To not feel guilty about leaving DH on his own for Easter?

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Making plans for Easter weekend to go and visit a very dear friend and her family in Germany. I can't tell if I am being a total bitch or just.... pragmatic.

It is just so much easier and cheaper if it's just me and the DDs - friend has no partner, we have known each other for decades, she has a small house and 3 DS's, we would probably also stay with her parents for one night, DH is a very big man with a very large presence..... and he doesn't speak much German....

He doesn't really want to come. So he says. He says he quite looks forward to the thought of a whole quiet weekend to himself. Plus I don't really want him to come. I would end up babysitting him and worrying about him and translating not to mention the cost of the plane ticket.

But I can't help feeling like IABU for deserting him on a traditional family occasion like Easter? AIBU?

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DD1 is 10 BTW

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DD2 who is 7 was wondering tonight if the Easter Bunny visits Germany. DD1 very kindly reassured her with a very grown up, knowing look in my direction. Fortunately the family we are going to visit believes in very very high chocolate and marzipan consumption.

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Lots of action films at a volume I wanted

So so so SO true! DH can't seem to hear a film unless it would drown out a jumbo jet

[HannerHet]

YANBU.
Dp went to stay with his family leaving me on my own with the dc's on New Year's Eve. He felt bad, I wasn't bothered. It's just another day. He says he doesn't want to go, so don't worry about it. Enjoy!

[conorsrockers]

I'm taking our 3DS skiing for the week over Easter. I didn't even think about the fact he would be home alone over (he hates skiing)

[ineedabodytransplant]

Whenever my EXW went away to visit friends in Ireland I got more excited about her going than she did! Always cook with the windows open then no faffing around with air fresheners etc. Lots of action films at a volume I wanted. Sitting around in my boxers without having to check everything was tucked in . Just general chill-out without going mad. It was just good to be on my own and do what I wanted. That's my whole life now, anyway.
Mind you the last time she went away I ended up knocking two walls down that I had talked about doing but never got around to. Spent m,ost of the time trying to clear dust up.

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And I've booked the flights for our trip

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I am hardly ever home alone either and I'm with you - I love it!

[Marylou62]

My DH works nights so apart from when he goes at 8.30pm until I go to bed, I NEVER have anytime on my own in the house! As much as I love DH I really wish he would go away occasionally...but he's a bit of a home bod and I will have to just wish.

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Big Fat Gypsy Weddings
Supersize or Superskinny
Hoarders
Anything with Honey BooBoo init
Toddlers and Tiaras
Call the Midwife

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On a normal weekend it probably wouldn't even occur to me TBH.

Also agree that I love being home on my own. You would not believe the trashy TV I watch

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It's more the Jolly Happy Family Church Going nature of Easter, especially when you have kids - Easter Egg hunts and decorating etc

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It's not that he can't look after himself - he is extremely capable.

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Oh except it just did

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Stupid Internet won't let me post

[SconeRhymesWithGone]

I am laughing my head off at this; our situation is reversed. DH is the neat and clean house-proud one. I love it when he goes away for a few days. I eat crap; watch what he affectionately refers to as "English shit" (Downton Abbey, Upstairs Downstairs; we are American) stay up all night and sleep late. He even usually takes the dog with him (children are adults) because the disruption in routine upsets her.

[SnookyPooky]

I'm going to UK for 10 days over Easter. DH is staying at home. Can't bloody wait!

[Marylou62]

Oh I love MN! I would have posted this 23 years ago! My parents live 250 miles away and for the last 23 years have spent most half terms, Easter, and 2 weeks in the summer with them with my DCs. Would never have spent Christmas away from him though. My DH was working so only ever came for weddings/christenings etc. If I ever came home a few hours early, there was always a knife/fork/plate/cup that equalled the days I'd been away. Now the kids are older, and working, I still leave him to visit them and I have been on holiday for a week too!

[magimedi]

How do you know she isn't here already - More?

I thought there was a lot of extra rubbish the last time I went away

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If DW ever decides to come on MN I am so in trouble.

[DisgraceToTheYChromosome]

MoreBeta

I am highfiving you on the Interwebs.

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You lot. Honestly.

Sharing all your secrets - I agree with Bonsoir - I mean I know it happens but to see it in black and white on the screen...

Disgrace - lol at Three octave farting.

[Bonsoir]

MoreBeta - ha ha ha, I know that's what goes on but I love a man actually publishing this on the internet

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Disgrace - "..tidy the house first. Safety before everything".

You do that too?

My thinking is get the house tidy then live in one room which is your 'man cave' to keep the rest of the house tidy. No sense in doing it twice. Then get some handy hand to mouth comestibles delivered by truck from Sainsbury so you don't have to use the kitchen and you are all set.

Then just before DW gets off the plane a quick swish round the man cave, haul the two black sack loads of pizza boxes and beer cans out to the bin. Open windows to let some air in and then go and have a shower, clean that while still in it, quick squirt of bleach down loo and maybe have the ironing board still set up for when she gets home.

Interflora deliver flowers if you really cant get out to the garage to buy some - dump in vase with water. Job done.

Its the outcome not the process of getting there that counts.

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If he's anything like me when DW went off for a long weekend, he will tidy the house first. Safety before everything.

Then: TV in underpants! Kebabs! Mates round for spag bol, and talking bollocks until 3 am! Three octave farting!

Bit of self-loathing by Monday, but that's lapsed Catholicism for you.