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I don't like my neighbours. Do you like yours?

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MeLovelyNeighbour · 11/03/2014 20:42

Small 1930's house. Small garden. Neighbour has huge trampoline. Children spend whole time bouncing and looking into our house making strange faces and silly/rude comments. Children are over 12. I would understand if younger - as wouldn't know better perhaps. Am I unreasonable in thinking they should have the manners to look away from our house/windows and not make stupid/rude remarks? Their mother is equally as bad... please tell me if/why you don't like your neighbour?

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hiccupgirl · 11/03/2014 22:22

We are so lucky with ours.

Mid terrace - both side retired people who keep an eye out on our house, love playing with my 4 yr old. Opposite house similar. The only not so good ones are the house opposite to the left where the dad does banger racing and likes to sit revving his clapped out car for hours and his grown up kids park their cars everywhere.

We used to live upstairs form the retentive neighbour from hell who complained about our cat walking around inside (yes, seriously) and who used to watch us in our garden. I really appreciate my lovely neighbours now!

magimedi · 11/03/2014 22:22

Yes - we live in a cul de sac of 16 houses & whilst we all know each other by name & chat no one is ever in each others faces.

We have an amazing street party every year with lots of Cake & Wine & fun.

I love where I live.

tryingreallytrying · 11/03/2014 22:33

Well, we had the police over tonight because of the nutter of a neighbour who attacked my dh in the garden on Sunday and swore at him in front of my dcs, and spent the afternoon shouting personal insults/swearing/trying to get my dh to fight.

So no, can't say I like my neighbour much!

Although the other neighbours seem fine and we have some very good friends in our street with kids who are the sane ages as and best friends with my dcs. So not all bad. :)

absoluteidiot · 11/03/2014 22:41

Only 4 houses here, and we have always got on really well with eachother - chat, share stuff, help eachother out, etc. A few months back, the house next door was let to this totally dickish couple. She is 28 and a druggy - he is this bald, prim, middle aged ugly man who is unemployed so spends his days playing Daniel O'Donnell and polishing his big, expensive car. They have 2 kids under 3, and we rang SS after hearing the man shriek abuse at the kids, one day. We hear their fights and DV constantly through the walls, and the man came into our garden at night, only a week or two after moving in, and started a slanging match with my husband as apparently my kids 'slam' doors and woke his baby. The woman starts shouting and makes weird wailing noises about 3 o clock every day.

Broke my heart last Friday when the 3 year old just that second got in the house from nursery and the woman was yelling abuse at him. Poor kid. You're supposed to be happy to be home at weekends. The baby wails a lot (fetal drugs syndrome?) and both parents shriek at it.

SS keep visiting them - they seem to be there for a couple of hours every Friday. But still they have been allowed to keep the kids they clearly loathe (the main thing we hear the man shrieking about is what a crap mum the woman is). Council won't do anything even though they only have an Introductory tenancy. And now they are doing up the garden etc so it looks like they fully intend to stay, even knowing neighbours have called SS on them and everyone (not just us) loathes them. I wish my old neighbour would come back!

Wishfulmakeupping · 11/03/2014 22:42

Can't stand my ndn. We moved to what should have been our dream house a few months ago and the elderly woman next door is a pain the arse- writing nasty notes to our visitors if they park in front of our house - yes ours not hers. Her dog barks continuously but there is no reasoning with her over either issue so have just left it now.
The rest seem quite ignorant I've tried chatting but given up now.
Our old neighbours were really lovely you really do to realise what a difference it makes

almondcake · 11/03/2014 22:44

Yes. One side does have dogs that bark a lot, but noise doesn't bother me.

LynetteScavo · 11/03/2014 22:48

I like my neighbours. One one side is a 90yo lady, and on the other is a really friendly man an his wife. The wife has never spoken to me, or acknowledged me, despite us living her for six years. I nearly didn't by this house because the neighbor was wearing a football shirt when we we viewing. He has since taken to wearing checked shirts, cord trousers and has grown a beard. (I approve Grin) The neighbours opposite are mixed. There is a young couple with a baby - I've only met the woman once, and she was cringingly passive-aggressive to another neighbor. This other neighbour is really nice. but her husband hates me, and has blanked me since I shouted at him. (Long story- OK, with hindsight I was in the wrong to shout, but he was in the wrong to block my drive every day, and I was late for work, and the kids were being hideous, and because I had to squeeze my car out, twice that morning and was late I scrapped my car on the wall - and I thought he was building the house and I would never see him again when it was finished: I didn't know he would actually move in!)

defonamechangedforthis · 11/03/2014 22:50

our new neighbours seem to hate us! We have moved to quite a posh area, but we are NOT posh! Next door have not spoken to us once despite our drive way passing their house and seeing them quite a few times!

i like to think they are just jealous that we have a bigger house - rather then just not liking the look of us! Grin

TwoAndTwoEqualsChaos · 11/03/2014 22:56

Middle of five terraces:

  1. new. Seems pleasant. Young. Works at the University. Can't park for toffee (as evidenced both by her parking and the huge dent in her bonnet) which isn't helping space on the road but she's still smiling when she sees us. No idea about not over-filling bins (which are then not taken) as she's only just moved out from her parents';
  1. currently has an open sewer in her back garden (and has since last August) owing to a cowboy plumber and a blocked drain. Water company and insurers in deadlock, sewage seeping onto our land, Council involved;
  1. us;
  1. substantially better since feral teenage children moved out and ok, but have recently put in for an extension which would dominate our garden and block out our light;
  1. not sure where to start: hates everyboody, especially our mutual neighbour. Watches from behind his net curtains. Car parked right across the dropped kerb outside his house, so as it is right up to the white line this side and causes parking problems. Never moves it (there is a weed growing by his back tyre and so much debris by his front that a pool forms when it rains, causing a puddle too big for DC3 (3) to cross) but he rants if you park too close even though he could back out as the next house down also has a dropped kerb and a white line and he sits in there when he thinks we are in bed on a Sunday revving the engine. Throws rubbish into our garden. Doesn't talk to us since being warned by the Police for an unprovoked, public foul-mouthed and threatening rant at me on a Sunday afternoon in front of my children for looking at his car ......

Not maasively pleased ATM ......

HesterShaw · 11/03/2014 22:57

I've just bought my first house and it could be awful, as it's all we could afford. Number 1 in a terrace, and the next six houses all have access past our back door to their gardens. The gardens all have low walls so we can see into each other's. However, touch wood, so far it's LOVELY! Really neighbourly and friendly. We have had moving in cards from four of them, and next door took a parcel for me today and came round with it.

However the other side of the road people could be a problem. They're always parking their souped up BMWs in our designated parking space. Grrrrrr.

Nocomet · 11/03/2014 23:07

Mine swear, mend cars very noisily, borrow tools they don't always return, had half the police round in the middle if the night, lit fireworks at 2am, borrow my phone and blag petrol they don't always pay for.

And I've learnt to be very fond of them, I even got a hug the other day from grown up DS1.

(Dad drinks, mums left, boys do the best they can with no money and no support and somehow they keep out of jail and quite often have jobs. Eldest one isn't very bright, but quite sweet and DH and me seem to have become chief problem solvers. Mostly by lending out landline so credit signal doesn't vanish while sorting out the benefits office)

FetchezLaVache · 11/03/2014 23:09

On one side, young couple. Nice but odd. Husband cripplingly shy, scuttles back into the house as fast as he can if I ever say hello over the garden fence, but the wife is quite chatty if you catch her in the right kind of mood. Neither of them seems to work and they spend all their time indoors with the blackout blinds drawn. One or both of them vomits alarmingly frequently.

On the other side, fuck knows. I infer that there are several blokes living there, but they're the end terrace and the front door is on the gable end, so I wouldn't actually recognise any of them if I saw them in Waitrose. From time to time they play trance music from about 1am until, presumably, they all pass out. This is usually accompanied by the loud, whining tones of what appears to be an extremely wasted woman. Always happy to let DS play with his ELC drum kit the following morning.

Nocomet · 11/03/2014 23:10

Hester you may find a kick or a shake of the sunroof sets off a BMWs car alarm.

Did we get the posh git who parked so our collage bins could be emptied out of bed at 1am Hmm that would be telling.

Nocomet · 11/03/2014 23:13

Couldn't be emptied.
Huge bins, clearly yellow lined reversing space.
Loads of room in the car park, but this area was 10 meters nearer the lazy arses flat.

Lovecat · 11/03/2014 23:26

One one side, they have 6 sons who play football all winter and cricket all summer. We are forever throwing balls back. Also have grown used to the world's noisiest fireworks at Diwali and New Year and any other festivities. Having said that, they are lovely people and take parcels in for us if we're not about. If asked, they would probably moan about our unkempt tree that overhangs their drive, mind you...

On the other side it's rented flats with a turnover every 3-6 months so I have no idea who any of them are - they seem to be resolutely unfriendly and unsmiling, every single lot of them. On the other side of them are a very smiley couple and their son who are a bit 'won't somebody think of the children!' as they are always coming round with petitions against stuff that they do not approve of.

Across the road we have nice enough people but they have just fitted a movement-activated security light so bright and so sensitive I can set it off by going to lock up (while still inside the house) at night. Keep meaning to say something to them...

And further down the road are the reason they have installed the light, an extended family of scrap metal dealers who do nice things like arc-welding at 2am, using the front garden as a toilet and parking their fleet of decrepit vans across our driveways then affecting not to understand English if you ask them to move... the neighbours across the road went to India for a month for a wedding and these people decided to try and squat their house - a minibus of them turned up, we called the police and the owner's son, they were sent on their way, but it wasn't very pleasant.

We are moving this year, with any luck. I will miss our football playing, firework lighting neighbours and possibly even the security light and petition-bringing neighbours, but the others I will be all too happy to wave goodbye to!

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charmschool · 11/03/2014 23:27

I like my neighbours. They're very good friends and are bloody lovely. However, one moved away and sold the house to very unfriendly people who drive their car too fast down the road and probably don't like us because they think we're cliquey.

CoilRegret · 11/03/2014 23:28

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ThatBloodyWoman · 11/03/2014 23:32

Our only neighbour is lovely.

We, on the other hand, are loud, scruffy, shrieky, bouncy trampoliney types.

FetchezLaVache · 11/03/2014 23:33

Dirty sex pond??

CoilRegret · 11/03/2014 23:39

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PatrickStarisabadbellend · 12/03/2014 00:34

My neighbour in the corner randomly accuses people of rape. She has moved from house to house because she's just an absolute gobshite.

She probably has a mental illness but i don't give a fuck. Everytime she accuses someone of sexually assaulting her it has to be investigated and it rips your life apart. Believe me when i tell you that she accuses someone at least twice a year.

She's also Indian/British so she also accuses you of being racist! Brilliant!

She also has a German Sheppard which she keeps outside, it's not in anyway trained and it constantly barks.I find myself barking along with it in my head.

She has lived here for 6 years and she has completely destroyed my once quiet street. She needs locking up for the safety of others.

scurryfunge · 12/03/2014 00:50

Our neighbours are a quarter of a mile away either side. One set are very nice people who invited us to their party when we moved in and we will stop and chat in the lane when passing. The other side I have yet to meet but my son knows their son from the local pub. No body affects anyone so life is good.

PatrickStarisabadbellend · 12/03/2014 00:58

She also told people that i beat her up. Sadly it was a lie.

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