To be fed up with splitting everything with people who have more children

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We have only one dis. We wanted more but couldn't. I'm just quite fed up with some people whom think it's ok to split the bill when they have two or sometimes more kids. They should at least offer to chip in a bit more right? Family are the worst. We're next expected to split a holiday three ways when sil family get a chalet all to themselves while we have to share with parents in law.

We have done this a few ways.

Sharing a villa with another family. We split the costs in half.

A group of family/friends/DCs. We divided costs into per person.

Separate apartments- each family paid for the accommodation they had.

I think it never seems to work out exactly fair though and usually we take a hit. The last time we did this, and it will be the last time ever we only had one DC with us, the other families two. For two weeks we subbed them at every meal as our child had a kids meal and their 2 DCs ordered filet steak and the like. They never, not once, appeared to notice the discrepancy or offered more than half the bills.

NO more family holidays! It sounds horrible and yanbu btw, I would never expect anyone to pay for my children..especially if they are subsidising my holiday!

I hate this sort of situation as well, and I sympathise with you because I don't believe you are BU. Given the ill health of MIL, I would let it go this one occasion. How likely is it that you will be sharing a holiday with BIL and family in the future, because it might make you feel better to start planning a separate holiday for next year?

Regarding the food and drink situation, do you have to/want to eat out all the time, because eating in will be a lot cheaper, especially the drink, even if occasionally. Plus I would be wanting a meal in or out just me, DH and DS at some point. Could you offer for BIL and SIL to go out for dinner w/o kids, and you make a cheaper meal for the ILS and DN's on that occasion? It looks like a generous gesture, but will be far less expensive than paying a share in a restaurant; and BIL and SIL will have to pay for their own meal out on this occasion so cost won't be an issue. It's possible that MIL might not feel up to eating big restaurant meals all the time as well.

I think in situations like this, it really comes down to finances.

I am going on a similar holiday this year - myself and DP, my parents, and my DB, DSIL and 2 x DNs. DP and I are sharing accommodation with my parents. DB et al have their own accommodation. We're splitting three ways (between adults) and we don't mind that at all (in fact we insist) because it helps my DB out a bit - but then we can afford it no problem. If finances were tight, then maybe we'd have to do it differently.

I think in this case, because of your MILs situation, you should suck it up on this occasion.