oh as a single mum, I should think two goats is the norm, isn't it?!
It is depressing to read this thread. The ignorance is astounding, truly and utterly astounding. I could weep. I am a single parent who works full time in a professional role but there was a short time there when I was reliant on benefits because my ex walked out leaving me with nothing at all. It was an awful mess and way, way too many SAHM's haven't a clue just how their lives could implode at any second and what that would mean for them.
I believe single parents should work. I don't believe single parents should work for nothing or be worse off in work than on benefits (and if I earned minimum wage, I would have more money coming in on paper but would be worse off with loss of benefits as a result of the wage and therefore increased outgoings). I also believe that some people need, quite desperately, to examine their own prejudices and start to recognise that it's not acceptable to make assumptions about people based on what the Daily Mail says they know about women like me: I had the misfortune to marry someone who cheated on me. I didn't deserve that. I didn't do anything wrong, it just happened. I worked at my marriage as hard as anyone else but it just didn't work out. I am not young, I have never sat through a full episode of Jezza, I have a Masters degree and professional qualifications. I own my own home and drive a car that's been paid for. My TV isn't flat. My children are not now 'stupid' because their mum is single. They're not 'at risk' because I am single and I can care for them perfectly well. And I don't take kindly to the 'oh, we didn't mean you, you're not the kind of single mum we mean, it's the other type' comments that have been made here. That's just 'victim blaming' by the back door. You slag off single mums, as far as I'm concerned, you're slagging us all off.
Sigh. Sigh. Sigh.