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Original poster

Seriously why would you send someone this?

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NCOBVIOUSLY1542 · 07/04/2014 01:30

NC as this may out me.

So today I've received loads a inboxes on Facebook from LO's dad. I blocked his account and he made another one same name, picture, info etc.

He stated that he would take me back to court just to see me even go to the contact centre just to see me and he doesn't want to see my son, admitted to making up things which he is going to use in court. I ignored him he wished me dead, stated i deserved the beating i got as i should of just done as he said.

I than got email from his loon of an ex stating this;

"You need to leave XXXXX alone! He's my boyfriend, he doesn't want you or your fucking inbred skanky child he chose me and you need to deal with it. I don't want you to fucking talk to him ever again you stupid cunt.
If I here that you have been ringing/texting/facebooking him again you'll wish you and skanky cunt of a child where dead in a ditch.

He hates you, he hates your child I'm warning you leave him alone if you think you're life has been hell now wait until I get involved with you.

Now just fucking disappear you dirty trampy cunt"

I mean they're both 36-40 years old. I'm at least 15 years younger than them.

People fucking baffle Confused me however I will be using this in court. Hmm

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Kormachameleon · 07/04/2014 01:32

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HuskyBlueEyes · 07/04/2014 01:32

Aibu is.? Or you venting? :) They sound wonderful. Utter delights OP.

Monty27 · 07/04/2014 01:33

I'd get a court order. For both of them.

Yambabe · 07/04/2014 01:36

what Korma said, that is harassment.

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NCOBVIOUSLY1542 · 07/04/2014 01:36

I'm venting. The police have already dealt with them for harassment for the past 2 years but they go speak to them, they deny everything because they've deleted it and say i've sat there and made the whole thing up and then get a verbal warning and are told next time or every fucking time after they'll be arrested they've been round 15 times since the first time Hmm.

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Yambabe · 07/04/2014 01:39

but you have kept the screenshots and or/text right? Hmm If there is evidence the police have to act. If they don't, start a complaint......

Vintagecakeisstillnice · 07/04/2014 01:39

Screen shots

Double save everything

Report to police.

Be aware she isn't going to believe a word of it being him contacting you. So until you stamp on it, it will carry on.

Beside who the fuck talks about a child like that?

Vintagecakeisstillnice · 07/04/2014 01:42

Ok xposted

Screen shots still and if the same happens re: them denying police saying you're word against them ask to be pased on to both their DV unit and their computer crimes unit. And any refusal/ issue take higher.

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NCOBVIOUSLY1542 · 07/04/2014 01:44

Yeah I have screen shots so if he takes me to court I can prove it. He'll just deny it though.

I've had evidence where he admitted to sitting outside my parents old house all night looking through the windows, having people follow me round and then he'd tell me where I was going, what I was wearing, who i was with etc. The police went round and told him not to do it again, not to contact me ever again and to stay away from my friends, family, property etc. or he'd be arrested. That lasted a week before they went round to say the same thing again.

I'm just immune to their BS now it's just boring

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Original poster
NCOBVIOUSLY1542 · 07/04/2014 01:48

What can the computer crime do Confused what if it was sent via there phone or not his home computer?

If he takes me to court I can get a harassment order

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AnnieMaybe · 07/04/2014 02:04

Are they drinkers?

Your question is why would anyone send someone this

He is a violent men who is probably pissed off you no longer take his crap

His ex who is now is girlfriend is insecure and views his attention towards you (even abusive attention) a threat.

As pp have said screen shot everything for evidence.

It sounds like you are well shot of him and his 'lady'

lottieandmia · 07/04/2014 02:10

Definitely get the police involved. They have threatened you - they need a restraining order IMO!

What awful people. You need to protect yourself and your son.

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NCOBVIOUSLY1542 · 07/04/2014 02:15

Yeah they're drinkers no surprisingly!

It was all sent over Facebook so screens shotted the page but I know they'll deny it and say it wasn't them/fake account/me etc it's what they do every time and I can't prove they sent it despite knowing it was them Hmm

The worst of it was they want their own baby Confused They're horrid!

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AnnieMaybe · 07/04/2014 02:24

Could you change your facebook name?

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NCOBVIOUSLY1542 · 07/04/2014 02:26

That's what I'm gonna do AnnieMaybe or just delete the thing, I barely use it and only have a handful of people on there I actually speak to in real life

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Pobblewhohasnotoes · 07/04/2014 04:01

Have you got your fb set to private so only the people you're friends with can see it? Change your last name to something random and don't have a profile pic of yourself.

They sound hideous.

rabbitlady · 07/04/2014 07:32

police need to know. you've had threats of violence against your child.

AnotherSpinningFuckingRainbow · 07/04/2014 07:38

I agree with the other posters, please do call the police. This is horrendous behaviour and they need to be stopped.

PorkPieandPickle · 07/04/2014 07:53

I was sent harassing messages via FB from my coolent ex, and the police did not just dismiss it it as a fake account they took it very seriously, as they should.
You do not have to wait for him to take you to court for the possibility of a harassment order.
The police took it very seriously with me, and the messages were less threatening.

Nennypops · 07/04/2014 08:09

I'm sure the police could trace this back to them if they put a bit of effort into it. Can you take it to someone more senior and insist on them doing something effective?

Tessdurbevilliespoon · 07/04/2014 08:52

Make sure to date/time screen shots and then leave facebook

gamerchick · 07/04/2014 09:00

screen shot everything and save it in email and to your PC. Then block the latest names. Ramp up your security settings so you're hidden from the internet search bit and change one of your names to a nickname. He won't be able to find you then.

Then you have the proof if he takes you to court and show you've taken every step to hide your online life from him.

He sounds like the same personality to my ex.. just won't leave you alone and the new girlfriend is triumphant having won the 'prize' and likes to say allsorts about you.

That is until they end up like my exs girlfriend 4 years in and on pills to cope because she can't get rid of him.

DownstairsMixUp · 07/04/2014 09:04

Keep reporting. Saying it's fake they should investigate it further surely and see where the messages are coming from? Everyone would get away with facebook harassing then if everyone just said it was fake.

MiniSoksMakeHardWork · 07/04/2014 09:31

Surely their computer crime division would be able to trace the messages to an IP address, which would at least be a start in getting them shut down completely from harassing you.

Continue to report and say you are in fear for the safety of you and your child due to the threats made. Don't let it lie until you get them stopped.

goodasitgets · 07/04/2014 09:42

Change your message settings too - put it so nobody but friends can message you

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