To of changed my babys nappy on the train

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Was only ten minutes into an hour and a half journey when my little one needed changing no toilets on the train either. I took her up to the end of the carriage where I change her nappy a lady on the train told me I was disgusting

I hate it when people dont change their kids.

That reminded me of the 4 hour flight back from greece when someones baby did a poo early in the flight yet the parents didn't change the nappy. Horrendous to be sat behind, but I dread to think what state the poor babies bottom must have been in by the end of the flight :(

mrssmith79
"I'd have wiped it right across her horrible face if she spoke to me like that."

Another internet vigilante strikes again.

OP, if you had no choice you had no choice.

Christ some of you pendants should hop on over to your own very 'special' grammar and spelling page. FFS this is a woman asking for advice not grammar/spelling etiquette. Grow up and stop being so petty and belittling!

wouldn't I would have done the same thing. Baby needs to be changed so do it.

Pedants

When Jimmy Saville was doing his "This is the age of the train" adverts on TV, I wonder if he was secretly hoping for some exposed nether regions and poo-ey nappies?

OP - YANBU, BTW

YANBU but the woman who changed her baby's shitty nappy on the table in the pizza/pasta buffet place at Legoland last October half term - You were being VVU.

From the OP, it sounds like you left your seat and walked up the carriage to change the nappy. I'd probably be a bit annoyed if you walked donw the carriage and plonked yourself next to me to change the nappy to avoid stinking out your own seat.

Midnitescribbler OP has said that she moved to where the bikes are kept- she deliberately went as far from theother passengers as she could.

OP, YWNBU.

I know of a few journeys that could be the one the OP is describing (with saying Mersey rail, I'm in Liverpool).

Normally I would say to try to wait, but there aren't any facilities at many stations, from Liverpool to Manchester? that you could get off at and get back on and the ticket could be just for that train.

If you are so sensitive them don't go to Liverpool and travel on the 26 bus, it reeks.

It would be easy enough for a guard to dispose of the nappy at the next stop and could use baby wipes etc to clean up.

You do get out of the habit of dealing with human poo, so it seems/is disgusting, like not having a dog and wondering why anyone wouldn't mind picking up dog poo.

You have to learn to ignore people, there will always be one that has to say something, regardless of what you are doing.

out of interest, why is it ok on a train but not a bus...? I remember an 'Aibu to have changed a dirty nappy on the bus' thread where the op got FLAMED by a lot of people saying it was disgusting, inconsiderate etc. The thread was maybe a year ago. My bus journey to college takes 50 mins, is there a time limit on when it's acceptable to change a nappy on public transport?

i would have changed it regardless my son gets hysterical when he is dirty!

btw ive never seen toilets on a train which is big enough to change a baby in although i did know a couple who had sex in them we all sat outside and debated the position they were using because its so tiny in there! (bored college students)

A huge great massive stinker to all those who think its ok to leave any age child in a bag full of shit . Even briefly .
It's quite simple if there's a bog great; If not then improvise . Shit burns sensitive skin really really quickly .
I always change my babies on my lap - that way I can do it anywhere and they don't have to be placed on filthy public changing tables .

I use the same train route as the Op about once every few months and there are regularly no loos on it! Not fun when ibwas heavily pregnant!

If my dd needed changing then inbound change her wet/poop frankly. Baby's skin is too sensitive to be left sitting in it for over an hour. The woman was an idiot and you did nothing wrong OP

I don't get it. Assuming comparable journey length, why is it fine for a train with no loo, but not for a bus? Do the rails make it smell less? Or, do the bus wheels make the child react less to being left to sit in a dirty nappy? Seems pretty similar to me.

BTW op, YANBU if there definitely was no loo.

well she was right, it was probably disgusting to her, but it is a fact of life. and you put it in a nappy sack and the guard took it away,
problem solved.
i guess you could have asked her if she minded, but gone ahead anyway.

Not ideal but needs must. I'd far rather someone had to breathe into their scarf for a few minutes than leave my child in her own poo for an hour and end up with her poor little bottom in goodness knows what state.

Babies wee and poo, it does not smell pleasant but what can you do? Not a mum yet but I used to be a nursery asst and a nanny. Some babies/small children get so sore sitting in dirty nappies and it often smells bad anyway. It's a lose-lose situation. We were all babies once!

No.. I think you and anyone who thinks it's ok to do this is BU.
I think its inconsiderate, rude and very selfish to change poo nappies in the carriage on the tables or chairs in front of other passengers but I do recognise the need to change a baby and if there were no facilities I would go into the connecting bit between carriages to do it. To at least minimise the impact on other passengers.

I am well mannered and I do not subscribe to that 'me first and my children' attitude which seems to be becoming more prevalent. If it's my problem (I take my child by choice on a train, I need to keep my child clean) it's me that should bear the greater inconvenience. It's an example of rights coming with responsibilities. Other passengers have a right not to watch/smell stinky nappies being changed. Just as our babies have a right not to sit in poo. We as parents have the responsibility to manage the situation with some compromise. It's the same with people who bring strong smelling food on trains or who have loud music leeching out of their headphones or who f & blind their way through anecdotes in loud phone conversations about stds/sexual conquests/gory murders etc when small children are seated nearby. All inconsiderate, rude and selfish.
I've seen too many parents who take the attitude I've paid my ticket / for my meal so I'm going to change baby in public view/ on the restaurant table or quip 'he's just exploring his surroundings/ he's only little' as they let toddler handle with wet grungy hands all the bread rolls in a supermarket display or using a whiny voice to say 'they'll be bored otherwise and I need to get out of the house ' as their child bangs on a loud toy in the library/church/school play of older brother or sister. Spoiling it for everyone else is not ok.
It's this me first me me me attitude that has children failing in schools because they can't take constructive criticism and gives them a sense of entitlement that doesn't prepare them for real life.

In Italy I was in a restaurant in the daytime and there were only a few customers. I asked the waiter where I could change the babys nappy as the loo was so small there was nowhere to lay her down. The waiter matter of factly cleared the table next to us of cutlery, and said do it for bebe. The English are a frigging uptight disgrace.

Yes it was disgusting. Does this mean we shall now have mums changing dirty nappies everywhere on trains to establish their rights?