sold something on gumtree, for cash, 10 days ago, AIBU to NOT accept it back?

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have nc'd for this as it is making me feel uneasy

sold one of my old handbags on gumtree, to a girl who lived about 100 miles away. (I say girl, she looked late teens and could drive) about a week and a half ago

it was a designer one, an old Louis Vuitton i had had for about ten years that was quite ugly, was a gift from an ex, and i hated and never used she really wanted it, I offered to send it to her and she could pay by paypal, as I felt bad her coming all that way, but she insisted, oh no its fine, I really want it today

so i said, ok fine. she turned up, was really happy with it and paid cash. I even knocked off £20 off the asking price for her petrol as she was a nice sweet girl and clearly absolutely loved the bag

then today I get a text out of the blue along the lines of "my mum found out I drove all that way to buy the bag, she is not happy with me, she wants me to return it, I am so sorry" etc

I have ignored it so far as tbh for one, I don't want it back, and for 2, I cant afford to pay her back as the reason I was selling it is because I am skint ! I am also 9 months preg and due to give birth any day and don't really need the stress tbh

haven't replied, I don't know what to say to her, I mean how is it my problem if her mum's pissed off with her :o fgs she could drive, so she must be at least 17, she is an adult IMO and it was her choice to buy it I am not a horrible person and I do feel bad as I don't want to cause her problems

aibu to ask for help? what shall I do, shall I reply?? if so what shall I say. eeek.

Actually text her back saying "oh you. Just realised the date! Haha very funny. Tsk!"

You definitely legally don't have to provide a refund. Even in a shop unless the item is faulty they don't have to give refunds.

If she wasn't being abusive I'd say tell her "Sorry no refunds. Sell it on yourself if you want the money back."

As it is say "Stop contacting me or I will contact the police".

Oh good, great minds think alike

It's a good idea buy a cheap PAYG mobile and use that number on sites such as Gumtree, Ebay etc
I also use it when ordering goods, internet shopping blah blah...
I can switch it off and ignore it if needs be knowing my friends and family have my personal mobile number.

I also have a gmail account for use on such sites too. Saves daft spam appearing in my friends and family account

btw YANBU not to refund
She chose to drive all that way, she chose to spend the money. It's not your problem.

Don't feel bad. Even assuming the best motives for her, she needs to accept the consequences and so does her mum. I'm a soft touch but I think the worst that can happen here is she'll learn a lesson about not blowing her cash.

YANBU

No returns.

I do think you should reply once saying no refunds, Tell her you don't know if she just used it for one night and you cannot be sure that you'll get the same bag back. Tell her that she saw the bag and she bought it and maybe she needs to think more carefully about what she can afford.
But I definitely think you should reply once only so she knows without a doubt where she stands.