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AIBU?

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AIBU to have said 'excuse me please, can I just get to the toilet roll?' In the supermarket?

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17leftfeet · 03/04/2014 12:24

Older couple, woman pottering down the aisle looking at stuff, man parks himself and his trolley in front of the toilet roll so I politely asked to get past him and he said

'When my wife has finished looking and I can move I will, in this country young lady we do something called waiting our turn!'

Wtf?

For one thing I'm 35
Where did the 'in this country' bit come from since I am British
His wife was a good 3m away so moving a foot so I can pick up some toilet roll wasn't unreasonable was it???

I don't get supermarket etiquette

OP posts:

feathermucker · 03/04/2014 13:13

You were so not BU!!!

Poii.....

LadyMaryLikesCake · 03/04/2014 13:14

Makes me wonder what evils my 14 year old ds has done in his short life, 17leftfeet

TheLastNameLeft · 03/04/2014 13:15

Should have put ten tubes of pile cream in his trolley LOL

Rude man and Grr at supermarket behaviour in general really, I DETEST food shopping but I'm far too snobby to get it done online (I like naice ham)

Beastofburden · 03/04/2014 13:22

last do 98% of it online and get naice ham at the deli.

I use Ocado and I would only go to Waitrose anyway so I get my ham online.

I now have a picture of all the little electrons barging other ppls electrons out of the way when I do my online shop. My Ocado avatar might be a complete monster, who knows?

Beastofburden · 03/04/2014 13:23

(When I say I would only go- I don't mean, I wouldn't consider anywhere else; I mean, I couldn't get round to anything more complicated in search of naice ham)

stackablegoatbearingcheesecake · 03/04/2014 13:24

Very rude man. I'd have been shocked but like to think I'd have said 'Actually people born and bred in this country value good manners and like to afford some common courtesy. Where are you from?'

By that I don't mean other nationalities aren't polite, just a way of countering his strange remark.

LucilleBluth · 03/04/2014 13:24

I would have given my condolences to his wife for marrying such a twat......and then smirked whilst I walked off.

LadyMaryLikesCake · 03/04/2014 13:26

I recon it's a robotic hand suspended from the roof. I love Ocado because Waitrose won't deliver here I hate the supermarket (well, not quite, it's the people who block the isles that get on my tits. I'm usually tolerant but 20 odd years of shopping has taken it's toll on my sanity), hence why I go when it's quiet.

pianodoodle · 03/04/2014 13:28

'When my wife has finished looking and I can move I will, in this country young lady we do something called waiting our turn!'

"So sorry I didn't realise you needed your wife's permission to move."

Beastofburden · 03/04/2014 13:28

I haven't done a supermarket shop since 1998 . Not a proper one.

LadyMaryLikesCake · 03/04/2014 13:31

You know they are going to charge people for plastic bags?

Maybe he's well under the wife's thumb and could only move with her say so? I think he was a twat.

MichonnesSamuraiSword · 03/04/2014 13:32

OP you are so not BU.

I'm 35, and if someone had called me "Young Lady" I think I would have looked like this

What an arse. He's one of those people that slags off 'the youth of today', and thinks that any teenager in a hoodie is out to get him, isn't he.

Rest assured he spends his life complaining and feeling grumpy about everything at all times.

I did my last ever Tescos shop last week. After trudging around for hours in the evening, then choosing the world's slowest checkout assistant who checked his phone in between scanning each and every item, DP announced "right, that's the last time we EVER do that. Online all the way from now on". Hooorraaaay!

Beastofburden · 03/04/2014 13:34

Good. Far too much packaging and plastic baggery in the world already. Ocado take mine away and recycle them and even that irritates me. if I had the time I would buy stuff loose, so far as I could (veg and so forth, not flour )

ComposHat · 03/04/2014 13:35

YABU you should have phrased it 'oi coffin dodger, move your geriatric arse so I can get some bum wad. Fuck you very much. '

pianodoodle · 03/04/2014 13:39

Sorry to derail - last night at Tesco I stood at the lottery counter waiting to be served while staff had a chat/were doing something. They don't even acknowledge you're there or say "I'll be with you in a minute"

Then went to pharmacy counter...Same thing! Stood feeling stupid while the woman (who was right in front of me and knew I was there) looked at a clipboard for a few minutes before looking up to see what I wanted.

So I went to the self service till with a few bits on the way out. Red light comes on (unexpected item bollocks). Staff member that's supposed to come and help is standing slack-jawed looking out the window...

LadyMaryLikesCake · 03/04/2014 13:40

You should have gone to Waitrose, piano.

Xenadog · 03/04/2014 13:44

He sounds like an absolute nutter. I think I would have just laughed at him and then leant over him for the loo roll. He was lacking manners so I think I would just have given him a taste of his own medicine.

angelinajelly · 03/04/2014 13:52

I'm 38, and was addressed as "young lady" in a shop recently. I'd love to say I gave the (younger than me) shop assistant an informative and educational lecture on the wrongness of this. Unfortunately I just did my best Paddington Bear hard stare and muttered and glowered until it was time to stomp out of the shop.

Wickeddevil · 03/04/2014 14:04

Wow did he mean to be so rude?

Can I just borrow your thread to rant about people who shop in pairs or groups. Its food shopping not entertainment or a group activity.
Why cant you just go by yourselves and hurry up? Grumble grumble.

MichonnesSamuraiSword · 03/04/2014 14:11

I drag my DP with me because it makes the job easier. It's like a military operation, he knows exactly what his orders are, he goes off to find specifics while i'm doing other stuff, and we get through quicker.

Also way easier at the checkout - I can start packing while he's still loading. If I go alone, this bit stresses me out!!

So no, it's not entertainment its bloody torture but it's a necessary evil that gets done quicker if you have help!

summertimeandthelivingiseasy · 03/04/2014 14:16

I think it is this man who does not know supermarket etiquette.

Aren't you supposed to ask nicely/apologise profusely, whether or not it is anyone's turn, or whether it is of any relevance at all?

limitedperiodonly · 03/04/2014 14:21

How long did he make you wait? Or did you wander off and come back later?

Not everyone keeps you waiting. I was walking down the steps at the station last night and there was a woman in front of me at the bottom struggling with her wheely case that she couldn't get straight.

There was no train coming so I waited until she sorted herself out. Her husband barked at her: 'Will you just hurry up and get out of people's way?'

I told him it was okay.

InAGrump · 03/04/2014 15:36

I give people about 20 seconds before saying "excuse me" and reaching over.

If you want to dawdle, put your trolley somewhere else and stand a couple of steps back whilst you browse

CathyAnnis · 03/04/2014 16:06

Cheeky sod! He was being unreasonable, you were being polite!

Maybe his wife had been henpecking him and he didn't dare retaliate cos she'd make his life a misery all day if he answered her back, then you came along and gave him a chance to vent?

And I'm getting to the stage now where 'young lady' would make my day!

Rissolesfortea · 03/04/2014 16:20

I think YABU for the reference to an older couple, I am "older" and it gives me the rage when a complete family of 2 parents and 2/3 children stand side by side in front of the shelves with trolley alongside therefore taking up nearly half the length of the aisle discussing which brand to buy.

Yes, he was BU for not moving and stating that you had to queue until his wife gave him permission to move.

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