Not eating there

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Long story short. It was a friends birthday and she invited 15 of us to a local pub for lunch. She had reserved us tables. As soon as I arrived the manger said to me.... 'We need your tables' there are other people coming after you. I asked her what time she needed us out (baring in mind we had booked) and she refused to give a time, instead saying 'I'm sending the bar manger up to speak to everyone'. Wibu at this point, to flounce off and not order a meal as I felt under time pressure and treated badly. Gutted as had not seen my mates for ages. They later came around to the house and apparently the woman treated them like that too. They were annoyed too. We were spending a couple of hundred quid there probably.....

ywbu - but a good way to make your friends birthday all about you

Lollerskates - I couldn't agree more!
I have been known to mutter 'good' under my breath as people flounce!

You were late. The pub had another sitting to accommodate. And you were bloody rude by the sound of it.

Yes rollerskates!!

OP i m surprised you still have friends tbh. Did they really come to your house after that? I wouldn't.

Had your friends already ordered, or were they delayed by you? If they had ordered, your additional orders would have messed up the group; if they waited for you then your flounce will have annoyed and/or embarrassed them.

One small child and twenty minutes late? You are that couple that everyone talks about. Next time they'll lie to you about the reservation timing, or not invite you at all.

YABVU. It's a business, they can't centre their entire day around you.

would have loved to see you flounse off. Did you even go over to acknowledge your friends or did you leave them there to think you'd stood them up?

You were gutted because you hadn't seen your friends for ages?

Well you shouldn't have stomped off like a spoiled child and been the bigger person and sat down like a grown up with your friends.
If you didn't like the way you were spoken to then you should have complained to the manager. But TBH I don't think the staff member was being unreasonable in stating that they needed your table as soon as possible on an obviously busy on a Sunday Lunchtime.

You were the one that was 20 mins late so am assuming everyone was waiting for you before ordering. 20 minutes matters in a busy restaurant especially when they are catering for a large number of people in the group.

I'm assuming you would have sat there meekly eating your food with British stiff upper lip mentality and handed over your hard earned cash to a manger who had just been horrid to you.

Well if meant spending time with my friends who I hadn't seen for ages or helping birthday friend celebrate her day ....then yes I would.

I'm assuming you would have sat there meekly eating your food with British stiff upper lip mentality and handed over your hard earned cash to a manger who had just been horrid to you

No, I would have turned up on time. That way there would have been no need for the manager to "be horrid" to me, ie point out the glaringly obvious.

Actually no bordello, I would have had the courtesy to my friend and the restaurant to get there on time. If I was unavoidably running late, I'd have let my friends know and likely asked them to order for me to avoid holding everything up and spoiling the birthday.

From the way you have posted, I assume you were pretty rude to the restaurant staff when you waltzed in late.

"horrid" ? Oh grow up.

And try finding your manners and being punctual in future.

And what's the "stiff upper lip" crap got to do with it? You don't have the right to storm about making a fuss when you're the one who's in the wrong. Keeping your mouth shut because you know you haven't got a leg to stand on is nothing to do with having a "stiff upper lip."

I'm assuming you would have sat there meekly eating your food with British stiff upper lip mentality and handed over your hard earned cash to a manger who had just been horrid to you

I don't know about anyone else but I would have apologised to my friend for my lateness, acknowledged that a twenty minute delay was my fault and not the restaurants, sat with the group and ordered along with them, and then handed over my 'hard earned cash' for the food and service.

If the manager was really terrible, I would have complained. I certainly would not have thrown a diva strop at my friend's celebration.

Yes, you are being unreasonable and I think you owe your friends an apology. What a childish and thoughtless way to behave at someone's birthday outing.

You sound about five years old OP. You turned up late which is extremely rude to your friend and then flounced off. If I was your friend I wouldn't be inviting you anywhere again.

"I'm assuming you would have sat there meekly eating your food with British stiff upper lip mentality and handed over your hard earned cash to a manger who had just been horrid to you"

Still sounding rather childish.

You're not coming across as a nice or reasonable person. Everyone else managed to get there on time.

I'm guessing you're the sort of person who'd be the first to complain if you reserved at a rest arrant and were kept hanging about waiting for 20 mins.

So were your friends all sat there waiting for you to show up then? They all had to delay their meal for you? What a spoilt brat. Everyone has to wait for you but you are the one pissed off. And I hate the entitlement.
Had the manager given your friends a hard time too?

I'm waiting for the AIBU thread about someone whose birthday dinner was ruined by a friend turning up late, having a row with the manager and then flouncing off.

These replies are making me laugh. I'm assuming everyone whose saying WIBU has never been 20 minutes late for anything, ever. I turned up, gave the birthday girl her presents, wished her happy birthday but then felt so upset and tearful, I didn't want to draw attention to myself by crying (horrid manageress had reduced me to tears) therefore it was the least attention grabbing thing to do to slip away.

If you're telling guests you want their seat before they've even sat down to eat, you're way too greedy a business owner IMHO.

If you knew me you would know I'm not diva ish or princess like at all.

Haha don't leave without paying when you're the one who booked! Not the sharpest tool in the box your mate

And also, a thief.

I am boggled by the couple who left without paying. Ermagerd.