to be super proud of dd being toilet trained day and night at 2.5

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Mini monkey decided she didn't want a nappy on a couple of weeks ago. Couple of accidents during the first week but dry on a night since she asked for it to be taken off!

Ds was 2.7 for day and 3.7 for night. Sorry don't want to bore my friends anymore because but I am super proud of her

pianodoodle it's the posting about something that other NT children are physically unable to do at that age that gives the impression. Like bragging that your kid got her first tooth earlier than all the other babies and that is somehow a laudable achievement.

I'm not saying the OP shouldn't be proud. But she shouldn't post on a public forum about it, citing her children's ages at time of success and inviting others to comment on socially acceptable potty training ages.

Proud yes but not super proud. Why would you put it in AIBU? My DD was younger but so what? I was just pleased to not have to buy nappies anymore.

YANBU

Ignore the grumps.

Sneepy what if the OP wrote that she was proud her 2.5 year old recognised/wrote their name? Should people also keep that kind of thing off public forums?

of course you should be proud

You should be proud, I find all these posts condemning your pride bizarre, it's normal for parents to be proud of their children for reaching new milestones, being proud of a child for being easily toilet trained (lucky you!) isn't an insult to those whose children aren't ready or have reasons for not being able to and an attack on their parents. Neither is being proud of their first smile, crawl, sitting, steps, good behaviour, personality, singing, speech, social abilities, you're supposed to be proud of your kids.

Yanbu, well done minimonkey!

I think it is natural to feel proud when you see your child developing and learning new things, I think it is also normal to feel proud of your child's especially lovely hair/eyes/eyelashes.

It doesn't mean that people with children who walk/toilet train/speak later or who don't have lovely curls/rose bud lips/bright blue eyes should feel ashamed, all children have something extra special about them.

My ds sat/crawled/walked really early and have very bright blue eyes, I'm proud of those things but I am not ashamed that he has nearly no mousy brown hair or that his speach isn't advanced.

We all have the right to be proud of our children, I think when that pride comes from a competition with others maybe its not such good thing but when its is just about your child, not only do you have the right to be proud, you're child has the right to feel that accomplishment. I'm exceedingly proud of every milestone my boys reach, but the level of pride and happiness has absolutely nothing to do with whether they are the first or last of their peers to get there.

Hear hear.

We can celebrate the wee milestones.

Hear hear.

We can celebrate the wee milestones.

Excuse the wrong use of you're! !!

Oops. No idea why my phone posted that again.

But it's true.

pianodoodle it's the posting about something that other NT children are physically unable to do at that age that gives the impression.

It would only give that impression to me if she posted a comparison with someone else's child and she hasn't.

Well as a mother of a child with special needs I certainly did not think it was odd to post about something some children with special needs won't have been able to achieve at the same age.

By that rule no-one should ever post about any achievement - that includes first day at MS school, GCSEs, Uni placements etc.

I'm proud of my DS when he achieves things - I'm just as proud of my friends DCs for achieving these things earlier than him.

Yab a bit u to be 'proud' of a child being dry at night.

It's pure chance when they're asleep. Ds1 was dry every night at 2. Ds2 was much quicker to train during the day and was dry by 18 months but at nearly 4 still wears a pull up at night.

There's no achievement, as such, of which to feel proud. I don't get it.

To clarify my post...weeing, or not weeing when asleep is just something that happens.

It's like being 'proud' of a child for not having nightmares. There is no control there.

I breastfed for 2 years. Super proud of myself & ds

Like TheScience said, potty training doesn't happen by magic. So as her DD's parent, of course the OP had something to do with it! Lots of defensiveness on this thread. But lots of positive comments too OP so hope you can hold into those.

YANBU - well done minimonkey :)

Yanbu, well done minimonkey :)

Aw pennies I think you are proud of that.

By the way my post about my 10 year old autistic DS still being in nappies wasn't supposed to sound sarky or bitter. I think I'm over the jealous/bitter stage (finally!!)

Wow some real negativity! I'd be proud she was such a good girl about it too OP. I'm proud my dd started laughing and that's something we're all expected to do without trying too, so I guess I'm being unreasonable too. Parents just feel proud, it is allowed!

YANBU to be pleased but it's a weird thing to be proud of? Well done her though, and thank god for you - potty training sucks