To get fed up with baby snobbery?

[Odaat]

Marks and Spencers,Next, Gap - this is all certain kids i know wear. Anything else is beneath them. I am not a snob, never have been, but I do like to invest in quality stuff clothes wise for certain garments (ie jeans as I am long legged) but what i this craze with decking vomiting 3 day old babies out in £38 Next suits!?
Am I less than because I only occasionally dress dd in these over priced garments? I know quality over quantity and i do realise pjs and coats all last longer if made by good brands , but over all i find it a bit obscene how much you see wee kiddies in clothes mre expensive than mine just to boost their parents egos it would seem ... There seems to be a real snobbery with baby clothes and i just feel it a waste of energy and money to invest that much into what kids wear when they are ony in it 2 months at a push anyway!

Also, can honestly say the stuff that has been good enough to last 2 DDs has been Boden. Never wears out.

When my DC were little, I was really, really poor. There were times I went without food and I worse clothes and shoes that really should have been thrown out they were so old and worn out (boots with cracked soles that let in water, etc). My DC were clothed in second-hand bundles from ebay topped up with supermarket basics.

I saw babies in more expensive brands or designer labels everywhere I looked. This was partly selection bias because I was so fed up and resentful at being so poor despite working full time (mostly due to astronomical childcare costs and an unsupportive ex who withheld maintenance). I only encountered one or two who would openly say that their baby had to have the best and anything short of a really expensive brand/designer label was inferior. Most people just buy the best quality they can afford for whatever it is they're buying, baby clothes included. Some are influenced by branding and marketing, others are not.

People often interpret choices different to their own as a judgement on their choices, but often no one is thinking beyond their own circumstances. I know that now those times of financial hardship have passed for me, I notice other people's children's clothing choices far less, for example because I no longer feel I am being judged or perhaps it's more that I don't care anymore.

However, I will admit to being completely mystified as to why people would buy expensive Nike trainers, for example, for a child who's not even walking. Is that more the sort of thing you mean?

Some people need more things to worry about.

All three of my children have clothes from M&S, it probably makes up about 75% of their wardrobes. I like the quality and they wash well. I also like Boden for the same reason.

I would rather pay more and buy something my children will wear 100 times and it look great than something that will go bobbly and odd shaped after 2 washes.

You're being judgemental. When DS was little I bought stuff from Mothercare, Tesco, Boots, Asda, Sainsbury's, and also Next and Gap. I went around the sales and occasionally bought something at full price if I really liked it. I also bought a lot of second hand clothes. No Primark only because we didn't have a primark in our town. (The second hand primark clothes I had were surprisingly good condition)

I used to get great enjoyment out of seeking out brightly coloured clothes which were a bit different to the usual beige, baby blue and white which seems to be the norm (insert pink for girls). It was fun and it made me happy to dress DS in them. When you have to constantly dress and re-dress your baby and do laundry all day and night I thought it was nice to have something nice to look at! It didn't really matter to me how much they cost as long as I could afford them, although I wouldn't pay silly money.

I never cared or looked down on anyone for the clothes their babies wore, would not even notice the brand, might notice if it fitted my taste but that's about it.

any clothing either of my kids have that isn't tesco, asda, or sainsbury's was either a gift (rare) or bought second hand for about 50p~£2

we have a lot of next, some oshkosh, a bit or two of No Fear, some m&s, some primark (I won't buy their baby clothes as they shrink even on a cold wash), and a few other "labels"

there was even a designer jacket (can't remember who, neither kid ever actually wore it)

but it was all cheap and second hand. do I care what anyone thinks? nope, I cheerfuly tell anyone who comments or asks exactly where I got things!

Yes to boden stuff being everlasting

We have handed down stuff from my now double digit kids through the family, now seen on the very youngest as good as new despite v tough heavy wear by about 6 kids over the years

Doting aunties.

I bought my niece a Bonpoint sleep suit set for about £40 when she was born. I thought it was cute and her mum sent me a photo of her in it.

I buy my kids designer clothes along with high street clothes but I would never ever dream of looking down at anybody's child if they weren't in designer gear!

Why is it a waste of money and energy to spend a lot on your babies clothes if you can afford it and you enjoy it. When my 3 DC were babies and toddlers I was too busy thinking how gorgeous my own DC were to notice what others were wearing.

I think it's a waste of money to spend it on handbags. Some clearly don't. I don't judge them. Just wouldn't spend my own money in that way.

YANBU. Babies are such snobs these days. All you see at soft play is toddlers sneering at each other for not wearing the right labels.

OP Where we live, babygros made of cashmere are a thing.

My DC have always worn a lot of Next and GAP and I always thought there were very ordinary shops. I liked them because they weren't expensive and their stuff washes and passes down well.

The kind of -judgey- thing you are saying about Next and Gap is the kind of -judgey- thing that goes through my head about head-to-toe Petit Bateau and Boden.

Maybe we should all relax and struggle on within our own budgets?

My daughter is dressed head to toe in Boden/Gap/Next, why not? I hate the inverse snobbery just as much.

strikethrough fail

you need to get out more op. who the fuck cares or notices what other people's kids are dressed in?

usually covered in crap and dribble anyway.

Jees if one of my friends started whittering on about where she got her baby clothes I would tell her she needs a night at the pub as she must be going gaga.

As a fan of charity shops and car boot sales, I always look out for Gap and Next in particular as they hold up very well and look in much better condition second-hand than supermarket clothes. I do buy new Primark/Tesco etc (and Morrisons Nutmeg range has some lovely stuff) but sorting through old clothes you can tell some makes have stood up to being worn and washed and some look like rags. Boden and Frugi are also good but not nuch in evidence round here!

I spent next to nothing on clothes for the 6 months because my awesome friend gave me her DS's old clothes for my DS. They were all Ralph Lauren, Timberland, Bennetton etc...She is affluent and just enjoyed dressing her kids up. If you came across me and my DS in his hand-me-downs, would you think me a snob?

How do you know what brands they're wearing anyway? I wouldn't have a clue what brand children are wearing unless it's emblazoned across the front.

Don't most people just buy what looks good and is comfortable? DD (4yo) got given a beautiful designer top at Christmas but because it's a bit scratchy and in navy she won't wear it. I'm not complaining because it's dry clean only!

Oh scrambled I have heard of dry-clean only clothes for children but never really believed they exist - I mean, why would anyone think that was a good idea? See also big buttons down the back of tiny baby clothes and cashmere. I had a friend who's ex MIL gave her a cashmere blanket for her first DC, you had to admire the passive-aggressiveness in that gesture!

We are ok financially tbh! It's not a resentful thing :) I think the first few months if my dds life were a total fog and i didnt care what she wore. Now i pay a bit more attention ... I have friends that only dress their baby's in certain brands and no less. I guess it is judgemental of my to presume its because of how it looks as opposed to how it washes etc. sorry if i offended anyone. It was just something that got my goat and ill have forgotten about tomorrow. :/ guess I am being unreasonable here!!!

Infact I have noticed certain clothes dont wash so well, may try expensive stuff

Why do you care where they shop? Surely they can spend their wages how they like, its not like they are leaving the children in rags and spending on wine instead.

Pretty much everything DS had as a baby clothes wise came from Next as it was minutes walk away at the time. Nowadays its online shopping in the main as we live more rurally now.

dry clean only ffs how mental is that.

think my kids looked just as kids should do just before bath time, hot, dirty, muddy and happy.

clothes should be for playing in and getting messy not parading.

My DS wears a mixture of supermarket / primark / next / Boden etc. The next and Boden stuff tends to either be car boot or charity shop buys. I'm expecting DS2 in a few weeks and he will wear a mixture of his brother's outgrown clothes and newer bits and bobs from Asda and sainsbury's etc. I personally don't spend a lot on clothing for my kids as we don't have a lot of spare cash, but it wouldn't occur to me to be cross about what other people dress their kids in. Besides, someone has to buy the stuff new from Boden and the gap for it to turn up at my local charity shop ;)

I think once upon a time those shops may have been expensive and desirable. Not something I like, though, personally.

I don't understand why you care. I don't really notice what other children wear unless it's an unusual brand I recognise.