to think my dh should not have informed via a text that he had bought a car and he was going to be late from work because him and his dad were picking it up.

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At that I tried to ring him but he didn't answer. We have no money at all I pointed out via text. His parents were lending him it. Where's the car I texted because I couldn't get through to him. A hundred miles away. His dad was taking him and he would drive the car back! What!!!!!????!!! Was my response. What's the problem was his. My problem was this was the very first I had heard of any car loan of money or anything. Nothing had been discussed with me at all at ANY point. Aibu to feel so incredulous shocked and angry that my h thought it was acceptable way to inform me that a car was being bought. He came home late and annoyed that I rang his parents and said thanks but no thanks re the car etc as I didn't know anything about this!

No not particularly. Yes we would need to pay them back . Infact he has always said he would NEVER borrow money from them again. He has in the past and they hold you to it and do not let it drop and go and on until its paid in full. And he has just texted me and said sorry I should have discussed it with you. :'(

He's just sent another text saying you've not replied did you get my text!

A car for £205?! Is he expecting an engine in it?!

Christ. He has acted like a dick.

At least he has apologised.

No you don't need to pay them back. HE needs to pay them back. HE needs to get another job to cover the costs of HIS car.

He is totally bonkers buying a car with only a months worth of MOT. What will happen if he gets it MOT's and they tell him basically it's a danger!

Is he usually this impulsive and silly?

The car cost £205??????????? Fucking hell, so no chance of it passing that MOT then!

I agree. If he chose to go off and borrow money without asking then it's his responsibility to pay it back. If His parents go on and on at you just point out that you werent the one to borrow it ans knew nothing about it

YANBU. He basically spent the family money (because he, or should I say the two of you as a family, will have to pay his parents back, it wasn't a gift) on something you'll struggle to afford to run, without chatting it through with you first. You're a married couple, struggling with money, so what he has to spend ultimately affects the family and he needs to remember that.

I bet the insurance was more than the car??!! madness

He didn't actually buy it by the way. I get the impression some people think he did