to feel so bloody relieved I've finally handed my notice in?

[NurseyWursey]

as my name suggests I'm a nurse.

If any of you have been on my threads lately you might know I suffer from depression and have for a while, but had a break down a few weeks ago and was unable to go into work.

I was asked to go to a disciplinary at work. Their view was I should have come in despite being signed off because they're shorted staffed they've obviously never seen a meltdown before.

So I walked in and handed my notice in.

immediately a weight has lifted off my shoulders. I still feel bad, but not the screamy on the floor, scared of opening the front door, wrap myself up a duvet and hide away 'bad'.

AIBU? Do you think I was right to or should I have handled it another way?

Nursey - from what I've read of your posts, your hospital have lost a fantastic nurse. You've made absolutely the right decision and I wish you the best of luck in the future, and also big un-mumsnetty hugs. Take care x

Oh dear now the tears have come! I'm a big soft arse!! Thankyou [thank]

Today I actually managed to MOP. MOP.

no probably about it!

Have a little cry might help you to feel better. x

good for you nursey I,m a nurse too and management just don't care the caring profession don't care about their own staff as for constructive dismissal is it worth it its not that I don't think you have a case but management are so powerful and it would just be you fighting them good luck in whatever you decide.

nursey I hope you're feeling better soon. You're employer has treated you appallingly. If you'd gone into work while I that state and signed off not only would you be uninsured but you'd be in breech of The Code. You could have been disciplined by the NMC for practicing whilst unfit to practice.

It may be worth contacting your Union if you were in one, or the the main union even if you weren't. They will be in the best position to know how best to tackle your employer and there could be case for an out of court settlement. My dh took 'voluntary' redundancy with a confidentiality agreement in a similar situation from another public body. Hope you are feeling much better soon.

Good for you. It's illegal for you to work if signed off, surely? Amazes me that the bloody NHS demonstrate such a spectacular lack of understanding of MH problems. I've just been sacked from my job after struggling for months due to MH issues (I never told them) - and now that the initial shock has subsided I am SO relieved.

Well done. Life is too short to stay in a job that it is making you ill. It may be worth looking claiming for constructive dismissal if you are in a union. They can advise you on whether it is worth pursuing considering that you need to avoid too much stress.

It actually scares me that they are forcing someone who is signed off sick themselves to nurse other people - I would imagine if anything went wrong they would be in a horrendous situation legally.

Im guessing you are under pressure because the managers above you are under pressure because the posh boys in their ivory towers right at the top expect you to do the imposssible.

NO job is worth making yourself ill over, I had one years ago which haunted me even in my sleep, leaving was the best thing I ever did.

I have had problems to kate re my epilepsy. Horrible isn't it. My boss actually said they would never have hired me had they known how many days off sick I would have had . This was during a meds change over. When I dared to complain I was fobbed off (NHS). I came in in agony with broken ribs after a seizure so she can't call be lazy.

Rant over. Well done to you Nursey. I hope you can afford a few months off and maybe a holiday while you decide what to do. Here's some for all your hard work.

I,m a mental health nurse and the trust I work for is a very large mental health trust they treat staff appalingly and appear to have no understanding of mental health issues amongst staff I have been on the receiving end of bullying and intimidating management tactics to many times you are right to leave nursey I am considering doing the same.

I'm working as an HCA on the same ward where I worked as a SN, it's difficult at times because I had a very public psychotic breakdown at work and everyone knows it, but I've been working for 16 months as an HCA and it's been a good change.

I do recommend it, as long as you keep up your nursing registration - you could join the nurse bank and work either as an HCA or as a SN, it would be a break from being on the same ward all the time.

I'm trying to get my old job back now - that is the difficult part because the manager remembers when I was ill. The CMHT have advised me to get a union rep involved.

I will say it can be stressful working as an HCA too - if you are a person who easily gets stressed out and / or depressed then you will still be like that as an HCA.

Try to get your health problems dealt with as much as possible now, I don't know if you see a Psychiatrist or a Psychologist or get counselling, try CBT or meds or whatever works for you.

Re: epilepsy - I have epilepsy as well and had a fit at work due to a flickering light.

One of the managers said, ''you shouldn't scare the staff like that!''

These are nurses whose job involves dealing with post surgery patients - who may have fits, faints and blackouts for various reasons.

I will say I am lucky on the whole I've been given good support from work and I was lucky to keep a job on the ward when most people would have been let go.

My colleagues have all been very kind despite remembering how paranoid I was during my breakdown.

I'm sorry to hear how some of you have such nightmare colleagues.

I've worked as a HCA in the past on wards and in homes so I know what kind of work I'll be doing and I know think I can cope. I might see if I can get some work in a geriatric home, but yes I need to also think about maintaining my registration too. Never even though about that.. doh.

I hope you manage to get your job back Latara

I've been referred for CBT. I'm not sure it will help but it's worth a try

not nightmare collegues latara nightmare management there appears to be a culture of bullying in the NHS by senior managers especially at the momentt with ward closures etc it seems to be push staff enough by making there working life so difficult that they will resign like nursey has and I don't blame her I want to do the same.

Managers can be a nightmare too! Depends if you get a good one or not, it shouldn't though.

this is true latara but we seem to have a bad set of senior managers I,m glad your well enough to work now it must be less stress being a HCA though than being a staff nurse I know HCA,S work hard but at least your not accountable now for everything?