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To want to punch my maternity cover in his egotistical face?!

180 replies

McFox · 05/03/2014 11:00

I come off work in 11 weeks - yipee! However the boss has thrown me a massive project before I go off, so I've had very little time to go through the whole advertising and interview process to find a replacement. We were offered someone from a sister organisation with the same background to me, albeit from a completely different industry (I work in a very specialised part of the healthcare industry) and so we hired him and brought him in early to take over the more routine bits of my job while I concentrate on directing the major project.

So far so sensible, but he is really ambitious, a total climber. When I've asked him to do something over the past 2 weeks (that's how long he's been here) comments I've had back include "I don't understand the context so I can't give you an opinion on whether that's the right thing to do or not" and "I'm not sure that you're coming at this from the right angle, I would suggest..." - I want to scream. I wasn’t asking for opinions, I was asking for it to be done!

He has also: kept ideas to himself until we're in external meetings with clients where he makes the suggestion, putting me in an awkward position; been telling my staff to make changes to things without discussing it with me first; telling me that I should be considering doing x/y/z. This is all driving me mad – partly because I’m a control freak and have built and been successfully running this department for 3 ½ years, and partly because I have a horrible feeling that the minute I leave he is going to dismantle lots of my hard work to show what he’s achieved while he’s been in the post.

He’s on a fixed term contract, I’ll only be off for 9 months, and will be working a couple of days a month from December onwards, so he knows that I’m not walking away entirely (and I don’t think that he’s happy with that, but tough, my CEO is very happy with that plan).

So, what do I do – he has an awful lot to learn about this industry and is going to cause problems if he carries on being so opinionated. Several colleagues have commented that he rubs people up the wrong way/thinks a lot of himself, so should I keep schtum and let him hang himself so to speak, or speak to my boss and raise these concerns? I am so nervous about leaving at a critical time in the growth of the business anyway, and my boss knows this, that I don’t want to come across paranoid, but neither do I want him messing things up!

OP posts:
SnakeyMcBadass · 08/03/2014 10:18

What happened?

fryingpantoface · 08/03/2014 15:58

?

Slapperati · 08/03/2014 17:03

Dammit McFox come back!

FreeWee · 08/03/2014 20:54

Sounds sort of similar to my maternity leave cover but he wasn't quite as much of an arse. He flitted from post to post rubbing people up the wrong way. I'm now back from maternity leave and he's in a new role. He is a much nicer person for the experience of trying to outdo me in my job, failing and being shifted into a different role. He said 'I feel like I've failed' which was reassuring for me because he tried to do my job completely differently. In a way that if that's what the organisation wanted I'd have been screwed because they aren't my talents. But when I met our big boss she said 'X has been busy doing XYZ...but we'd like you to focus on ABC' i.e. just do what I'm good at.

He wouldn't take any advice about managing people but when I returned said pretty much exactly back to me what I'd said to him! So on reflection having someone like that do your job while you're away makes you look good when you get back! It's hard handing over a team to someone else and I am building back up what languished in my absence but nothing is permanent, nothing is forever so if I was you I'd sort out as much as you can while you're there but trust your boss to have your back while you're gone. Don't stress about the things you can't control but do set up frameworks within which there's not massive room for him to screw up your plans. And when you're on maternity leave your new baby will be way more important than this douche. Hope the meeting went well.

ilovesooty · 08/03/2014 22:32

He sounds like my last line manager - referred to as either twat features or cock face...

He seems to have a problem with competent women as well.

MiscellaneousAssortment · 08/03/2014 22:51

Oh nooo, no update? OP I'm rooting for you!

fukkigucci · 09/03/2014 11:55

Yoohoo!! O peeeeeee!

PivotPIVOT · 09/03/2014 19:41

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Sharingeverything · 10/03/2014 12:47

Please come back OP I need to know what happened not that I'm over interested in a strangers life

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 10/03/2014 12:52

Maybe the throat punch proved to be fatal and she is now in custody?

GingerMaman · 10/03/2014 13:49

Marking my place for update

Ratbagcatbag · 10/03/2014 14:01

Place marking, I want to know how it went.

DoJo · 10/03/2014 14:03

Me too - sounds like there may be some awkwardness up ahead...

Slapperati · 10/03/2014 20:16

Please please pleeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaase come back, even if to tell us you can't tell us anything.

TalkieToaster · 10/03/2014 22:19

I need to know what happened. Need. To. Know.

Chloerose75 · 10/03/2014 22:26

Come on OP!

Pimpf · 10/03/2014 22:30

Shameless place marking!

What an arse!

TaurielTest · 11/03/2014 21:04

Come back McFox...

ChrisMooseAlbanians · 11/03/2014 21:07

Please update us!

JupiterGentlefly · 11/03/2014 21:18

Lovely weather for march Grin

poorbuthappy · 11/03/2014 21:23

Yes, just a hint of what's to come over the weekend, and then back down to earth today...

Redcliff · 11/03/2014 22:52

But I hear its going to be nice tomorrow .

ScaredToBeHonest · 12/03/2014 07:34

As it is so nice, thought I'd take a stroll and just hang around here for a while

digerd · 12/03/2014 08:06

OddFodd
That man had tried to 'Wendy' you careerwise. Good for your super big boss lady that he failed.

Slapperati · 12/03/2014 09:42