AIBU to have said 'excuse me please, can I just get to the toilet roll?' In the supermarket?

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Older couple, woman pottering down the aisle looking at stuff, man parks himself and his trolley in front of the toilet roll so I politely asked to get past him and he said

'When my wife has finished looking and I can move I will, in this country young lady we do something called waiting our turn!'

Wtf?

For one thing I'm 35
Where did the 'in this country' bit come from since I am British
His wife was a good 3m away so moving a foot so I can pick up some toilet roll wasn't unreasonable was it???

I don't get supermarket etiquette

Some people just like to try and humiliate others. That's what makes them happy. Sad but true.

I think some of you may need your own private supermarkets, with no-one else in them except for yourselves!

What a funny thread!

(Poii - not nice)

poli, WTF?

I'd have started singing loudly to pass the time while waiting...

'I know a song that'll get on your nerves, get on your nerves, get on your nerves... I know a song that'll get on your nerves, get, get, get on your nerves. EVERYBODY! I know a song that'll get on your nerves???'

Or... 'Im Henry the eighth I am, I am, I'm Henry the eighth I am...'

Basically anything with many repetitions...

Uncalled for poii

God, if everyone had this attitude it would be a shitter getting around the supermarket!

He was a twat, OP.

"I'm afraid you've misunderstood.

In this country, 'waiting your turn' applies to queuing etiquette and not to 'you're in my way' etiquette."

I think this situation requires the Mary Poppins approach.
Step closer to the offender, stare at him beadily through narrowed eyes, then enquire, "I'm sorry, are you ill?"

Right, ignoring poii's comment for a minute and just dealing with the OP - it all depends on how things were done. There is a huge difference between politely asking someone to move a little away from something they are not even looking at, to enable you to pick it up, and rudely reaching across you or pushing in front to get to something you are choosing yourself (think reduced item shelf at about 9pm ).

If it was definitely more the first scenario than the second then YANBU.

Having asked politely you can then push the trolley aside.

You might have said something about it being an appropriate spot to find an arse.

"This isn't a queue. In this country we have the manners to show consideration to others and not stand doing nothing when we are in people's way"

Poli what a nasty comment. Was the man disabled OP ? and waiting for his wife to come and push him or was he just insisting on waiting till his wife (gave him permission to or) moved ?

Getting around the supermarket is pretty much a shitter on a good day, LadyMary.

I don't agree that he was being particularly "twattish" by being in the way, maybe for the comments he made, then yes, but not just by being in the way. OP could have simply waited her turn. Did she HAVE to have the toilet rolls at that precise moment? Could she not have gone off to another aisle to make another selection and return to the toilet rolls in five or ten minutes? As many of us may have done.

Hilarious discussion. Am I really the only one to think this?

Hmm, you're in Manchester, so this can't have been my dad.
Plus, by DM now won't take him shopping, as he is so rude.

From his pov, he can hardly walk (he holds the trolley for support), he is in constant pain, and he is very hard of hearing. It's entirely possible that someone could have said something my DF who would have assumed it was rude, and would reply accordingly. This is not a defence btw, it is horrid how he has become so rude in recent years. Not sure if it the start of dementia or similar.

Was he from Yorkshire though? If so, his batteries must have run down, because we all know they all go on about being from Yorkshire all the time.

I either ask them to move or reach for whatever I want as long as I am not going right across them. People that live and die in a particular aisle really annoy me. I did wonder if a woman wanted to actually buy up all the eggs or marry them she took so long. Yes there were a few choices but crikey.

Same with the Wayne and Waynetta slob double act who lived and died by the biscuits (doing a good job of putting off people ever buying biscuits again just at the sight of them).

It doesn't matter if he was disabled or not, it's a vile comment. Disability isn't anything to do with 'god paying you back'

Trick is to go very early in the morning, Evans (or shop online)

That was an extremely bizarre post from poii, with no relevance to the OP at all.

I am white -no idea where the comment came from unless he considers Manchester to be foreign!

Well I suppose I am in Yorkshire!

I didn't say anything back I was too busy standing there with my mouth wide open

tbh I am more likely to have said, "hello, lovely day/how are you finding this pollution; do you have loads to get; yes I am just popping in before I pick up the kids; oh could you pass me some loo roll please?"

cos I am British and hate confrontation

I think poii assumed "trolley" and "parked" to mean disability scooter, whereas I think the OP meant normal shopping trolley and parking his arse right in the way

unacceptable comment and I hope she never meets my disabled DC as she will assume they have been up to all sorts in their short lives to get that way.

Aah - if only I could be so organised, LadyMary. Not an early morning person, but sometimes manage online. I do like to poke the produce though, and shove people out of my way - tee hee

I drop ds off at school at 8:45 and am in the supermarket before 9. It's bliss as it's practically empty (which is fab as I'm fairly antisocial at 9am )

Why did my post just randomly reappear?

He wasn't disabled but I am so thanks for that comment poii I feel so much better now that I know it's divine retribution! he wouldn't have known though as I can walk quite well with a shopping trolley

To clarify, I'm from Manchester but live in Yorkshire
He wasn't browsing, just waiting for his wife
And on reflection, was just down right odd