to think my dh should not have informed via a text that he had bought a car and he was going to be late from work because him and his dad were picking it up.

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At that I tried to ring him but he didn't answer. We have no money at all I pointed out via text. His parents were lending him it. Where's the car I texted because I couldn't get through to him. A hundred miles away. His dad was taking him and he would drive the car back! What!!!!!????!!! Was my response. What's the problem was his. My problem was this was the very first I had heard of any car loan of money or anything. Nothing had been discussed with me at all at ANY point. Aibu to feel so incredulous shocked and angry that my h thought it was acceptable way to inform me that a car was being bought. He came home late and annoyed that I rang his parents and said thanks but no thanks re the car etc as I didn't know anything about this!

Depend on circumstances imo...

do you have seperate money?

did you know he was searching for s car to buy?

Is it a family purchase or just his?

We don't have seperate money. We have a car and we though a second car would be nice we are currently a hundred pound over drawn we regularly are. We have no money!

Meant although a second car would be nice and handy...

How is he paying for petrol home? Insurance etc?

jeez! i would be absolutely fuming!!!

does he do this kind of thing often? did he get the car in the end or not?

How much was the car?

Surely if his Dad is lending him the money, it's not such a bad thing.

I think he should maybe have told you, but I think you were BU by calling his parents and saying no.

Exactly! That's why I tried to point out last night. But I just got a torrent of abuse and shouting at. He's bombarding me with phone calls and text messages today :(

205 and tax and mot runs out next week

Sorry meant next month. No he didn't get the car.

£205 a month?

I had to call his parents as I,needed to find out what on earth was going on and he wasn't answering his phone

No 205 tax and mot runs out next month

What's he saying in his messages today ?

205 in total!!

i think it's still a big issue even if his dad is lending the money!

it's not ok to just decide on a big financial purchase with ongoing costs by yourself.

if they are regularly overdrawn then how is he planning on running a second car?? what about fuel etc?

and tbh for £205 i think he should be very wary of picking something up that is going to end up needing a LOT of work doing to it

Things like I don't trust his judgement ringing me up and saying my parents interfere too much and that's why I said no. Err I can actually think for myself and I didn't even speak them about it!!!

A £205 car? Can't see that's going to pass mot next week - it must be pretty much scrap!

And that's exactly what I said cakey!

Mot next month sorry a typo earlier. But yes agreed totally!

Well unless you're a mechanic and know about cars buying a car 1 month before MOT runs out is silly.

Hmm....not sure you have a right to call his parents and tell them what he can and can't do.

Agree he should have spoke to you and told you his plans, and how he plans to pay it back but I think you're reacting a bit over the top.

Would you mind scrimping to have a second car or is it just because of the way he told you?

Yes we can barely afford one car how on earth could we afford two? I pointed all that to him last night.

If I could have spoken to him on the phone I would not have spoken to his parents

you were being rude calling his parents and telling them you dont want the car - they didnt offer it to you, they offered it to their son.

you dont say how much the car cost, tbh irrelevent, or if you need to pay them back.

do your parents interfere?

Even if your DH was daft enough to buy A £205 car. Surely ur father in law would have ha the sense to make him look for something better.
Fwiw I'd have done what u did if he was refusing to answer my calls. What's he bombarding u with today?