to expect my husband to come with me to hospital appointment

[paragirl1981]

I have a lump in my breast and have an appointment at the hospital on Monday to get it checked out.
My mum is looking after the dcs so I asked my dh if he could come with me.
Apparently he has a very important meeting at work so has decided to drop me off and pick me up later on the way home. I'm upset because I thought he would at least stay with me. I can't seem to explain to him how let down I feel without him talking over me.
He never supports me in anything and I'm getting fed up.
In the end I just told him not to bother and I'll go on my own.

YADNBU - He should want to be with you. Maybe its his own reaction, to bury his head in the sand?

Hope its nothing serious for you. x

He came with me and stayed, the appointment was over very quickly we were on our way back home an hour later and I had a mammogram and ultrasound scan. They confirmed it was a cyst and totally benign and said it doesn't need to be removed.
So very happy!
We also had a chat on the way home and hopefully things will be better now.
Thanks everyone for all your help and support.

I'm really pleased for you that everything is okay!

Hi, Paragirl,

I can't comment on your husband, but I just wanted to tell you this:

I recently went for breast screening after finding a lump I was happy to assume was a cyst, having had one/several before. So, being Mrs Independent, I went alone with my work and a marker pen. But when I got there and looked at all the other women who had partners, mothers, friends, children with them, I realised that not everyone had a cysts, and that some were facing bad news. I realised then BIG TIME that I had sleep walked into a nightmare, and that I had arrogantly assumed I was there for a cyst but might actually hear something bad myself. I very regretted not having anyone with me. The next time I took my DH with me, and was glad I did.

So irrespective of whether you are being unreasonable, i URGE you to take someone with you for support.

Sorry paragirl, I didn't see your last post. (mistake, not disinterest).
I am so pleased its a cyst. Hope the mammogram wasn't too painful.

Oh that's good news Para! On both counts.

Glad all is well :)