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what do you do on the weekend/day off?

76 replies

Moomey · 28/03/2014 07:12

My sil and bil spend most of their weekend in their pjs in front of telly. I know they work hard during the week but this just seems like a waste of a weekend :/... It also seems unfair on the small kids!

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LoopyDoopyDoo · 28/03/2014 09:11

One weekend in every 5/6 is spent on an island somewhere or somewhere new (we don't live in UK)

The others, usually go out Friday night, kids with a babysitter. Saturday go somewhere, maybe just shops, often kids have some kind of party, or perhaps a meet-up of some sort. Sunday DD has ballet, then some kids of outing or not, depending what we feel like. Quite often DH will do the ballet/shop bit. I like a lazy day most weekends, DH isn't fussed.

Sicaq · 28/03/2014 09:12

I do one activity (an unusual sport which may out me!) on Saturday morning, and that's it. I'm a massive introvert and one planned thing is all I can handle. The weekend is for pottering and relaxing. I felt the same as a child: I hated scheduled "fun."

londonrach · 28/03/2014 09:13

Normally one day out and one day shopping washing clothes and getting ready for the week. However dh has just woken and said let's go to France. I said we can't not booked etc. He said why not...thinking about it why not. Nothing booked yet.... A weekend relaxing after work nothing wrong with it.

teenagetantrums · 28/03/2014 10:17

Im off today, have been up about 30mins, both my teenagers don't go to college on Friday, they are still sleeping. I have to go shopping, got an essay to do for my OU course. Have just started a new job and am finding it very tiring, would love to spend the day in my pj's catching up on the tv i missed while working till 10pm each night, sounds like a perfect day.

When mine were little we didn't do much at the weekend, I tried to get them to park for a run around and that was about it.

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Moomey · 28/03/2014 14:27

Vwanderingaway.... Something enjoyable but not so lazy. They're over weight and could do with the exercise tbh. Why not go for a walk/swim/bike ride? Visit museum/zoo etc...

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LadyMaryLikesCake · 28/03/2014 14:30

I'm off today. I've taken ds to school, been to the supermarket, had a nap (which was fab), checked my emails, spent a little time on here, watched some shit TV, eaten and I'll be going to collect him from school in a little while. I work weekends and for most of the week so I'm doing naff all today Smile

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Moomey · 28/03/2014 14:33

simone I'm ob mat leave atm but usually I am fulltine. As is oh... I guess we're just the type who like ro get out and about doing stuff on days off!

We don't go out drinking of an eve and see that time as film/telly time.

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JeanSeberg · 28/03/2014 14:36

They're over weight and could do with the exercise tbh

Have one of these Biscuit.

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Moomey · 28/03/2014 14:38

fifyfo I'm not saying anything about kids. They don't have kids.... I do agree with you though. But we as a family don't do anything organised or classes. We just like to be out and active, I think this is good for children to see active parents.

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sugar4eva · 28/03/2014 15:29

I think it s good to do a but if nothing and a bit if something! If it was slobbibg all the time I wd be v bored but equally back to back activity wd be horrible.if I just slob then I feel that work was dominating life so as well as snoozing we take dc s out for meal s, have dcs pals round for sleepovers, visit friends in other areas, go off on our caravan, go to listen to bands in pubs, go out for posh coffes, have relatives to stay , have day in a big city with a good friend , go to art galleries , market s, the sea - but not all at once . Plus we do vintage fairs and dancing. Read , garden , bake decorate , do what renews you is what weekends are for . My dd has pals round and rides or I take her Girly shopping or she has jama day. Ds goes to footsie matches and I often do a full English and have a chat before he goes -. Dh goes off on his bike sometimes . Like I say weekends are for renewal so do what is good for you and others as well as being parent taxi 0 course .
Last weekend tho was v tiring we had a teen sleepover - not up too late but first foray into alcohol for dd - I wd rather at my house than it be bought for them by bolder kids-,they went a bit mad - split cider and food everywhere and stated 24 hours - they are lovely -part blissful part I wanted my hoysebac k at the 20 hour mark.

sugar4eva · 28/03/2014 15:33

House back !

ephemeralfairy · 28/03/2014 15:46

I feel like I'm going to go mad if I don't get out and about at the weekend. Last weekend I went to a gallery on Sat afternoon then DP and I went to a party in the evening (we have no DCs), Sunday friends came to visit and we went for a walk.

This weekend I am going to stay with my mum, I am accompanying her to book group this evening, tomorrow we will go shopping or museum-ing, Sunday out for country pub lunch and a walk.

I had pretty full-on weekends/holidays as a kid: riding, days out, seeing friends, theatre, cinema etc etc. And I was pushed to work very hard academically too.

I have to say that it did bug me sometimes and there were many times when I'd have been quite happy doing nothing. A balance is crucial I think.

LayMeDown · 28/03/2014 15:56

Do they have kids or not? In you OP you say they do and in your last post you say they don't. If they have kids, will weekend every weekend in front of the telly isn't ideal, if they don't then they can do whatever they like. It's one of the joys of being a an adult. Either way its got fuck all to do with you anyway.

Fifyfomum · 28/03/2014 19:23

I am so confused, in your OP you say they have kids and then you say they don't!

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Moomey · 28/03/2014 20:23

Sorry, I meant bigger kids... That would do classes etc. Theirs are 1 & 3.

Im really surprised ib this thread of that lack of people that have a hobby/interest outside of kids/tv/shopping!... I just asumed that most got out on the weekend to do some sort of sport/craft/hobby. I guess it's me that's in the minority, not my sil & bil as I so thought.

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Moomey · 28/03/2014 20:26

jean I think your comment about making no comment actually say alot!

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Quakerlady · 28/03/2014 20:28

20 mile bike ride with ds aged 6. Lunch or picnic out. That's all buy 13.00 on Sat.

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Moomey · 28/03/2014 20:33

See, thats what we do in our family quaker... Lots of different outdoor sports.

I think it's important to keep a good level of healthy lifestyle with children, and also pass it on to them as the norm.

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DumSpiroSpero · 28/03/2014 20:37

Each to their own.

I have friends who seem to find it impossible to just potter at home with their kids and need to be out doing stuff virtually all the time. Personally I find that really weird.

Typically we mooch around on a Saturday morning. DH & DD have season tickets so they head off to the footy about midday if there's a home match on during winter. Sunday is more mooching or sometimes church, then DD & I visit my olds and DH heads off to cricket in summer.

We are all school hours, term time only so I like to make the most of having the house to myself or spending time just relaxing together. TBH I'd also rather have half a dozen really good days out during the year than waste time & money trying to occupy every weekend with 'stuff' for the sake of it.

pillowaddict · 28/03/2014 20:38

Some weekends we do that for a day. I work long hours during week and it can be lovely to spend the day with 18 month dd and dh relaxing in the house. Most weekends we see family and tend to have evening arrangements where we have a drink once dd is in bed. I don't think she suffers from us having a 'lazy' day every so often where most in house activities involve us playing/watching appropriate tv/arts and crafts with her as she gets undivided attention from her mum and dad, which she doesn't get during the week. I don't work 1 day per week where she and I do play dates or more of the same in the house. She is happy being with us, and the fact we don't do activities outside doesn't seem to bother her- she also has an active week with nursery and my dm one day per week!

WipsGlitter · 28/03/2014 20:39

We alternate taking DS to Saturday rugby. Afternoon DP works and watches tv. I clean/iPad/read. Kids watch tv or play. Sunday a walk and roast dinner.

DumSpiroSpero · 28/03/2014 20:40

Ah OP I see you are an outdoor sporty person!

DH is too, DD & I not so much. I think that makes a difference.

Most of the things DD and I enjoy - arts & crafts, reading, music, cooking etc can be fine without leaving the house!

teacher123 · 28/03/2014 20:42

Time off is usually spent as a family, DS is nearly 2. He does not do lazing about. This morning was typical, up at 5.50am...! We usually do lots of pottering type things, walks into town, to see family and friends, park, swimming, things like that. I have a hobby that generally takes place in the evenings, but do have occasional rehearsals at the weekend.

Mrswellyboot · 28/03/2014 20:50

I would hate to watch TV all day, especially both weekend days. But it's really not out business to judge others OP.

Typical day off/ weekend we go for a walk, church, swim, batch cook for the freezer, go to a little cafe, visit family, I play music to the baby etc

Before I met dh I never sat in my pjs either. I learned to play an instrument on a Saturday morning, went to the gym, upcycled furniture etc.

But they could be doing a lot worse that being at home together as a family. At least they are together, happy and comfortable. Lots of children aren't as well looked after.

gobbledegook1 · 28/03/2014 20:55

My days off are supposed to be Wed, Thurs & Fri though quite often its just Wed in term time. On my days off I still have to be up relatively early because of the school run. I generally spend it catching up on housework and cleaning the animals out although I have recently taken to going swimming on a Wed afternoon to fill the gap a bit and aid my diet. Thursday afternoons are when I get my weekly shop done so if I'm not working it means I can go early and in peace without dragging children around with me.

On the rare occasions I'm off work on a weekend (or one day of it) its usually because we have plans so its rare we sit about watching tv, we do however spend some time in the school holidays doing as your sil & bil do on the weekends as it is nice to have some rare time to just chill out together.