To ask what you'd think about this

[PublicEnemyNumeroUno]

So, say your husband/partner does the school run whilst you work. He's made a few friends up at the school, mainly people you are friends with too.

There's one of the other mums neither of you know, she's quite young, always very well put together (full face of make up, hair done, always in dresses etc) and your partner seems to have taken a shine to her, you've been told by a few different people that your partner always stares at her and has told her she's pretty and that she always looks nice on more than one occasion

Would you think nothing of it or would you suspect he fancied her?

She is quite shy and tries to just laugh it off but i know it embarrasses her.

He doesn't drool all over her or anything like that, but if he spots her in the school yard his face actually lights up and he makes a bee line to come over and say hello, if he's with others he will keep looking over, then once i overheard him tell her she looked 'lovely' and that she 'always looks lovely' another time he said 'oh i was looking forward to seeing what you'd be wearing today, you always look so nice'

Oh dear, it makes you cringe doesn't it. How old is he?

perhaps you could have a word, OP, and tell him he is making a cock of himself

it's like taking candy from a baby < sheesh >

Id say he's maybe late 20's early 30's. My friend is mid 20s

Ive offered to have a word, but my friend doesn't want me to, she thinks it will cause drama and she doesn't like drama

Ew ew ew. I'd be fuming if I was his wife and I'd be mortified if I was pretty mum. Tell him to back off! Can she just loudly enquire after his wife's health every time he bothers her?

it doesn't have to create drama

Just tell him, I doubt he'd broadcast it.

These kind of things really bring home to me how 'unfair' being a woman can be. The way we can be made to feel as if we are creating drama for stating the obvious, or just saying when something makes us feel uncomfortable. Of course it's always convenient for pervy married men.

indeed

women, know your place !

STFU and worry about causing a fuss even if some slimy git makes you feel uncomfortable

smashing

indeed

women, know your place !

STFU and worry about causing a fuss even if some slimy git makes you feel uncomfortable

smashing

she should say my (marine/army/firefighter) boyfriend loves it i will be sure to tell him you said that

We have two inappropriate dads at our school, both are married. Older creepy innuendo dad (last year we discovered he has been shagging one of the mums, who is married and had been having MH crisis, so nice classy man, there) and fake best friend dad, who moves in on people, discloses totally uncomfortable/inappropriate stuff about his marriage and DW, attempts to strike up a "friendship" so he can slag off his wife and... you know where that tries to go eventually. Everybody feels sorry for DW who is "one of the mums".

Not once has anyone felt brave enough to say "oh do fuck off". It really isn't that easy to rock the boat like that.

I'd ask him outright "Do you fancy [pretty girl] in the playground?"

I would feel a bit uneasy telling him to fuck off.

I'd probably say "I feel embarrassed when you say stuff like that" and follow up with "please stop it" if necessary.

With a bit of luck he will then fuck off.