First wedding anniversary.

[Germgirl]

Ok I know I'm BU and probably horribly grabby and mean and spoilt and all those other things.
But.
It's our first wedding anniversary in April. The paper one. I have ordered DH a personalized paper cut thingy with our wedding date & location, our names etc on it. It's £120.
DH has been looking increasingly worried for the past few weeks about what to buy me. By his own admission he's crap with presents. So yesterday he said 'do I really have to buy a present? I can't think of anything, what do you want?'
I don't really want anything, I want him to think about me & get something, I don't care how much it costs.
I said that he could buy me something when we go on holiday in May but then I felt all sad that he can't be bothered to try to think of something.
Am I BU? I know I am. But I just feel a bit sad. Silly I know.

We don't do anniversary gifts, we'd rather go out for a nice meal on our own or something. However, I bought dh a quite expensive personalised pen that he could use forever for our 'paper' anniversary. He loves it and uses it for everything.
I didn't get anything, but we agreed not to buy anything so I wasn't miffed at all

Work back if you're following the years thing, diamonds while you're young enough to get a good wear out of them. Paper for when you're old and incontinent!

Yanbu, DH isn't especially thoughtful when it comes to gifts. It truly is the thought that counts isn't it.

For our wedding anniversary we either spend the money on doing something together or a joint present. The fun's in choosing together something you both like. And a lot less pressure.

If one person is freaking out this much about an anniversary present then perhaps presents aren't such a great idea. This may however be coloured by the fact that we never do anniversary presents, just a nice meal and maybe a card.

DH and I agreed at the start that we would buy token gifts only on anniversaries, but that we would try to follow the Paper/Leather/China thing.

Our first anniversary he bought me a cookbook (that I happened to point out I would really like "and oh, look, books are made of paper" ) and I got him a sudoku book.

2nd Cotton - He got a welsh dragon towel, I got a pair of daps
3rd Leather - Him wallet, me belt
4th Silk - Him pants, me pants!
5th Wood - Him birdhouse, me wooden ornament (that is bloody lovely and one of the best things I own)
and so on (it's tin this year - I am firmly expecting a tin of Branston Beans because I complain about the nasty tesco beans he buys)

I let him know what the 'theme' is about a month before, and then leave it at that. I think knowing that I don't expect riches (in fact I'd be annoyed if he spent more than 10-20 quid max), makes it easier. He wouldn't bother at all I think.

I think in future we'll either buy something together for the house or just do cards. I think I'm just being a bit precious because it's the first anniversary.
I never thought I'd get married, and when I did, at 40, it was just brilliant & I never want to forget it.
Anyway, he's much happier now the 'pressure' (that he imagined! ) is off.