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Facebook?? aIBU?

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ssd · 24/03/2014 09:47

Why do some people feel the need to put every little thing on it?

I don't get it.

Who cares if you,re going a walk, or watching something on telly...

And as for selfies, Jesus wept.

Get a bloody life.

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Sayjustjackwithjazzhands · 24/03/2014 22:32

Grin chocoholism

differentnameforthis · 25/03/2014 01:01

These things should be in your head and be expressed by actions rather than vacuous words written in swirly writing over litter of puppies

Why one earth can't people post things like this? I have 6 words on a poster on my desk at home that I look at often, those words are expressed by my actions, but I like to see them now & then to remind me of things.

I don't see why it shouldn't be there, or on my fb wall. As I said, that is MY space. I will do with it what I like.

You don't like, you have a choice not to see it.

OpalQuartz · 25/03/2014 07:30

People are free to post what they like on facebook and people are free to hide it.
People are free to moan about facebook on mumsnet and people are free not to open the mumsnet thread or to hide it.

moomin35 · 25/03/2014 21:07

It's all so attention seeking IMO. Recently I've seen posts that say "complete this about me just for fun" then everyone has an option to choose (a) I love your eyes (b) you have a great smile etc etc. Are people really so insecure they need to do this in their late 30's

balenciaga · 25/03/2014 21:11

Lol moomin seriously Shock that is pathetic

nochips · 25/03/2014 21:22

Sorry, random question alert.

i am new to FB. How do I stop a FB friend posting random annoying shit onto my timeline?You know, cheesy sayings and crap about women being strong, rainbows with sayings about how people can hurt but not destroy you etc.

Fucks Me Right Off.

Tabby1963 · 25/03/2014 22:39

I like fb and use it to keep in touch with family who are dotted around the country.

My kids live away in another city and we regularly have a four way fb 'chat'; it's better than a phone call because we can all chat together at the same time.

We are planning a big 'do' later this year in June, with family members I haven't seen for more than thirty years, all as a result of being on fb. My kids will meet their aunties, uncles and cousins for the first time.

Due to family issues, my parents had not kept in touch with relatives, so fb has become a useful tool to reconnect with long lost relatives.

Silly statuses can be easily blocked if necessary, it's no big deal really.

figgieroll · 25/03/2014 22:49

I post and enjoy reading interesting things. I strongly dislike people posting 15 uninteresting times a day (posts like 'good morning', endless selfies etc).

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 25/03/2014 22:53

I saw a FB joke status that said, "Kids nowadays don't know how lucky they are. When I was young, I had to take a photograph of my dinner, get the photo processed and printed, and then run up and down the street to show all my friends what I was having!"

TheGirlWhoKickedTheVipersNest · 26/03/2014 01:55

nochips are you sure they're posting it specifically to you? Confused I don't think you can block them specifically but if no-one else posts on your timeline you can change it under your privacy settings so that only you can post on it - click the padlock symbol at the top right corner, go to 'see more settings', choose 'timeline and tagging settings' on the left, then where it says 'who can post on your timeline' change 'friends' to 'only me'.

nochips · 26/03/2014 05:27

Thanks TheGirl yes, deffo posting to me, with comments 'thought you'd love this nochips' etc. Thank you so much. I have changed it now. I had looked at that padlock, but did not see it covered timelines and tagging as well!

Thanks
Notafoodbabyanymore · 26/03/2014 06:56

SDTG that joke has really made me giggle. Grin

balenciaga · 26/03/2014 07:57

Lol dtdg I saw that too!

I'm glad FB wasn't around when I was a teen, imagine the embarrassment of having everything on the internet!

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ssd · 26/03/2014 10:04

I don't get clicking on the like button, what's that all about? I can understand if you click like on posts saying I,ve got a new job or new baby or something exciting, but clicking a post saying "went a walk today" or " just had lunch" ? Do people feel they need to click like whenever someone they know posts?

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ssd · 26/03/2014 10:06

Another thing., I don't think it's the teenagers who are embarrassing on fb, teenagers are meant to be loud and embarrassing, that's their job!!, it's the forty and fifty plus women I know posting mundane vacuous shite about themselves that I fing really embarrassing ( for them ).

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pictish · 26/03/2014 10:18

ssd - can you explain why you find middle aged women posting vacuous or mundane stuff embarrassing?
What is it that it conveys to you? Genuine ask.

SelectAUserName · 26/03/2014 10:54

Some people like everything that is posted on their news feed.

Some people like stuff as a shorthand to say "I've seen this; I'm not ignoring you".

Some people like stuff because, shock horror, it's posted by a friend so they like to acknowledge their friend has posted something that was obviously sufficiently interesting to them that they took 30 seconds out of their day to post it.

Some people like stuff because no-one else has, they're kind-hearted and don't want the poster to feel like a billy-no-mates.

Some people like stuff in error (easy to do on touchscreen devices).

Is that enough reasons for you?

Burmahere · 26/03/2014 11:38

I like knowing what people (ah ha even my friends!) are doing every day. I'm at home so it's nice to feel connected and funnily enough it's the little things that I usually like most. Just been for a bike ride, walked the dog (complete with picture of muddy dog) they are just normal every day things that make the world go round.

I really love pictures of holidays and the like but people tend not to go away more than once a year so you don't see them so often. Nights out are ok but I'm always careful not to post much as I don't want anyone to feel hurt or left out.

Family updates are the best especially if you all live a fair distance from each other. Inoffensive generally and really what I like about FB.

I do hate pictures of dinner though it has to be said Confused!

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 26/03/2014 11:38

I worry that today's teenagers are going to find stuff they have posted on FB/Snapchat/twitter or texted to friends, is going to come back and bite them later in life. The lass who became a police Youth Commissioner, and then had to give it up when something stupid she'd written was made public is a perfect example.

I am sure I did and said plenty of stupid things when I was that age - but the stupid things I did and said haven't been preserved on the World Wide Web, for all eternity, and for anyone to find.

horsetowater · 26/03/2014 13:04

SDGT I don't think most people take anything that anyone under 21 seriously anyway.

If you became a QC and they found out that 30 years before you'd said something stupid I don't think it would be a problem - unless it was something particularly racist or bullying or controversial.

And if you had said something racist then it would be just as well for it to come out in the open and expose you and perhaps you would then go and find a job where your values weren't so important.

I think transparency, generally, is a good thing and this next generation will hopefully be able to liberate the closed worlds that have thus far maintained power and control through exclusion and elitism.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 26/03/2014 13:43

I hope you are right, horsetowater.

Objection · 26/03/2014 13:46

I'm sure other people have pointed this out but the fact you are coming on here and ranting about people writing pointless crap of facebook is pretty hypocritical.

Sorry but YABVU.

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ssd · 26/03/2014 18:02

Pictish , I guess I don't expect women that (my) age to be so utterly self absorbed and attention seeking and needy that they seem to feel validated by having lots of posts about their (boring) lives.....I don't broadcast how mundane my life is but others can't stop themselves and it comes across as all too desperate to me.

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NurseRoscoe · 26/03/2014 19:32

I'm a sad person who puts lots of things on facebook. Who cares?

The people I care about like to know what me and the kids are up to same as I do for them and their families. Anyone else can either keep me on there to be nosy or delete me, it really isn't that important in the grand scheme of things, no one is forcing anyone to be on there.

Burmahere · 26/03/2014 19:51

NurseRoscoe I love seeing little day to day bits on FB and I'm sure all your friends and family too unless you are friends with the OP Grin!