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...to think this is a bit cheeky or do I need to relax a bit?

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NotActuallyAMum · 17/03/2014 12:36

A work colleague of mine did me a favour recently – saved us about £50 – so as a thank you I offered him a couple of nights in our static caravan. I said that if he goes straight there after work on a Friday he’ll be there by about half 6 then if he leaves around the same time on Sunday he’ll have 2 full days there. I warned him that we wouldn’t be moving our belongings out of the way because there’ll still be plenty of room for the two of them. He took me up on the offer, which I was pleased about – I wanted to return the favour

I’ve just seen that he’s booked the Friday and Monday of that weekend off work, presumably to spend 4 nights at our caravan instead of the 2 that I offered. Additionally, someone else who works here sees a lot of this person out of work – the two of them and their wives spend a lot of time together and I’ve noticed that he has also booked the Friday and Monday off work, making me think that they are planning on going too

I could be wrong of course but it seems too much of a coincidence for there to be any other explanation. Isn’t this a bit cheeky?

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NotActuallyAMum · 16/05/2014 10:59

It's awkward Pastperfect isn't it? We're not selfish people, we know we're very lucky to have what we've got and we don't mind sharing it but we do mind when people take the piss!

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expatinscotland · 16/05/2014 11:03

Pisstakers.

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NotActuallyAMum · 16/05/2014 11:03

Nauticant I missed that bit, have to agree that surely inviting specific people for a specific period isn't imposing lots of rules. Surely that's the way it works? Our own family wouldn't dream of having extra nights or taking other people without checking with us first

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NotActuallyAMum · 16/05/2014 11:04

expat Grin yes that just about sums it up I reckon

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expatinscotland · 16/05/2014 11:07

Anyone who, given an inch, try to take a mile is a pisstaking, cheeky fuck.

Weekend = Saturday and Sunday.

Make sure he gives the key back.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 16/05/2014 11:13

We have had so many people assuming that because we have a caravan they can use it without paying

Sadly, I'm not at all surprised since I've seen it happen time and time again

Look on the bright side, though - this guy is a good heads up on what to avoid in the future Smile

SATSmadness · 16/05/2014 11:40

Well done for not giving in to the piss-taker and his repeated efforts to sneakily outwit you.

IMHO such people generally think of themselves as just being clever and making the most of opportunities that come their way.

Am so looking forward to seeing if he tries to extend the stay with some ruse or other such as vehicle problems.

Pastperfect · 16/05/2014 11:49

Mexican holiday home was one of my favourite threads ever Smile

Icelollycraving · 16/05/2014 12:06

I think I would have simply said you had family staying before & after. He will be backtracking to the other colleague. If you have to work with these people,be gracious & let it go. They will still take Monday off,why wouldn't they? They'll probably leave as late as possible.

Stinkle · 16/05/2014 12:24

It is cheeky, and I wouldn't more people staying there for double the length of time I'd agreed to either.

My parents have a holiday home that they lend to family and close friends. They lent it to a couple they thought were their friends a few years ago, the couple had borrowed it before with no problems, but this time they bought 2 other couple with them without mentioning it to my parents. £2k worth of damage later these people are no longer their friends.

My parents have worked hard on it, when they retire they plan on selling their current home and moving there full time. It's very precious to them and they're careful who they lend it to

Stinkle · 16/05/2014 12:26

And you'd be surprised how much people you thought were your friends (and even family) take the piss with these things.

I stayed there after my Dad's cousin had been there for a week for free and the state they left the place in was unreal

restandpeace · 16/05/2014 12:27

What difrence does it make?

iirc · 16/05/2014 12:27

Marks place.

What a cheeky gut.

Stinkle · 16/05/2014 12:31

Why does it matter if it makes a difference or not?

It's the OP's property, it's precious to her, she has every right to decide who gets to stay there and for how long.

If the person borrowing it doesn't like the rules imposed, they can pay to stay somewhere else

AgaPanthers · 16/05/2014 12:31

Caravans are shit anyway.

Biscuit
WTFlike · 16/05/2014 12:44

I would be furious. Can you get your neighbour to disconnect the electricity/sabotage the toilet or something for the weekend?

TalisaMaegyr · 16/05/2014 12:51

Fucking hell, there are some rude dickheads on this thread Hmm

Of course it matters! It's the principle! I can only assume that those of you that disagree are cheeky fucks yourselves.

MrsRuffdiamond · 16/05/2014 13:04

Caravans are shit anyway.

Why? Have you had a negative static caravan experience?

I stayed in one once, and it was fine. What I can't understand is the love affair with camping. I hope never to have to endure the privations of living under canvas. At least in a caravan you can still watch telly and cook pizza and chips. Who wants to live on tinned beans and sausages? Grin

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NotActuallyAMum · 16/05/2014 13:08

WTFlike Grin it would be very mean of me to do anything like that, I couldn't do it

Agree with MrsRuffdiamond about living under canvas but we love our caravan. As Stinkle says it's very precious to us

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MissDuke · 16/05/2014 13:13

It was very generous of you to make the offer so I agree it was extremely cheeky of them to take the mick like this. Why on earth he didn't just ask is beyond me. YANBU!!!!!

WeAreEternal · 16/05/2014 13:16

I am the poster who has the house in Mexico and the checky neighbour who used it as his own personal holiday home for two years.

People like this never change, my advice would be to make it clear to him that this was a one time favour.

Unfortunately my neighbor is still a cheeky user.
Last summer he found out that my brother had bought a house in Italy and he did everything he could to try and get an invitation to use it.

I ended up havering a serious word with his DW and it seemed to have worked because in the last 6 months he has hardly borrowed anything without asking. (It used to be an almost daily problem).

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NotActuallyAMum · 16/05/2014 13:32

Shock at your neighbour yet again!!

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nochips01 · 16/05/2014 13:38

People are cheeky.

Okay I am place marking but here we go.

We live (and that is live, NOT a holiday home) in a lovely area that is a popular tourist destination. You can set your clock by the people you never hear from until late May who call to say hi, then call a few weeks later call again to ask if they can come and stay for a weekend.

Last year, I had the call from one pair who are repeat offenders. They claimed they would love to see us etc etc etc. I said that terribly sorry, but the weekend they wanted to come we were going to a wedding in Kent.

The response was 'Oh never mind. Could you leave the key somewhere and let us know where we can get it'.

My DH is not a confrontational person. His language was something to behold.

Itsfab · 16/05/2014 13:55

Is it today he has gone?

He really is an entitled shit. He KNEW he hadn't told Hmm you Mr and Mrs cheeky fuckers were going as well. He tried again and again to wangle longer there. I would have refused to let him go at all after that. You paid him for his work. He lost the right to a bonus when he started acting like an entitled twat.

Jackie0 · 16/05/2014 13:59

I bet the cheeky sod didn't tell his wife and friends the true scenario. Omg could you imagine being one of the friends and discovering you absolutely should not have been there?
I wonder how he explained going down a day later than expected.
No good deed goes unpunished (-;

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