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Original poster

H took DS (age7) to the pub til 9.30pm

29 replies

bullinthesea · 03/04/2014 07:24

That's it really, I'm still fuming.
We had a discussion beforehand & I asked him to make sure DS didn't have a late night.
AIBU?

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HowContraryMary · 03/04/2014 07:26

Personally I don't like children in pubs.
Children and alcohol are just a no-no in my eyes
9.30 is far too late on a school night for a 7yo.

But was it a carvery meal? or just poked in a corner with a book whilst he drank with his mates? Because there is a big difference in those two scenarios too.

Hulababy · 03/04/2014 07:29

What type of pub?
What was the reason for the visit?
What did he do there?
Weekend or school night?

JeanSeberg · 03/04/2014 07:30

Watching a footy match?

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 03/04/2014 07:31

Yes, need more details. What time does DS usually go to bed?

BeverleyMoss · 03/04/2014 07:31

Being a school night would be my only problem with this.

TruffleOil · 03/04/2014 07:32

Isn't it a school holiday? Did your son drink beer? I don't see the big deal.

Fifyfomum · 03/04/2014 07:33

Seriously the kid probably had a great time. You remember experiences like that for a lifetime he is binding with his dad

tripecity · 03/04/2014 07:33

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EmmaGellerGreen · 03/04/2014 07:35

Well, it depends on what type of pub, what ds was doing, what was going on around him. If it was a nice meal and he was either engaged in conversation, reading, playing outside in a safe garden, the not a problem. If it was a "drinking pub" and a he was being ignored in an adult environment, then I would not be happy.

Original poster
bullinthesea · 03/04/2014 07:38

It is a carvery pub, but the reason for the visit was to go for a drink with his mate.
DS said that he just sat there playing on the iPad all evening.
I had Pilates last nite, otherwise I'd have looked after DS myself.
He doesn't have school today, but we do have to be up early, as I have work & have to get DS ready to drop off at childminder.

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littlewhitebag · 03/04/2014 07:39

I would think it depends what they were doing there. Meeting friends, eating, watching football on TV I think would be fair enough but getting shit faced not so good. Is DS not on holiday now?

MikeLitoris · 03/04/2014 07:40

I take my DC for a pub meal until at least 9.30 about once a month and have done for years (13 and 10yo) They get up for school the next day without issue.

I assume your H is Ds dad? If so can he not make choices on what time his son needs to be home? I would not appreciate my dp dictating to me what time I had to get my Dc home and in bed. We are both parents.

I assume it for the football last night? Did ds enjoy it?

littlewhitebag · 03/04/2014 07:41

I assume this is your DP not an ex? He looked after him so you could go to Pilates then you complain when he take a him out for a little while in the holidays. If he was doing it every week and your DS was suffering then I could see why you would be angry but as a one off I would let it go.

TruffleOil · 03/04/2014 07:43

Surely you've been out with a friend and left your son to be amused by an Ipad while you chatted? It's the kind of imperfect thing that most of us do.

Original poster
bullinthesea · 03/04/2014 07:44

Ok, yes H is ds's father.
DS hates football, so it wasn't for ds's benefit whatsoever.
DS normally goes to bed at 7.30pm.
I have enough of a struggle getting him ready in the mornings, never mind if he's had a late night & feeling knackered & grumpy!

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Sirzy · 03/04/2014 07:44

As a one off thing I really don't see the problem as especially given he isn't at school today.

TruffleOil · 03/04/2014 07:52

I wouldn't love dealing with a cranky child the next morning, but that's just life. He's going to have a few late nights. It's most important that he's getting enough sleep overall.

Original poster
bullinthesea · 03/04/2014 07:53

You're probably right, maybe I've overreacted.
It's just that DS won't be able to have a lie in this morning - he has to be up at the usual time, and it's me that has to deal with it!

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RedFocus · 03/04/2014 08:02

Jeez op I really can't see why you are complaining. Your son has no school and even if he has to be up early he can nap at the childminders. It was a family pub not a rave. And your son was looked after and entertained perfectly safely and well.
My 7 year old was out until 12 at my cousins wedding last week! OMG! Once in a blue moon is perfectly fine op chill out! Wink

NigellasDealer · 03/04/2014 08:05

i would think a Wetherspoons type pub til 9.30 to be fine.
i doubt if it was a hard drinking boozer even if such places still exist.

Fifyfomum · 03/04/2014 08:06

The memories will last longer than the tiredness

Original poster
bullinthesea · 03/04/2014 08:08

Yeh, you're right. I've just apologised to H.

OP posts:
TruffleOil · 03/04/2014 08:11

Good on you, bullinthesea. :-)

Original poster
bullinthesea · 03/04/2014 08:18

DS has just told me that he didn't enjoy himself last night, and that he felt lonely.
Not such great memories after all.

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HSMMaCM · 03/04/2014 08:22

Warn the CM he might be tired. Or she'll think he's ill.

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