You get out all your old baby things, give them to dad and then he'll bring them over and I'll pick what I want

[HuiledOlive]

Is this a reasonable answer to 'do you want to borrow anything for the new baby'?

My youngest is 8, the baby things are not carefully filed away for when Princess Sister had a baby, they are instead randomly scattered in lofts, sheds and with other friends who've borrowed them.

AIBU to be a bit pissed off that I'm expected to get EVERYTHING out, she can't even come and get it herself and I'll be getting the rejects back! Oh and I am recovering from cancer (not seen dsis throughout my illness)!

I'm happy to dig out some items but this seems too much to me. They are far from struggling financially so I expect there will be a good deal she doesn't want.

[HuiledOlive]

I guess it hurts more than normal because we wanted another dc, but the illness has prevented it, a fact that has not even been acknowledged by dsis or other family members.

[JohnnyUtah]

I don't think you should have made the offer really, she sounds really ungrateful. I think that won't work for me is the best answer now. Sorry she is so unsupportive of you.

Ps Love your username!

[MamaMumra]

I have to say that you did offer - I think she doesn't sound like she does wants anything or she might have been specific, so I wouldn't worry about it.

Sorry you've been through a rough time though OP.

[HuiledOlive]

Thanks for your kind wishes, its been a bad time health-wise but I'm nearly out the other end, fingers crossed.
I might dig out a few things to show willing. I think its the fact the I'm pretty sure she'll turn her nose up at it anyway that makes me disinclined to go to a lot of trouble.
There's a young woman at work who is unexpectantly pg, she and her bf have very very little money and no parent support. I feel much more inclined to give it all to them. They would come round and dig through my loft for it too rather than expect us to. But I'm worried about reaction from family.

[frogslegs35]

Nah don't waste your time OP.
If she's interested, kindly draw maps where the items now live and send her to view them/pick them up.

[daphnehoneybutt]

The bitch doesn't even want to see you.

I agree with PP - say it's got damp / eaten by mice.

[NigellasDealer]

mm just say ooh sorry it was in the attic and there was a leak!
then invite your young colleague and her partner over to dig it out.
and please do not worry about what family will think.

[DeWe]

You'd unfortunately offered it all (and it was then taken) a couple of months ago before you knew she was pregnant didn't you?
Sorry and all that.

[whois]

What sebsmummy1 said. Happy to dig something specific out but you're not up to collating everything together.

[MerryWinterfel]

Give token tatty stuff to sister and nice stuff to unexpectedly pregnant friend from work :) If questioned by family look very hurt and say how nice the stuff was and how lovely, ramble on until they give up and go away :) Job done :)

[FryOneFatManic]

If she couldn't be bothered to see you, then yes, give the stuff to pregnant work friend, who I bet would really appreciate it by what you've written.

[Sharaluck]

Just say sorry you are too busy and you doubt she would want anything anyway.

[MomOfTwoGirls2]

Tell her it is scattered all over (your loft?) and that you haven't the energy now or in the near future to go searching it out, but herself and her DH are welcome to come over and dig through your loft for it themselves.
I'm sure she will refuse, and then you can make same offer to your work colleague.

[UriGeller]

Draw her a map to Mothercare.