AIBU to think that single people are jealous of other people with partners and children?

[moomin35]

Am I wrong to think that my siblings who are 5 years older than me (in their early 40's) may be jealous of me because I have a long term partner and baby on the way? They've always been really close but have recently been cutting me out of things more and more. Some people have said they may be jealous but i truley don't know whats at the bottom of it.

[Pagwatch]

Good grief Poogate - was that really necessary?

Op - if things feel odd why not ask. I have siblings. I would just ask 'there seems to be an odd atmosphere. Is something going on - have I upset anyone?'

[Bunbaker]

"I think a lot of people are being a bit harsh on the OP"

I agree. Congratulations moomin35 BTW

[Descalzada]

I'm a single mother. I would never get married now. Too much to lose. (eg, my home, again, so, no thank you to that risk).

I have a lot of married friends and precisely TWO of them have good marriages.

My default assumption is that the vast majority of married women put up with a hell of a lot of drudgery and bullshit just to be married.

[sadiekillmouski]

I know my nights are spent writhing in agony over my unfulfilled shell of a life...

[Bunbaker]

That was nasty butterfly

[shadylane]

God I would love to be single and childless for a year or so.

[JohnFarleysRuskin]

The op has already retracted her original statement...

[Pagwatch]

Jesus Christ.
The op wrote a somewhat self absorbed OP.

Posters throwing personal insults at her, with neither wit or flair, makes them look like deeply unpleasant people.

And the fucking biscuit is supposed to mean you have no comment. So posting a comment ith it isn't exactly brilliant either.

[Descalzada]

moomin maybe your siblings don't like your bf and now you're pregnant by a man they have concerns about.

[Nosleeptillbedtime]

I wasn't jealous of people with kids before I had ds. I was happy for them for having found what they wanted but felt kinda smug about how much better my life was than theirs. I have a friend who assumes all childless people must be miserable and desperate for kids but I think this is a bit patronising. I always assume people have forged the life they want unless they tell me otherwise.

[Serendipity30]

Wow some of the posters here are so nasty, has the OP touched a nerve or what?

[Serendipity30]

OP its kind of hard to say, why they may be doing this. If there is one particular sibling that you are close to , have you tried talking to them about it as it may be something else your unaware of.

[justmyview]

Wow I think OP is getting a really hard time on this thread. I'd say that siblings might be jealous, might be bored of baby chat, might feel a bit less in common if lives are heading in different directions

[thornrose]

My older sis has no partner or children. She travels, she has a great social life and a good standard of living. She also gets to be a PANK If there's any jealousy going on it's mine!

Maybe you're subconsciously sending out signals that you have no time for them anymore? To be honest it could be lots of reasons. I'd have a chat to them.

[SirChenjin]

She's getting a hard time for a reason. MNetters tend to be very forthright on AIBU, especially when the answer is yes, you are.

[KurriKurri]

I don't know - I'm getting divorced atm, and I guess I do sometimes look at couples in love a little wistfully, it's not that I am jealous of them - I wish them every happiness, but I know it is something I am unlikely to have in my life again, which makes me kind of sad sometimes.

I would never cut someone out of my life or ignore them because they had found a happiness which had eluded me though. I think it is unlikely that all your siblings should suddenly become jealous of you - maybe they see you more as a unit with your partner and the baby on the way - perhaps they just feel less a part of your life in some way.

Congratulations on your pregnancy, youmight well find they come around once your baby has arrived

[ikeaismylocal]

I think those posters saying nasty things probably are jealous of you moomin, but many single, and or childless people won't be jealous.

It is hard to say about your siblings without knowing them, are they single/childless by choice? I think it would be very hard to be in your 40s and realising that you probably won't have children if you had always wanted a family but not met the right partner or had fertility problems but if you had never intended to have children being in your 40s and being single would be a real laugh.

[GreenLandsOfHome]

Tbh I'm hoping a lot of posts on this thread are tongue in cheek. If you're married/partnered with kids and feel such jealousy that you 'could weep' like lots of posts suggest, something's wrong somewhere.

Similarly, the poster who mentioned people being welcome to 'boring family holidays' - you kind of stepped on your own point there because your post screams bitterness.

[ElephantsAndMiasmas]

Are you sure that you haven't cut yourself out of things, Moomin? Not consciously, but I know how having a partner (along with their friends/family etc) can take up an awful lot of time. My partnered/married friends can be a lot harder to pin down for social events unless it's done miles in advance, and if people say no to enough things, they stop being asked.

Congrats on the pregnancy :)

[Pagwatch]

It's entirely posible to be harsh, forthright - whatever, without just posting abuse like butterfly and Poogate.

[SirChenjin]

Ahhh, now I committed the cardinal sin of not RTFT . No need to post abuse, I agree.

[Pagwatch]