To consider doing this (revenge related) ?

[California123]

I am 22.

I was bullied at the age of 14 in year 9 by a group of girls who branded me a lesbian and spread rumours about me to the whole class ( academic all girls school) . Everyone used to be friends with everyone and it was a whole class thing.The girls who I thought were my friends did nothing and didn't stand up for me when I needed them the most. I felt they had chosen them over me.

I remember walking in the changing room and everyone stopped talking.said it girl actually looked at me and laughed.I was the overweight and shy child- I didn't say anything to the group but this hurt so badly, I couldn't trust anyone in my class and I was angry at myself for letting this happen.I spiralled into depression and self harm and was so desperate to belong.

I stayed at that school till I was 16 as it was academic my parents didn't want to move me as we had already started gcse work. I spent those two years feeling so worthless and was sick.I had no self confidence and developed anxiety about talking to strangers and eating in front of others.

It has been 7 years since I left. Yes it doesn't hurt the same but I have accepted things.

I started a degree in biomedical science and am finishing this year but have BEEN offered a place at medical school!!!!

I truly want to rub it in their noses- I have some girls from my class on facebook but want to add others just so they could see my public message along the lines of saying thank you to everyone who made my life hell at 14 - couldn't be here without you.

Or should it just leave it?

I would delete all the 'friends' who bullied you from FB. I would never even try to show how well you are doing. I'm sure they know. The best revenge would be if you could forget them and never think about them at all. Lots of good luck and I hope you will be able to put them in the past forever!

I actually went to my school reunion and it was very cathartic. I finally saw my bullies for what they were. Been nowhere, done nothing.. And some of the girls there reminded me of happy times which I had forgotten about...all I remember was the bullying. Bullying is soul destroying and it can seem like your life is over...I've had an amazing time as an adult..but still hate ANY confrontation/cross words...I am very shocked by some of the posts on MN and am now very selective and never get involved except to maybe support anyone who is being bullied.

Well done on your medical school place.

As another who felt bullied and isolated at school I would say move on, leave them behind.

You and they were 14-16 at the time. It is quite possible that many of them will regret what they did at that age. I am sure you will have things you regret from that time. None of us are perfect. To hark back now to things which cannot be changed would be small-minded and petty and I'm sorry to say it, just a little bit bullying.

Don't do it.

You may get responses like I bet she will go into gynea as she loves women's vagina. Alway knew she was a lezza.

Congratulations - a fantastic achievement! Share it with your real friends and delete the rest from Facebook.

Agree with all the others saying to delete the hurtful people from your last and move on.

Do not let these people know you give them headspace.

If they have remained petty bullies they will be living small and unhappy lives while yours is everything you wanted.

Congrats on the place at medical school.

Congratulations!! I think you need to try and find a way to move on from what happened. I was very bitter too towards my bullies, but the main one once messaged me on facebook, and somehow it helped me to get closure. I will never forget it of course, but I no longer feel bitter or hatred towards them. Took me a lot more than 7 years though to reach that stage. Enjoy med school!

I think this would be extremely foolish and if I am honest (intended kindly and not spitefully) a wee bit pathetic.

Bullying is awful and should not happen, but I also do think there is something sad in somebody - anybody - believing school is the most important thing in the world, for positive or negative reasons.

I would also add that academic success is not the only success. I worked hard, got good results and a good job. I feel a bit of a fraud as I'm now 32, lonely and single, while the girls who didn't work and didn't pass exams are happy with husbands and babies. Go me!

I would seriously look into some support if it's still this fresh in your mind.

Well, I think that's about unanimous then! Don't tell them, word will filter back soon enough anyway. And bloody well done getting into medical school!

I would not do this - you are simply letting them know how much they affected you and the power they still have over your memories and feelings. Why give them that power?

Congratulations.

The most empowering action you can take is to erase the lot of them from your life and your social media as you move on to your continued and deserved success.

Right, don't do this. You will look like a numpty who's still reliving school when, more than likely, to these girls you're a distant memory. By targeting them specifically you're imbuing them with more significance than they deserve. Did you work your balls off at uni to prove something to them or did you do it for yourself?

Also I can imagine them discussing this between themselves and you will look tragic. Just crack on, post how you've got into medicine and live well. That will be enough.

Delete, ignore, block if necessary.
Don't give them any power or even acknowledgement.

I can guarantee you mean nothing to them. Any achievements or success you have they either won't care or even notice, or will still manage to undermine with a throwaway remark that will still succeed in hurting you after all these years. You're playing into their hands by continuing to have contact with them via FB. Get rid and achieve for yourself, not them.