To not want to share a bed with friends (or basically anyone other than DP)

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When I was younger (a student and living in flat shares in my 20s) it was the done thing that when friends came to stay / when I went to stay with friends you would just share their bed. Also when I went away on holidays/weekends away friends would often share double beds to save money etc.

AIBU that I no longer want to share beds with friends? I recently went on a hen do where I was expected to share a bed for the weekend (had not been told this in advance - I would have been willing to pay more money for my own room if I had been warned in advance that I would be sharing a bed).

Also one of my friends still lives in flat shares (which I completely understand, not everyone can afford their own place esp. in London) and when I go to stay I have to share her bed which I just no longer feel so comfortable about. I totally appreciate she doesn't have a spare guest room, but I would rather sleep on the sofa or an inflatable bed in the living room than bed share. I just don't know how to say this without offending her. I would also be prepared to pay for a cheap B&B/Travelodge but again don't want to offend her.

Am I being a prude, or has anyone else grown out of feeling comfortable sharing a bed with friends? I am in my early 30s FWIW.

I hate it. I've been known to evade school trips because of the expectation that one cheerfully bunks in a not very large double bed in a Trevelodge with some random colleague.

The solution I've found is to organise the bloody trip, ensure that there's an odd number of women & bags the single room as trip leader's perk.

Even with actual longstanding mates, I'll do a room share if the others are gung ho for it, but if it's a double & a sofa my bag's on the sofa claiming it before the door shuts behind us...

Again, with squoosh. I will happily bed down with most - friends, colleagues, my cousin, nieces, my mum.

If I stay over at my parents I sometimes go in their room on a morning and squeeze in beside them much to my dad's displeasure haha. I like a cuddle and gossip. I am 36

YADNBU - I had similar, went on hen weekend and found I was to share a double bed with friend (no warning, would have paid more to be on my own). Even worse said friend came down with awful cold, so I had to sleep on the sofa (was v v much looking forward to a lie in as had 6 month old DD at the time).

I hate hate hate sharing beds.

I was 14 and shared a bedroom with my younger sister. A schoolfriend visited (still friends) and we decided that it would be a good idea if she were to sleep with me in my single bed. My parents took some persuading, looking at each other meaningfully when they first heard the idea. I had no idea why the idea was so bad yes, I was innocent of things like that. Three of us in the same bedroom ....

It was about 35 when I realised why my parents were not keen on the idea!

Why sometimes? I actually don't get that

Why what, Stealth?

My parents looked disapproving because they knew about homosexuality but I didn't and it was frowned upon then and they obviously thought I was taking that route with my friend.

I was a lot older when I realised why they didn't want my friend to sleep in the same single bed as me. As far as I was concerned, it was just two friends having a night together, gossiping about other girls at school, complaining about French homework and wishing we didn't have Cricket so often.

I don't think that's acceptable raven. Sharing a room is bad enough but sharing a bed is not acceptable for a work event.

A Company I worked at introduced a policy where it was stipulated that you could only stay at a hotel if there were no colleagues with available beds in their houses. I was often away Monday to Friday and there was no way that I was going to impose on a random colleague. I challenged the policy and the rules were relaxed.

A few years ago I was going to a work event and they wanted us all to share rooms. I got on ok with my colleagues but wouldn't have considered any of them to be friends.
I just refused point blank - I said that I didn't share my room at home with anyone so I didn't intend to start now. I got my own room

That's awful thearticfunky so colleagues and their families are meant to act as some sort of B&B host for all workmates. Just ewww.

If there's another bed to be had I will take it, but I don't mind sharing with friends. I shared with a friend recently, she is co-sleeping with her son. In the middle of the night she rolled over, gave my tummy a little rub, kissed me on the side of my head and said, 'sssh now sleepy times' then rolled back over. bless her.

See if anyone had done that to me wilsonfrickett, probably even DH, they would get a massive karate chop and would be pushed out of bed. I'd do it instinctively as well. Some of us just like our space !

We had a works do at Christmas that involved staying over at a hotel and I got stiffed with the loudest, drunkest, fartiest member of staff to share a room with. I didn't sleep a wink and she hogged the bathroom for hours in the morning and nearly broke the toilet with her, er, "emissions". Never, ever again. YANBU!!!!

I have IBS and don't like sharing a bathroom with anyone.