AIBU to ask dd's dad not to message dd and friends in an app they use?

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My dd is only 6, she has her own tablet and I have allowed her to download kick to message 2 friends who are children, my female friend, me and her dad.

Hey friend is only 5 and is also on kick. My dd included her dad in a conversation with her and her friends (who are my friends children) dd's dad started messaging everyone involved in the conversation (created by 6year old dd) and he doesn't know my friends dc very well so if I was him I wouldn't message them.

Today he replied to my dd with lots of kisses xxxxxxx and the smiley face that has the heart shaped eyes. I felt it was not appropriate to send everyone in that message (happy for him to send them to my dd but not others).

Anyway I called him and asked him only to message dd and not my friend and her kids but he got all in a mood and started telling me I'm weird for saying that.

Now he is messaging me having a go at me for saying what I said, it's just if my friends ex was sending group messages with lots of kisses and heart shaped eyes I would think it was an inappropriate way to message.

So AIBU?

Wiggly, it wasn't the DF sending it to the DD it was him sending it to her as well as her friends who were in the group.

I'm struggling to get my head round this. I suppose what the OP is saying is, sending the kisses and emoticon to children he doesn't really know could cause alarm to their parents and I kinda get that, but then there's no way in hell I would let a 6 yo loose on a messaging app, so I keep going round in circles...

Just delete the app. Her dad can call her.

Speaking of children, why on earth is there an 11 year-old posting on here?

Whisk, I was just going to say that!

TheKid, are you lost? Wouldn't you prefer Minecraft to mumsnet?

I would say you ANBU your ex should only text your DD and not joint in conversations with her friends. If your ex does not know these children then its not appropriate. It's not so much what he has said but just the fact he is chatting with children he doesn't know.

For all the others saying a 6 year old should not have access to a text app I think it's a bit harsh. Maybe the KIK app is not the best choice but I don't see the harm in a basic messaging app. One without Internet access and greater parental controls would be better.

My DD is 4.5 and has an innotab 3s that comes with a messaging app (kid connect) I have to request the contacts from my phone via the app and approve them. She has me, DH, my mum and my mums partner as contacts and that is it. She finds it fun to send up gobbledygook messages and pictures. I see it has harmless fun ( although she does run off to 'text' her gran when I give we into trouble for something)

Dd's dad doesn't understand why he shouldn't send unsolicited messages to little girls he doesn't know?

What planet is he on?

Is he OK for your dd to get messages from adult strangers?

My dd 7 uses iMessage to message her dad who lives 4 hours away and works night shifts so often can't speak via phone. She only messages family members as that's the only people she has in her contacts. Dad, siblings, female cousin who's 15, nanny and myself and her step dad. No friends or any other adults.