To be irritated immensely by this person calling their house by its name instead of just saying "my house"

[Turquoisetamborine]

It's my stepmother to be who is revealing herself to be more and more of a narcissist.

She will say "I'm having work done at Gables Boulevard" (not real name of house) or "should we meet at Gables Boulevard before we go out?"

Why not just say I'm having some work done at my house or should we meet at mine before we go out?

I probably am being unreasonable as this is one thing in many that she is doing to irritate and take my dad away from us.

I feel almost like she's talking about her house, which is an average bungalow not a mansion, in the third person.

Depends where she lives TBH. If she's on a "normal" road then it's a bit OTT. If she's some lords house, gamekeepers cottage in the woods or other "feature" then fair enough.

I had relatives that lived in one & they called it by name all the time because the whole village referred to it like that.

Sometimes if you've lived in a few you refer to them by name/number as in "at number 45".

I does sound like you resent her & this is just one facet of your pissed-offness....

It does sound silly and pretentious, IMO. Surely most people would just say "my house." Some houses don't actually have a number, but even so how often do you have to refer to your address? I don't say, "I'm just off to 17 Cherry Tree Lane." Why would I say, "I'm going to Numpty Manor"? Most people would just say, "I'm going home."

When I was a teenager my parents thought it would be a good idea to name our (very ordinary) house. They came up with a name and even had stationery printed. I cringed with the embarrassment only a teen can know. The name fizzled out after a few months, thank God.

Actually, I have just recalled something. My DParents are not actually in the slightest bit pretentious. They bought a retirement cottage in my home country (not the UK) which was teeny tiny and as a family joke named it 'Highgrove'.

Just before they moved there full time, easily 15 years ago now we were sitting in a café in my home town (which became quite popular as a touristy place- artists colony sort of thing) with their dogs (Bedlington Terriers) and we were chatting away about the move to Highgrove and this and that.

A few weeks later in one of those sunday magazine supplements to the papers there was an article about my home town which I read and there was a comment that the place was ghastly as it was filled with well-heeled older people with 'their designer dogs talking about their country retreats they have named after Royal Houses'. It simply could not have been a coincidence so I assume the journalist was sitting in the café and overheard us. My DParents were horrified..... as the Highgrove thing was taking the piss really.

So we nn their cottage 'Low-Grove'.

I had forgotten all about that until this thread!

Jesse - I suppose it came about partly because all of us cousins had 2 grannys if you see what I mean. If talking to my brothers, the xxxx substituted for a descriptor if which granny were were talking about. So we'd say "are you going to the vicarage?" For one set of grandparents and "are you going to ?" For others.

Fwiw the grandmother in question didn't talk of her house with a name, so wouldn't say "are you coming to the vicarage?" but would say "are you coming to stay with me?"

My house has a name, but don't call it by its name, it's 'home' or 'my house'

eg - I'm going home, meet me at mine, I'm doing some work on my house

Seems a bit pretentious to say "meet me at Stinkle House"

I feel though this is almost the opposite of what OP is saying, but I can only liken this to one of my SILs who has married into a fairly wealthy family who own several properties, which she refers to as "hers" or "my villa in Tuscany" or "my Greek place" etc when discussing her holiday plans. Reality is that they belong to her ILs or their extended family and friends. I can only think it is a way of showing off and really gets my goat! In this instance I think it would be preferable if she called them by their name rather than seeming to claim ownership of things which aren't hers!!

my house has a name but its very boring so I refer to my house as [my surname] Towers. like Trump Towers.

well its sort of like Trump Towers

An extremely twatty person i used to know always referred to her house as a perios property, which i used to call tampax towers or lil-let lodge (mooncup mansion?!?!) behind her back.

Knobheads. You are definitely not unreasonable.

I have a friend who calls his house "Wake Acres". Wake is not his real surname, but it rhymes with it. I have used "Wake" to conceal his identity...

It annoys me because it is just a rather scruffy house with a miniature garden.

I am going to try to understand her a bit more and welcome her to the family a bit more but the house name thing will never fail to annoy me. She even said it today " I'd rather you got dressed for the wedding at Gables Boulevard than your peasant house".

Horses for courses eh!

I used to work with a set of grandparents who did this... I used to think it was rather pretentious until I went to the house. It is THE most beautiful house I've ever seen- inside and out and is rather large and stately with lots of grounds and a lake... It certainly deserves a name!!

But yes, if it's a 'normal' house it does sound a bit bucket!!

When DM (who is Bucket Woman to the core) bought her new house thirty years ago the loo was shown on the diagram abbreviated to 'Downstairs Cloaks' - and she has called it that ever since.

'Have you any hand cream Mum?'
'In the downstairs cloaks'
'In the loo you mean?
'Yes. The downstairs cloaks'

AAARRRRGGGHHH!

It sounds as tho you struggle to accept her into your family as well. I'd say play the game too, and eventually you do have to just accept that she is part of your dad's and your life as well. You don't have to like her immediately....but she is the one your dad chose ( or vice versa maybe lol)