Surely the sensible solution would be to not make small children go to school?
My ds has just started nursery in Sweden, for the last 2 weeks I have been going with him to help him settle in, it has been such an eye opening experience to see how they "teach" the children and what is expected of the children.
Ds is in a group where the age range is 1-4 years, the older group has an age range of 4-7.
In many ways they children are treated the same as adults, the food they eat is the same that adults would eat, no bland kids food. Ds had broccoli soup with crusty bread today, yeasterday he had quinoa and roasted veg with cheese. They are given china plates and real glasses, they have candles lit in the middle of the table to make it feel cosy. In contrast to this the children all get help getting dressed/undressed to go outside and they nap/rest after lunch.
there is no formal teaching as such, they make pictures with crayons but there is no pen holding training and not a hint of letter forming even with the older kids. The children are trusted with tools, they do woodwork and needle work.
The children spend more than half of the day outside regardless of weather, they are just allowed to play.
The 2, 3 and 4 year olds know the names of all the birds who come and sit in the trees whilst they eat their snack, they know which birds migrate and which birds mate for life. The 4 other kids in my ds's group each seem to have a personal passion that they talk about lots, one girl is obsessed with owls, she knows everything there is to know about owls, one boy is very interested in languages, he insists on saying bye bye to ds in a different language each day, one boy is interested in fashion, he likes to wear dresses and he matches his slippers to his outfit (he has special pink sparkly slippers for when he is wearing a dress because you must wear fancy slippers when wearing a dress).
The children are so kind to each other, they see themselves as a little family. they call my ds "our new baby" and they are so excited when he comes in the morning.
The older kids go on adventures around the nature reserve that the nursery is located in every friday, they build a fire and cook their lunch on it and then make dens and chase leaves and spot animals.They spend their days ice skating and sledging in the winter and making dens/doing plays/ growing flowers and veg in the summer.
The teachers are so kind and affectionate with the children, they cuddle them and kiss them, stroke their hair and touch their faces.
Part of the preschool curriculum in Sweden is that the child has the right to decide for themself, the children are encoraged to make their own decisions and if there is some silly behaviour it is ignored unless it is hurting someone or dangerous.
I saw the older kids enjoying their friday afternoon bonfire last week, it was one of those glorious early spring days, warm sunshine, clear blue sky, lots of wind. The leaves were newly defrosted and blowing all over the place, some of the kids were leaping up in the air collecting them and taking them into the dens they had built to make beds for themselves as they were bears just waking up from hibination, some of the kids were spotting spring flowers, a couple of the kids were sat on their teacher's knee having a cuddle the kids looked so happy and uninhibited. it crossed my mind that non of these kids could read or write, they have never sat in a classroom enviroment, in the UK all of those children would be in classroom bassed education every day, the older kids would have been in school for 3 years already.
I don't understand what the rush is to get children who are not much more than toddlers "school ready." Surely the focus should be on ensuring that children feel secure, happy, loved and respected, everything else will come naturally with an engaged and commited carer.
I started reception at 4 and 2 weeks, little things like I was too little to sit properly on the big chair and I weed in my pants because I didn't know how to undo dungarees and I wasn't allowed to sit on my teacher's knee even if I was upset or feeling ill made school a not very nice place to go.
Sweden does better educationally that the UK and more importantly studies have shown that Swedish kids are happier.