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Original poster

Delete friend on Facebook because she has gone to disney without kids again!

241 replies

chocolatelolly · 07/04/2014 19:25

Everytime I see her latest post about what fun she is having it gets me annoyed! Ok bit of background info, she has two children age 7 and age 8, she is currently in florida on her honeymoon. She also went last year with her partner without the children. Am I the only one that thinks this is awful?
Fair enough go on holiday without your children, but disney world?

OP posts:
candycoatedwaterdrops · 07/04/2014 20:39

YABU to be wound up about where someone else chooses to holiday. How odd.

SirChenjin · 07/04/2014 20:40

YANBU

No-one wants to go on honeymoon with their kids, but Disney? Really? Unless her DC are amongst the 0.0001% who don't fancy the idea of Disney World, I can't imagine why any adult would want to go there with the partner and leave their DCs behind. Can you imagine breaking the news to them?!

YoniBGood · 07/04/2014 20:42

YANBU and please ignore the idiots who are determined to be awkward.

Of COURSE it's odd, and wrong, to go to Disney and not take the kids. Especially twice.

fayrae · 07/04/2014 20:44

They sound like nutters. Defriend them!

usuallyright · 07/04/2014 20:44

we went to Disneyland without kids! We didn't have any kids at the time. We have three kids now and wouldn't go to Disney without them now, but when we were young, childless and care free we did the Disney trip alone. Is that so weird?!

TheGirlFromIpanema · 07/04/2014 20:46

I'm off on a three week jolly without dc in June. They would love it I'm sure but its during term time (around a wedding so dates aren't moveable) AND there is no way I could afford for all of us to go [sadface] so maybe there are cost issue's for this family too.

She is BU to go to Disney though, there are hundreds of places I'd rather go on a honeymoon, its an odd choice imo.

Burren · 07/04/2014 20:47

This thread is wild. I thought everyone was going to say YABU - I hadn't realised that Going to Disney Twice Sans Offspring is tantamount to child cruelty. I have absolutely zero intention of ever taking my son to any Disney-related phenomenon under the sun - does that make me worse or better than the OP's (soon to be ex-) friend?

fayrae · 07/04/2014 20:48

Going to Disney without kids when you don't have kids is just about reasonable. Going to Disney without kids when you have kids is very strange behaviour IMO. Do the kids know where they have gone?

wobblyweebles · 07/04/2014 20:48

It's a lot cheaper without the kids.

Albertatata · 07/04/2014 20:50

My SIL did this went to on honeymoon to eurodisney and left their children with grandparents - weird, very weird.

FanFuckingTastic · 07/04/2014 20:51

I went on holiday to Florida without the kids and did all the themeparks, at the moment they are you and wouldn't appreciate the rollercoasters. I hope to take them in the future though, but I would go back again by myself, it's a different kind of holiday when it's adults only.

FreudiansSlipper · 07/04/2014 20:51

there are far worse things a parent could do

why is it such an issue for you

adoptmama · 07/04/2014 20:54

MN is like a whole other weird universe.

You really give a shit where someone else goes on holiday or honeymoon - with or with out their kids?

And you give enough of a shit to start a thread wondering if YABU?

Stand in judgement much?

FFS

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 07/04/2014 20:55

Well I think it's very mean to go to Disney without your DCs! Unless you have to go to Florida for work or something & go to Disney on your day off.

It's not something I, nor anyone I know, would ever do.

Mintyy · 07/04/2014 20:55

For those who don't understand, go back and rtft. Many people have explained really articulately why they can understand op's desire to delete this friend from FB. What op is saying is that the friend has done something so completely outside her sphere of comprehension that she does not feel she knows her any more. It is not the same as child abuse and it is not the same as going to McDonalds without your kids. Obviously.

tulipsaredelicious · 07/04/2014 20:56

She sounds highly annoying. I wouldn't delete her because it may cause problems later, but I'd definitely hide her updates.

Mintyy · 07/04/2014 20:58

Adoptmama - the fact that so many people think op is not being unreasonable just goes to show the Mumsnet is not a weird parallel universe - there are plenty here who can see exactly what she is saying.

  1. It is odd to want to go on honeymoon to fucking Disneyland! FFS? who DOES that.
  1. It is even odder to do that when you have children but you don't take them with you.
  1. It is beyond strange that this is not the first time you have done it.
StrawberryCheese · 07/04/2014 20:59

I know a couple who went to Disney world on their honeymoon... along with both sets of parents. Now that is odd.

SirChenjin · 07/04/2014 21:02

MN is only a weird other universe when people disagree with you.

Otoh, going on honeymoon to Disney (after you've already been) sans kids (ditto) is actually weird.

BillyBanter · 07/04/2014 21:03

I don't think it's odd to go to Disneyland without kids. I did. On account of not having kids. I went with someone who got married there, without kids! Adults are allowed to enjoy Disneyland! Or do we all have to turn into joyless black holes where fun goes to die? Or only be spectators past the age of 20?

I do think going to Disneyland without your kids who have never been is mean as fuck though.

adoptmama · 07/04/2014 21:04

Sorry, why the hell is it weird to want to go to Disneyland on honeymoon? Lots of adults like theme parks, rollercoasters etc. No it wouldn't be my first choice of destination, but I would stand in judgement and condem someone as 'weird' because they wanted to do that. The fact Disney offer honeymoon packagers kind of shows it is not that weird a thing to do.

It is not odd to leave your children at home when you go on honeymoon. It would - I think - be a little weirder to take them since it is a honeymoon, not a family holiday.

It is not beyond strange for a mother to have a holiday - or honeymoon - away from her kids. Nor is it strange to go back to a destination you have previously enjoyed.

If she and her husband enjoy it, why does that make them weird? I find people who go bird watching weird. And trainspotters. And ballroom dancers too. I'm rather put off by morris dancers, WI ladies and people who like to camp in the lake district. However, to paraphrase Voltaire, I defend their right to do so.

candycoatedwaterdrops · 07/04/2014 21:04

All parents, take note: you should never do anything or go anywhere that your kids might enjoy without your kids.

Mintyy · 07/04/2014 21:04

We're going to have to agree to disagree but I do actually think it is odd to want to go to Disneyland as an adult. Of all the places in the world etc...

Mintyy · 07/04/2014 21:05

Oh don't be silly Candy.

Sparklysilversequins · 07/04/2014 21:05

Going to Disney as an adult is not weird because it's great. Going without your dc who are the perfect age to enjoy it IS weird and mean and selfish.

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