disneyland Paris and found it boring - all of us. I'm wondering if I am doing my children a great disservice not to spend the best part of £10k going to Disney. They would love to go to the US and we plan to take them in the future but both DH and I come out in a cold sweat at the thought of a Disney holiday.

summertimeandthelivingiseasy · 08/04/2014 12:29

We never went to Disney. I never fancied it and as the kids grew up, they didn't either.

They had a friend who was always going, and I think that helped put them off :D

I think they would have loved it at 7 or 8 though.