To NOT want to tell people our 2month old pfb sleeps through the night (and has done since 3 days old)?

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I just think there's no way you can win with this. You look smug no matter what, and other parents will just hate us.

I KNOW it's just sheer luck and not any amazing thing we've done.

I think we should just lie about it.

My first dc did that. But then when she came up for the big growth spurts it stopped. And she woke up every hour thereon until 11 months. Having said that, a friends baby did sleep through, right from the start. And always did. Well, so he says anyway. Its probably true.

sleep now. my good sleeping baby is still wandering round his bedroom reading biff chip and kipper books. two gone wrongs for the price of one there. yes we are in the uk and yes it has gone midnihgt.

Ha Ha - I remember this well. Our eldest DD was a fantastic sleeper. When I said she was sleeping 12 - 6 in the morning from 2 weeks to our NCT group I swear some of them could have committed murder there and then.

Wasn't anything we did and she's a bloody nightmare at the moment now aged 8!
All we learnt from that experience was to keep quiet and be smug in silence.

What time does he wake OP? Only I know some people class 6am as morning. It is, however, the middle of the night.

My DD slept from 8pm - 6am at 7 weeks old. She was a great sleeper.

Number 2 not so good so far (he's 8 weeks old).

Ah but you've come on here to gloat instead

I had a super sleeper with second son and I told the whole world. Slept through from 5 weeks. No one thought I was smug though as they had seen me a teary shaking mess on my first who wouldn't sleep and wouldn't nap unless in transit meaning I couldn't rest in the day either. Bad times.

Enjoy it. Mine did the same, and I still have no idea what regression or transition is all about as they have always been great at sleeping (and eating).

But just don't tell anyone

So good to hear these stories. Pregnant with twins- first babies. This thread gives me hope. I don't go near the mn sleep boards any more as they made me cry- ended up bawling on DH and saying we were never going to sleep again and that was the norm and we would have to accept it. Too many horror stories and the odd brave person who says her baby sleeps gets lynched.

Just glad not to have a lot of people on a mn thread saying "I haven't slept since 2002" for once.

I was always honest and a teeny bit smug/relieved:-) as dc1 slept twelve hours a week from two months old. so now I have no trouble complaining to all and sundry that dc3 is regularly waking more than once at nine months and dc2 was awake at five every single morning until he was three years old!

I find it fascinating that you're allowed to say anything else your DC does is good, and you can even possibly say it's down to you - so you can say that your DC eats well, or doesn't tantrum much, and you can even say that you've taken a strong line on these things and it seems to have paid off - but god forbid you say you have a good sleeper!!

I do know that most good sleepers are born and not made, especially those that have slept well from a very young age. But why is it the one thing you're not allowed to just come out and say?

I've always made light of sleeping and never felt I was able to just openly say that so far, touch wood, we've had a good sleeper and like others have said, teething and illness hasn't changed that yet in 2 years. But I don't feel as uncomfortable in RL saying that we've generally got a good eater.

The overwhelming impression mums to be will get from MN is that kids don't sleep. It's not actually true, it's just one area where you're not allowed to say it!

I've found parenthood to be a whole minefield of people seemingly wanting to be 'torpedo commanders' ready to knock you on your arse when you're enjoying the good times!

I was never a boaster, and like you, chose to keep quiet. I remember my first trip to the the baby group hosted by the HV. DS was 10weeks old or so, and the topic was sleep. I proudly said that the night before, for the first time ever, he slept from 10pm 'til 8pm and I felt like a new woman... 'Oh DEAR!' she cried 'Well I think we'd all be very worried about so much sleep so young! you should be waking him for a feed at SOME POINT'

Talk about bursting my bloody bubble.

Random strangers would ask 'How does he sleep?' I'd mumble that he was okay... 'OH HO! WAIT 'til he's teething!'

I dreaded teething, waiting for him to become a monstrous sleeper... never happened.

Enjoy it, and ignore the torpedo commanders!

I thought the advice was not to let a baby that new sleep so long without a feed? I thought it was one 5-6 hr break without a feed per 24 hrs. This article is a bit old but has the info I have heard on the matter.

edition.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/family/09/05/ep.newborn.mistakes/index.html?iref=mpstoryview

DS has always been a pretty good sleeper (when well) but quite partial to a dream feed. Except for the 4 month sleep regression! Hope you don't get that one!

see? ^

I tell people if they ask as DD went through from 5 weeks and still does now at nearly 5 years. But I always felt myself apologizing for it or making excuses for it. Is making me question DC2 though (currently TTC) because I can't imagine being that lucky second time around and I don't function well with lack of sleep... Even now I go to bed at 9pm (even though I don't get up until 6am) because I worry that I'll be tired!!

I can only say it on the anonymous internet, but I have never (touch wood!) had a bad night with DD who's now nearly 4.

People thought I was coping so well because I was on my own with her and DS from before her birth, but thanks to cosleeping, mastering breast feeding lying down, and DD's willingness to go back to sleep after a feed, I never felt properly tired.

I see her as my reward after DS who was a completely different story

I always said my DS1 slept throught the night from day one.....14 years later and looking back i have realised that i am just a super heavy sleeper and probably just didn't hear him! My 2 alarm clocks don't even wake me up at all, don't hear a thing when i'm sparko....he survived though. Was he a good sleeper like i thought he was? I'll never know!

I felt guilty meeting up with my ante-natal class when the babies were all a few weeks old. They were all haggard and struggling with babies that wanted to breast feed for 3 hours then sleep for 30 mins and want to feed again. I tipped a 5 or 6oz bottle of formula into DS, he burped and then fell asleep immediately. They all just looked at me and said "Is that it?". And it would be, for about 4 hours during the day, and about 7 hours at night.

Sleeping through isn't 4/5hrs without waking/for a feed

As a qualified experienced (over 20yrs) nanny and night nanny I would say sleeping through is when they don't wake up for the 2//3/4/5am feed and sleep till 6/7am after a dream feed

I have had babies from 6weeks do this tho often is around the 10/12 week mark and then drop the dream feed 12/16weeks and do 7-7ish

The babies I look after from 2/3 weeks are then put in a routine - I don't allow to cry and get fretful (def too young for cc) but do get them feeding every 4hrs asap

A good daytime routine and regular feeds and sleeps help with a good nighttime routine

It is a shame that some mums feel they can't say their baby sleeps through - many talk about other milestones like first smile /when they roll over / sit up etc

Why should sleep be different?

I agree with Thurlow - it's only on Mumsnet that you constantly read about non-sleepers.

And it may well last - my DS slept through from practically birth, never had any problems sleeping, never woke with teething or anything like that (he's 13 now ). and he never caught bugs/sickness etc at nursery but I never dared admit that.

I admit it, I was lieing about my dd waking every 2 hours in the night..she has actually slept through since before she was born.

Ds actually did sleep 8-8 from about 12 weeks and was doing the short version of sleeping thru from probably 2 weeks. He was ff so I just presumed that was the bonus of ff. He is now a high maintenance 6 yr old.

DC1 was like that. Amazing sleeper. Still is. I made the mistake of admitting it and have paid the price with DC2. 15mo, really bad sleeper. It's unnatural.

It will be fine as long as you don't tell anyone.

Thurlow I think the reason people don't tend to say it is because (1) the ones that aren't sleeping are exhausted and desperate, and (2) when you have a bad sleeper people actually do spend a lot of time suggesting that you're doing something wrong, which is also why a lot of people don't admit to it in real life, only on mumsnet. Similarly, you don't hear about good sleepers on here all the time, because you don't need to post about it. My DS is a spectacularly good eater and feeder, but this means I don't need to start any posts about it.

As you say, it's also about how young it is - if your DC are sleeping well at 2 you could well have a hand in that, if your DC is sleeping well at 8 months you MAY have had a hand in that, if your DC is sleeping well at 8 weeks, then you're lucky. Same goes for eating, or grizzling, or lots of other thingsz

Too early to be smug.

Mine slept well until 4 months, and then all suffered 4 months sleep regression although to be fair was resolved with solids, and slept well again after that.

If anyone asks just say so far he's a good sleeper (without going into details).