I think DH shouldn't get involved

[Bigmrsdragon]

My SIL (my DHs sister) and her partner are expecting their first baby and have decided not to find out the sex.

However a few weeks ago I took her shopping for baby clothes and everything she chose was very girly,like a fluffy white coat with pink lining and bibs with bunnies in dresses and pink trim.
She is also very vocal saying she wants the baby to be a girl, she wouldn't know what to do with boys and a girl is her dream etc.
Yesterday I was with SIL and she said that she didn't want something her friend bought her because it was a bit boyish.

The thing is her partner doesn't know the sex and I think she is lying to him about it too. My DH is also suspicious and he wants to tell her partner that she seems to be lying to him.

I have told him not to because it isn't our business but DH really wants too and he keeps saying how unfair it is.

So should DH tell him or just leave them to it.

Does your dh hang out with his BIL? If it was me I might be inclined to say (if I was generally spending time with someone) that their wife seemed very keen on having a girl. I think that there are two issues here, one is if she knows that she is having a girl but her dh does not, and the other is if she is overly fixated on having a girl. The first I'd see as being entirely between husband and wife and no big deal. The second can be a big issue if the baby turns out not to be the desired sex, and might be worth flagging perhaps.

Your husband is a crap brother consider going against his sister and "outing" her "secret". It is nothing to do with him, or anyone other than his sister and her husband. It isn't like she was doing something horrible, like secretly drinking or smoking crack! Why in the world does he care? The baby will be born and the sex revealed.

My cousin bought all boy stuff as the ultrasound tech told her it was a boy...guess what...she wasn't.

If my brother involved himself in my marriage the way your DH wants to.

He wouldn't get a chance to do it again.

If he wants to stay a close family he should keep his opinion on this to himself.

There's being close & there's interferring!

I agree - there's close, and there's being inappropriate and interfering.
If he keeps schtum the former will still apply...if he opens his self appointed mouth it will be the latter.
As someone else has said - no one will thank him for his stickybeaking, least of all his sister, that he reckons he's so close to.

He's being a tit.

I don't get his desire to be such a nosey nelly and stick his beak in something thst has dod all to do with him.

What does he think will happen?

hey brother, I think your wife knows the gender of the baby

and then what? How does it all play out in his head? What benefit is there to the couple to say something that may cause an argument between them?

He must have some idea how he thinks it would all go, so what is it?

oh thank you brother, I am so glad you told me, you are a great person, my marriage is so improved thanks to your giving me this information. We are so much happier now.

or hey wife, I hear you are buying girls clothes, what's that about?
I really hope it will be a girl/I want a girl/ I found out the gender...

hugs? happiness? roof raising row?

How's this little play end in your husband's head?

brother = brother in law. It's early.

Your DH is BVVVVU

He needs to keep his nose out and his mouth shut or he may find himself seeing considerably less of his niece/nephew than he otherwise might.

I showed him this thread and he has agreed not to mention it. Though he keeps saying that he thought he was doing the right thing.

"Close" implies love. What is loving about contemplating a thing like that? He wants to "out" her, shame her, show her for the liar she is, be her judge and her jury. DH could have a long, hard think about who and what he is.

Agreed your DH should but out. It's ok for her to know and him not to. They may have agreed to do this and also for her not to tell anyone.

Does anyone really give a shit about the sex of anyones elses baby?