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AIBU?

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To ask what you'd think about this

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PublicEnemyNumeroUno · 03/03/2014 19:46

So, say your husband/partner does the school run whilst you work. He's made a few friends up at the school, mainly people you are friends with too.

There's one of the other mums neither of you know, she's quite young, always very well put together (full face of make up, hair done, always in dresses etc) and your partner seems to have taken a shine to her, you've been told by a few different people that your partner always stares at her and has told her she's pretty and that she always looks nice on more than one occasion

Would you think nothing of it or would you suspect he fancied her?

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UnicornCrisps · 03/03/2014 19:49

Sounds like he fancies her, which in itself wouldn't bother me but approaching her to make compliments I would be pissed off with.

WitchWay · 03/03/2014 19:51

Agree with Unicorn.

Has this really happened BTW? You don't think the people who told you they heard him complimenting her are trying to cause trouble?

shakinstevenslovechild · 03/03/2014 19:51

I would think he fancied her. Which is fine, but if people are noticing him staring then that is quite creepy, and if he is approaching her on more than one occasion to tell her how pretty she is that's hugely overstepping the mark.

Waltonswatcher1 · 03/03/2014 19:51

I would ask my partner , not listen to nasty gossip.

CailinDana · 03/03/2014 19:52

Yes I'd think he fancied her, which is fine, but I'd tell him he was making a bit of a fool of himself and stop acting like a hormonal teenager.

Onesleeptillwembley · 03/03/2014 19:53

I'd wonder just who was the teenager. It all sounds childish and pathetic. 'He said she said'.

Floggingmolly · 03/03/2014 19:54

Yes, he's making it fairly obvious, you can't pretend he's not.
Is your information correct though; announcing that you think someone is "pretty", and "always looks nice" is a bit heavy going for standing at the school gates, is it not?

He sounds about 12, pretty embarrassing really.

MuttonCadet · 03/03/2014 19:55

Yes, I'd think he fancied her, but was making it embarassingly obvious. Embarassing for him, not you, but you might want to tell him to rein it in before she has to say something.

Funnyfoot · 03/03/2014 19:55

He fancies her. Not a bad thing in itself. I fancy loads of people all the time. But that's where it stays. If you trust him don't worry about it. Find a hot dad to drool over and periodically mention it to your DH/DP

Finola1step · 03/03/2014 19:56

My DH does the vast majority of the school and nursery drop offs and pick ups. The people who are telling you this, are they well meaning friends trying to give you the heads up? Or more school gate acquaintances who might enjoy a little stirring?

We do unfortunately live in an age where Ufor some, the sight of a dad doing the school run every day is something worth gossiping about. Strange, but true.

You could approach the situation by telling your DH what other people are saying in a "be careful around so and so, some people like to gossip about ..." See what his reaction is. You should be able to tell if he is over defensive. Or not as the case may be.

There are some people in this world who like to do nowt but stir other people's puddings.

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PublicEnemyNumeroUno · 03/03/2014 19:56

Yes this is a real situation, but not me and my DH

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Funnyfoot · 03/03/2014 19:57

Oh so are you the pretty mum at school?

Troglodad · 03/03/2014 19:58

If true, totally inappropriate YANBU.

Beware gossip, though - it is often nonsense.

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PublicEnemyNumeroUno · 03/03/2014 19:58

No i'm not the pretty mum lol

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LizLemonOut · 03/03/2014 19:59

Why did these people tell you these things, is there an ulterior motive? Easy to have a go at young, pretty women, isn't it

Funnyfoot · 03/03/2014 19:59

Only1scoop · 03/03/2014 20:00

Is it you?

Has someone's Dh said you are pretty?

KatieScarlett2833 · 03/03/2014 20:00

Someone should tell the DH to dial down the slavering as he's making a tit of himself.

UnicornCrisps · 03/03/2014 20:01

It must be quite uncomfortable for her to have him gawping at her. I'd be embarassed by his behaviour if it was my DH.

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PublicEnemyNumeroUno · 03/03/2014 20:05

No its not me, but somebody i know, in friends with 'pretty mum' ive heard this, ive been there when he's made these comments.

I don't know wether others have actually heard this, but was wondering how his wife would react if she found out, personally id be fuming, but im a jealous type.

His wife is very popular at the school and id hate it if people turned on my friend for anything (she generally just looks embarrassed when he makes comments)

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LizLemonOut · 03/03/2014 20:10

Ugh, he sounds vile. If I was pretty mum I'd ask him to please not make such inappropriate comments. And stay the hell away from him!

AnyFucker · 03/03/2014 20:12

if I was her I would tell him to back the fuck off

Funnyfoot · 03/03/2014 20:14

Short but moving speech Any

kotinka · 03/03/2014 20:16

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AnyFucker · 03/03/2014 20:20

it works as well as sugar coating it, FF

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