Beard ruining sex life

[MacMac123]

My partner and i's sex life has been not that great since having kids, particularly dc2, now 15 months.
The past few months he's grown this 'trendy' beard which I hate and it's made things so much worse. I can see it looks good and suits him, and ironically i fancy him with it! But I cannot stand the feel of it. Every time he kisses me I feel full of rage that he's put this prickly barrier between us when things werent great anyway. He knows I don't like it but probably doesn't realise how much it is irking me, but I feel even more rage that he just doesn't seem to care that I don't like the feel of it.
I've dropped a few (alot) of hints but can't go further than that. I feel it's wrong to tell someone else what to do with their looks and he's getting loads of compliments. But at the same time, it's increasing the physical distance between us because kissing him reminds me of having a beardy old uncle near me. Why would he jeopardise our sex life when it's fragile anyway (and just like the economy was showing signs of recovery until the beard came along!)

aibu?

I agree rap

I have a beard have had for 12-13 years. Various partners have had different reactions. They all liked the look but not all could handle it ! Female friends whose husbands have beards all ascertain that mine is like copper wire and whilst i haven't snogged my male friends a gentle rub of their hairy mugs does tell me that mine is quite fierce by comparison. My (very) new GF again likes the look and the feel but it does make her face go very red, doesn't seem to be putting her off yet.
No moisturiser/conditioner etc makes any difference.

Don't know if I would shave it off though...

I agree with his face = his choice. I have found that there is an in betweeny growth stage that is uncomfortable, so maybe OP will be less scratched once it's grown and looked after a little bit more.

Beards, why are they in fashion?? I keep seeing young men with full beards on pale white faces, just yuck...

My DH is attempting to grow a beard. He looks like Walter White.

Bleugh

Saw 2 attractive men the other day - well they would have been more attractive if they didn't look unshaven to the extent that they looked like they'd stepped straight out of Das Boot!!

Wow so many replies! The beard may be masking issues, I'm not saying its not! I already said the sex life wasnt ideal!!
But why make something that's not great worse. To me it seems like pouring oil over a wet road and then trying to roller skate down it! Ie it's hard when it's wet but worse when it's got oil on it!

Ok not a great analogy.
I'm aware our sex life isn't great post kids, but was trying to get it back on track.
Anyway I've communicated more clearly that I don't like the feel of the beard. I think he's going to shave it, I don't mind if he sometimes has one I just don't want him to have it forever and never take a break from it!

I hate this current trend for beards.

Agree, macmac.

I only allow holiday beards, to give dh a break from shaving. But other times, he is either clean shaven or he does not get full action.

Gawd dame/oxford am actually jealous now - no hope of a beard with my dp...

Don't like beards.
My DH knows to shave if he wants any!

I beg for a beard from DH...so sexy...

I only 'allow' holiday beards

I prefer DP with a beard as if he shaves in the morning he has spiky stabby stubble by bedtime. At the moment he has gone for a full on mad professor/ Brian Blessed beard. I found it quite disconcertingly fluffy. I think I freaked him out a bit when I told him that I found it distracting during sex until I started imagining that he was a Greek good and I was a nymph.