To not feel guilty about leaving DH on his own for Easter?

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Making plans for Easter weekend to go and visit a very dear friend and her family in Germany. I can't tell if I am being a total bitch or just.... pragmatic.

It is just so much easier and cheaper if it's just me and the DDs - friend has no partner, we have known each other for decades, she has a small house and 3 DS's, we would probably also stay with her parents for one night, DH is a very big man with a very large presence..... and he doesn't speak much German....

He doesn't really want to come. So he says. He says he quite looks forward to the thought of a whole quiet weekend to himself. Plus I don't really want him to come. I would end up babysitting him and worrying about him and translating not to mention the cost of the plane ticket.

But I can't help feeling like IABU for deserting him on a traditional family occasion like Easter? AIBU?

[SnookyPooky]

I'm going to UK for 10 days over Easter. DH is staying at home. Can't bloody wait!

[SconeRhymesWithGone]

I am laughing my head off at this; our situation is reversed. DH is the neat and clean house-proud one. I love it when he goes away for a few days. I eat crap; watch what he affectionately refers to as "English shit" (Downton Abbey, Upstairs Downstairs; we are American) stay up all night and sleep late. He even usually takes the dog with him (children are adults) because the disruption in routine upsets her.

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Stupid Internet won't let me post

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Oh except it just did

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It's not that he can't look after himself - he is extremely capable.

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It's more the Jolly Happy Family Church Going nature of Easter, especially when you have kids - Easter Egg hunts and decorating etc

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On a normal weekend it probably wouldn't even occur to me TBH.

Also agree that I love being home on my own. You would not believe the trashy TV I watch

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Big Fat Gypsy Weddings
Supersize or Superskinny
Hoarders
Anything with Honey BooBoo init
Toddlers and Tiaras
Call the Midwife

[Marylou62]

My DH works nights so apart from when he goes at 8.30pm until I go to bed, I NEVER have anytime on my own in the house! As much as I love DH I really wish he would go away occasionally...but he's a bit of a home bod and I will have to just wish.

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I am hardly ever home alone either and I'm with you - I love it!

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And I've booked the flights for our trip

[ineedabodytransplant]

Whenever my EXW went away to visit friends in Ireland I got more excited about her going than she did! Always cook with the windows open then no faffing around with air fresheners etc. Lots of action films at a volume I wanted. Sitting around in my boxers without having to check everything was tucked in . Just general chill-out without going mad. It was just good to be on my own and do what I wanted. That's my whole life now, anyway.
Mind you the last time she went away I ended up knocking two walls down that I had talked about doing but never got around to. Spent m,ost of the time trying to clear dust up.

[conorsrockers]

I'm taking our 3DS skiing for the week over Easter. I didn't even think about the fact he would be home alone over (he hates skiing)

[HannerHet]

YANBU.
Dp went to stay with his family leaving me on my own with the dc's on New Year's Eve. He felt bad, I wasn't bothered. It's just another day. He says he doesn't want to go, so don't worry about it. Enjoy!

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Lots of action films at a volume I wanted

So so so SO true! DH can't seem to hear a film unless it would drown out a jumbo jet

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DD2 who is 7 was wondering tonight if the Easter Bunny visits Germany. DD1 very kindly reassured her with a very grown up, knowing look in my direction. Fortunately the family we are going to visit believes in very very high chocolate and marzipan consumption.

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DD1 is 10 BTW