what do you do on the weekend/day off?

[Moomey]

My sil and bil spend most of their weekend in their pjs in front of telly. I know they work hard during the week but this just seems like a waste of a weekend :/... It also seems unfair on the small kids!

Why do you give a stuff? At the end of the day, it's none of your business, is it?

My XP was divorced with two kids. He used to have them every weekend from Saturday morning to Sunday evening. Every weekend was packed full of activities. Karate, football, swimming, lunch out, visit to park, visit to granny's, cinema, walking in the woods. You name it, they did it! They used to say, "Dad, can we just stay at home today?". I actually used to feel a bit sorry for them.

OP, why are you so concerned about what others do and why do you find it so difficult to accept that some people have a different lifestyle from the one you enjoy?

Not everyone is sporty - it isn't a crime. I would agree that staying inside and watching tv throughout the entire weekend every weekend doesn't sound that stimulating for young children, but are you sure this is all they do every weekend ?

I also think it depends on how tiring you find your job and how long your weekdays are. We do a mixture of errands, swimming lessons, parties, dog-walking, outings, baking and playing at home at weekends. My dc enjoy being able to relax at home but like the occasional 'big' outing fairly regularly too. I get tetchy and irratated by trivIal issues if we spend too much time 'lazing', so we try and balance everyone's preferences.

Tbh, life can be hard when you work, have small dc and don't have limitless money to spend on a variety of leisure activities (as, indeed, it can in other circs ). People need to do whatever helps them relax and recharge on their days off.

Yes, you're right mrswellyboot

littlemischatterbox..... It's none of your business either but you feel happy to reply.

No DCS. I work 6 days a week. I spend day 7 as a zombie. We might get out for a walk if I'm feeling up to it but I'm shattered after working for 6 days! However I knew it would happen like that and it was only a short term (7 month) thing to not have to leave one of my jobs until the contract end in July.

coldlight .... Because I installed a camera in their house when they weren't in.

jean I think your comment about making no comment actually say alot!

And what would that be exactly?

You sound smug and judgemental - give yourself a big pat on the back for being so much better than your sil and bil.

Don't get why you assumed everyone was sporty and active like you , you do realise people are individuals and as such will like different things. I'm a bit of both but I would never assume everyone is like me. Your posts sounds like you think you are better than them.

tinkerbell I don't assume everyone is sporty. I just thought that most people did some sort of activity to keep themselves healthy... A walk/swim with the kids or something. I certainly don't think im better than anyone.

I argue with DC who don't want to go out (want to stay on pootas). So I go out & do errands or get exercise, or go to work.

jean of what you think of thecomment I made, which you highlighted. You said no comment, but actually you were making a point with your no comment that you didn't agree with me.... Why not just say that in the 1st place?

Most people with kids I know do a mixture of shopping, general household stuff and a range of days out depending on the weather but when you say doing a sport I imagine that as something you do at the same time week in week out regardless of the weather.

We are much more fluid and take advantage of any nice weather. Today we are meeting PIL for lunch then DS has a party to go to later. Tomorrow we will go to the Olympic park with the kids and their scooters. Last week a different park and the week before that the zoo. If the weather is crap we have film afternoons or if we just feel like having a slob day. Nothing is what I would class as an activity or sport it's just normal weekend stuff you do with kids.

It's lazy not to do anything....even a trip to the local park. We get up at 7.30 in order to get DD ready and off to ballroom class...then often there's a party or something in the afternoon. We eat a takeaway or something nice in front of tv later.

Sundays are lazier.

Moomey............ You're posting on a forum asking for opinions. Don't get upset if people don't agree with you.

They probably laugh about you behind your back and your obsessive doing doing doing.

Life would be very dull if we were all the same. Thankfully we are not all as judgemental as you

I just thought that most people did some sort of activity to keep themselves healthy.

That's not necessarily something restricted to the weekend though. If you walk the kids to school and back 5 days a week, they have a couple of afterschool activity/sports clubs and you manage to get to the gym/zumba/swimming of an evening, it hardly makes you an unhealthy layabout if you don't fancy more of the same of a weekend.

As someone who largely finds exercise a chore rather than a,pleasure I prefer to fit it in during the working week so that weekends are free for me to do something I find more enjoyable/relaxing.

I'm a SAHM who gets bored of being at home so tries to go out as much as possible.

My DH works very long hours and is often away. He therefore likes to be at home. Therefore the one thing my DH could never be accused of is lazy!

So one day I take our daughter out and so he can enjoy time to himself and being at home, the second day we try to get out as a family, even if it's just for half a day that's saying he's not working overtime at the weekend

Even so, we have had very occasional days where we sit in front of the telly together which pleases him and my daughter, but I don't really like. Dispite that, I fully appreciate and accept they don't always want to be doing stuff as we are all very different people.

yeah, when I was a SAHM weekends were escape-from-house time!!
Now they are catch-up-on-a-million-jobs-time.

I slob around for the most part. On Saturdays we might go out for dinner but then it is slobbing around. On Sunday we will usually have a walk if the weather is nice. My children much prefer to stay at home and relax on weekends.

I think most people probably do a mixture of slobbing around, shopping, seeing family and activities with the kids.

You're not really coming across very well here though OP. It's clear that you started this thread thinking everyone would just jump on the bandwagon to agree your sil and bil are fat lazy bastards and praise you for how wonderfully active and interesting you are. Not really panned out the way you hoped has it.

11.42 and we are all still in PJ's having had brekkie. DD is playing in her playroom and having a whale of a time "reorganising" her button collection, she adores days doing pottering and playing at home. Wierdly enough she is the compete opposite from the maxim that loads of activity and fresh air will make them sleep well, she always sleeps better on days when we have stayed at home and done sweet FA! Just her personality type I think.

will prob bung some washing on, get dressed about 1 and we will walk up to the playground and make the most of the weather. Then DD and DP taking me out for Mother's Day pizza as am working tomorrow.

Perfect day for me! Totally agree all are different TBH getting up and getting organised for classes or whatever would stress me have to do that every weekday for school anyways.

Not really xici.... I kind of knew not many would agree with me calling them fat/lazy because that is harsh tbf. But I also thought there would be more people who liked to get out and about doing something on their day of rather than slob about all day. It just seeems like a wasted life to work/clean/watch tv/play comp games/slob, with no other interests to keep brain/body stimulated.

I took offense to being called smug. Yes I am being judgemental, but I am judgemental. But I'm not smug.

We dont do any classes for ourselves or lo's... Hate the structure of having to be somewhere specific each week. We do however take it in turns to do somerhing for ourselves like a run/bike ride. And do something with ds like bike ride/park/zoo. I just don't understand how bil/sil can slob all weekend with 2 kids in the house.... But as I have found, it is common so I will reel my neck in!

Think there is a lot of validity in the theory that some are more inclined to be "activity" people and others "slobbing" people TBH. I do veer more towards the slob side myself but completely understand it would drive others mad, my DB for example seems to have something on every weekend with his kids and definitely is more active then us. It is a running joke with me and DP actually as we sit there mid morning having just shoehorned ourselves out of bed that DB and family have probably already completed a ten mile walk!

I'm probably not as bad as I make out - we do like a trip to a museum or into town to one of the great kids playgrounds in London quite regularly, but these are usually planned spontaneously.

Nothing is what I do.