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to ask how you told your dh you were pregnant?

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PuffyPigeon · 18/03/2014 22:56

Just found out I'm pregnant with our last baby. It's a surprise but we always said we'd have one more so it's a welcome surprise. I know some people don't like to make a big deal of telling their dh, that's fair enough, but I do want to as this is my last chance to do so. Did you tell your dh in any kind of different or unique way?

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ProlificPenguin · 19/03/2014 11:24

I just remembered that my friend sent her DH a meeting request via Outlook for the due date. That was sweet

Ploppy16 · 19/03/2014 11:30

First time I just blurted it out while we were doing some type of car related fixing, he said 'what? Erm ok, pass me the spanner please". The penny dropped about 10 minutes later..
Second time he waited nervously downstairs while I did the test, told him it was positive and the silly bugger spun me around the kitchen. Then kindly held my hair back while I threw up in the sink.
Third time, he told me. I asked him to pick up something from the shop that I only like when pregnant. He came back with a bag full of said items and a test.

Joysmum · 19/03/2014 12:03

Mine wasn't in the best way at all.

He was making a sandwich with that foul looking Heinz Sandwich Spread. I looked at it and told him it looked like baby sick and he'd better get used to it as I was pregnant.

I wish I could go back and change it how I broke the news Sad

Bornin1984 · 19/03/2014 12:05

Congrats!!!

I didn't tell my dh, the doctor did after
Me going to a&e with severe abdo pain!!!

Onsera3 · 19/03/2014 12:48

DH had to look at the stick for me. I couldn't even be in the same room as it because I knew it had the power to fulfil my dreams or break my heart (IVF).

magichandles · 19/03/2014 13:05

Congratulations!

I can't remember how I told DH first time, second time I remember I just shouted at him first thing when he was in the ensuite, and he laughed and said he would come out and give me a hug, but was in the middle of having a crap [hmmm].

aworkingmummy · 19/03/2014 13:09

did it together, I peed on the stick, we put the test down for a few mins and then looked at it together. We then both burst in to (happy) tears.

Dutch1e · 24/03/2014 15:04

Delurking. Be gentle, this is a non-MNy mushy story.

DP was in his late 30s when we met and had made peace with the fact he was going to be single forever and would never be a father. Even after we decided to try he assumed his rubbish luck would make us struggle to conceive.

Rugrat happened after 5 weeks of trying.

DP came home after a less-than-stellar day and I told him to sit on the edge of the bed and close his eyes. Used my best smoky hussy voice to say I'd bought a special outfit to cheer him up. Faffed around the room a bit then told him to open em up. Held up to my belly was a tiny little onesie.

I still think the tears were the grief of being robbed of a French Maid's outfit, but for the next 2 weeks he cried every time he told the story. Endearing from a 6'6" bloke built like a train.

ToriaPumpkin · 24/03/2014 15:31

With DS I came downstairs and said 'ummm, I think I've got something to tell you..." while he was in the middle of something on the computer. He did turn it off to talk to me properly Grin

This time he was putting DS to bed. I'd only taken the test as I was exhausted (9 months TTC, lots of disappointment up to then so was fully expecting another negative) and was sitting clutching it when he came downstairs. 'So. I know why I've been so tired lately!'

Bananapickle · 24/03/2014 15:40

The first time I waited for DH to go out for evening before taking a test. (I didn't know about the first pee of the day thing!) He wasn't sure about having kids and I thought I was but didn't want to freak him out. So when he got back in I sat him down and told him. He was shocked but happy!
Second time, again he wasn't sure about another but had agreed to give it some time and if it happened it happened. I again took the test without him knowing as I wanted to be sure as it had literally taken one time!! I just walked into his study and put the test down saying, 'looks like it doesn't take us long!'
In retrospect wish id been more creative as it will be the last time!

Filimou · 24/03/2014 16:02

I have a friend who bought a twin pack of tests, she did one at my house (her DH was working away at the time) it was positive, she did nothing until he came home a few days later, gave him the other test and said "Here, piss on that and tell me if you get the same result"
Grin

whiteblossom · 24/03/2014 16:08

DH: so did you get a different antibiotic then
Me: er..no Ive been given the same ones again..
DH how come?
Me: well, this is the only one they can give to me as Im pregnant.
DH: (triple take look) your kidding?
Me; no
DH: Seriously?
Me; yes seriously
DH: Your serious, really, your not kidding, SERIOUSLY??
Me; Yes Im pg. (laughing)
Dh: bloody hell, I thought we'd have months of shagging. Oh well I knew anyway.
Me: What? How, I didn't even know?
DH: you have just been so ill, I just knew it.

yeah whatever, that's why you were so shocked!! Congrats by the way

BarbarianMum · 24/03/2014 16:12

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tammytwigg · 24/03/2014 16:14

Hels71 are you me ,that is just what happened to me 1 st ivf test I just went to work never thought it would happen and he rang me had to go home was in shock .

BarbarianMum · 24/03/2014 16:16

First time I gave him the test stick as a 'present', he looked at it in bemusement and I eventually took pity on him and told him what it was.

Second time we had an argument about whether I was cause the test was negative but my boobs said 'yes'. The boobs were right.

WholeNutt · 24/03/2014 16:55

Take several tests then pop them in a vase like a flower arrangement!

ikeaismylocal · 24/03/2014 17:04

First time I just told him "I'm pregnant" we'd been ttc for a really long time, I had bought a special babygrow to wrap up with my bfp but when the time came I just blurted it out.

The second time I took a test as I was going out with friends that evening and intended to have some wine with dinner, the test was negative (although I hadn't waited the 5 mins) so I left it on the edge of the sink on the plastic packet it came in lazy mare I went out for the day with ds, dp got home before me and saw a positive test on the sink so that time dp knew before me.

Chopsypie · 24/03/2014 17:05

With DS I had gone to the GP to find out where my period had gone (had negative tests at home) and found out I was pregnant. Went home and DH came in as I was cooking tea. We chatted about our day and he asked how my appointment had gone. I'm pregnant says I. He didn't believe me at first!

DD I POAS and shouted him into the bathroom after watching the second line appear. He said 'ha, filled another pram then' and wandered out.

CabbagesAndKings · 24/03/2014 17:31

We have just made the decision to TTC, and I am alternately laughing a sniffing a bit at these Grin brilliant

CuppaSarah · 24/03/2014 17:38

I poas while he was sleeping, then woke him up wafting the thing in his face telling him we were having a baby. He gave me a massive smile and it was lovely.

When we start ttc again later this year all things going well Im going to buy newborn nappies and leave them on the stairs, see how long it takes him to realize.

dobedobedo · 24/03/2014 17:44

I woke him up at about 5am with the positive pregnancy test. But for some reason, between the bathroom and waking him up and with finding out I was pregnant and all, I had a panic attack. He thought a member of my family had died or something terrible had happened! Blush

So he was pretty relieved I was pregnant after that!

bopoityboo3 · 24/03/2014 17:59

both times by excitedly screaming from the bathroom. Had been told i'd never have one baby let alone two. I had to gethim to double check both times that i wasn't miss reading the tests. Congratulations op

PeabodyRocks · 24/03/2014 19:13

We were at MILs staying overnight. No idea really why I tested but I did at 4am. I called my friend and told her first and then when DH woke up I handed him the stick.

After 15 years ttc, ivf, iui and god knows what else, then 2 years of coming to terms with the fact that we would be childless we were both in total shock!! We drove the 2 hours home in complete silence and didn't celebrate until it had been confirmed again with the doc and a scan.

The second time I can't even remember testing or how I told him lol

Neyite · 24/03/2014 20:38

I got a newborn football jersey of the local team that he used to play for and boxed it up with the positive test resting on top.

I'd bought it about 6 months into ttc but it was about another while before I could give it to him. We got duffed on our 29th cycle and 3rd Clomid month.

eurochick · 24/03/2014 20:52

I said "here we go again - it's positive". And then neither of us mentioned it.

This was out 4th round of IVF. The first 3 resulted in an mc and 2 chem pregs, so I was used to seeing a positive test at the end of the cycle but it not resulting in a baby, just a shedload of stress and disappointment. I was long past the point where a BFP meant joy. (FYI, I'm 17 weeks and as far as I know the pregnancy is still going, but I still have difficulty believing I will end up holding a baby at the end of it.)

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