AIBU to be slightly annoyed by towel folding

[WholeNutt]

Or lack of, I showed dh how I personally fold our towels so they look neat and fit on our smallish bathroom shelf. He asked how I did it, I showed and we folded the rest together. I already sound a twat

Anyway, I go into the bathroom to find the newly laundered towels stuffed on the shelf in various shapes and sizes, yes it just towels and yes I'm a neat freak but ffs don't put them in the bathroom if you can't be arsed to fold them!

I'm not grateful he attempted to help, he just couldn't be fucked to put them away properly. I have issues don't I?!

Martha Stewart also taught me how to fold sheets with elasticated edges so that they sit flat.

I feel your pain, OP. Aesthetics are very important for me. Luckily, my DH has his own half of the wardrobe and I have mine and they do not connect. I DO NOT go into his.

Martha Stewart also taught me how to fold sheets with elasticated edges so that they sit flat

Piechomper I do feel that if you reveal your secret my life would be complete!!

Porkpie there are tutorials on youtube. It revolutionised my linen cupboard

I think you need to pick your battles. The towels are put away, albeit not in the way you would have done. He is trying to help, if the towels have to be done your way then do them and ask him to do something else.

I have found my people!!!

I spent ages refolding my airing cupboard a few weeks ago. I felt enlightened when I read about duvets covers in pillows on here.

I just watched the anthea towel clip.

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Mumsnet gold.

Of course it's not unreasonable to be annoyed when towels aren't folded properly

As long as it's not unreasonable to be massively annoyed when teaspoons aren't put in the right slot in the cutlery drawer

I watched the Anthea towel clip. I still don't give a shit.
You have to make sure no edges show? Why? towels have edges? What's so offensive about edges? And when I pick up one of my towels I can carry it anywhere I want without it suddenly unfolding itself around my neck and strangling me, or something? Still don't get it. Sorry.

It's the attention to detail..says a lot about a person I feel.

What does it say about a person?

I think it says 'focusses on details that don't matter' personally.
If my dh demanded I fold towels in a certain way, stack the dishwasher a certain way, or organise the cutlery drawer beyond knives/forks/spoons/teaspoons, I'd tell him to take a running jump. He does like to do the dishwasher and drawer in a certain way, but he would never impose that on me.

He's ex forces he should know how to be neat and tidy

You're so right. I mean, EVERYONE knows Army training starts
Day One: Rifles
Day Two: Towel folding

Wanders off laughing to self...

Kentishgirl I love you a bit

YANBU to be annoyed but YABU to expect other people to do things exactly the same way as you

I realised soon after my DP moving in with me that I would have to do the majority if the domestic stuff because I'd just be spending getting disproportionally irritated by incorrectly folded towels and the like!

DP does bins, mows lawn, runs errands etc. I do laundry and cleaning so that it's done "properly". Call it sexist if you like. Works for me!

I can't stand screwed up, untidy towel-shoving, either, Whole!

I think you talking about YOUR standards in YOUR house shows a lack of appreciation that is not just YOUR house.

Joysmum this is very true, an understanding that I have reached with my DH. Which is why I don't touch his belongings unless they get in my way (I spend more time at home than he does): his dirty socks and pants and whatever lie wherever he leaves them. I have no problem with this, it's his home as much as it's mine.

However, not stacking the dishwasher in an efficient manner is wasteful: it's not about having a pretty dishwasher, it's about not having to run it more than once a day, about not leaving a stack of dirty dishes in the sink to wake up to the next morning because someone couldn't be bothered to arrange the dishwasher properly. And it is a question of not being bothered, it's not because he was busy thinking up a cure to cancer or reading War and Peace.

The towels thing is the same thing. Our shelves would be heaving if all the towels went in willy nilly. Each time someone pulled a towel out, the whole lot would come tumbling down. It's disrespectful of the other person's time: I want to spend my time reading War and Peace, not picking up all the towels off the floor because the person I share my house with couldn't be bothered to spend an extra 45 seconds stacking them properly.

This is what's annoying.

Hopes no MNetter comes to Chez Konkey to discover my shameful screw into a ball and ram in drawer method