DH, DD1 (5) , DD2 (3) and I are going to USA to stay at father-in-law's house for a fortnight. We 4 are going to be sleeping in a self contained basement bedsit underneath father-in-law's house. The bedsit has its own ensuite bathroom. The bedsit is not accessible from inside the main house. It has its own entrance from the outside. The house is in a quiet residential area and I believe it is not obvious from the outside of the house that the separate basement bedsit exists.
I have told my DH that when the children go to bed, one or both of us will have to stay in the bedsit with them. He is annoyed because he thought we would be spending the evenings together with his father-in-law up in the main house. Effectively it will mean one or both of us sitting in the dark with the children for the whole evening, perhaps reading with a small light, or going to bed early with them.
DH has suggested that we could stay in the main house but use a baby monitor. However, I am uneasy about this for a number of reasons 1. My instinct simply tells me I should not be leaving them on their own in what is effectively a self contained dwelling. 2. Young children should not be left on their own with access to a bathroom due to risk of drowning (this in my mind is possibly only a theoretical risk as both children are probably sensible enough not to run a bath by themselves/are unlikely to fall down the loo!) 3. If we heard sounds on a monitor that indicated something was amiss eg.sounds of the children in distress or noises of an intruder, would we necessarily be able to reach them in time, as we have to exit the house and go outside and down to the basement?
Please tell me I am not being unreasonable?! Or am I being paranoid?