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Original poster

To think this is utter bollocks.

51 replies

Koothrapanties · 22/02/2014 08:29

"Ladies if your child's father is emotionally, physically or financially available to their child, you are not a single mother you are a single woman."

I have just seen a nobhead on my Facebook post this. I think it is the OR that annoys me the most. Apparently this is "so true" and 14 people have liked it. Hmm

I am not a single mother, so you may feel its not my place to comment on this, but I think it's bloody ridiculous. Aibu?

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BakeOff · 22/02/2014 08:46

I'm not a SM, but I'd say if a mother is not getting anything more from the father than one might expect to get from a close friend or grandparent (eg. A bit of childcare sometimes, a bit of cash perhaps or clothes/food bought for the child although not nearly as much as the mother puts in herself) then I'd say she was most definitely a single parent.

Post the following comment:
"Women, if your child's father is not providing as much emotional, physical or financial support to their child as you are, you are effectively a single mother and perhaps you should consider also becoming a single woman."

FunkyBoldRibena · 22/02/2014 08:47

Gentlemen - if you are emotionally, physically or financially available to their child but not all three all of the time - then you are a cunt'.

BakeOff · 22/02/2014 08:50

Forget mine - go wth Funky's!

WeAreEternal · 22/02/2014 08:51

I think he is confusing the terms single parent and lone parent.
Single is just about relationship status really, but lone suggests you are parenting along with little or no support.

Either way his comment is wanky, as is he.

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Koothrapanties · 22/02/2014 08:51

I like it funky.

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LineRunner · 22/02/2014 08:52

Ladies, know your place.

Alchemist · 22/02/2014 08:53

Funky Smile has nailed it!

Gladvent · 22/02/2014 08:55

Sounds like a confused Beyoncé impression gone wrong.

FrigginRexManningDay · 22/02/2014 09:11

Thats sounds like a load of wanky twattery.

Single parent is different to lone parent. My ex provides nothing not even a forwarding address for his dd therefore I was a lone parent. If ex had contributed all three gems mentioned I would beva single parent.
Providing Emotional, physical OR financial support for your child makes you a cunt, providing all three makes you a parent.

FunkyBoldRibena · 22/02/2014 09:14

*bows and exits stage left

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Koothrapanties · 22/02/2014 09:15

My days it gets worse. I have hidden him from my timeline but his posts are still bloody well coming up. This is the latest wanky picture:

"Girlfriend doesn't want anal? Suprise her with it, women love surprises!"

Angry
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BakeOff · 22/02/2014 09:22

"Boyfriend doesn't want to help with the housework? Surprise him by boiling his genitals. Men love surprises!"

Monetbyhimself · 22/02/2014 09:24

Seriously ? And you won't delete this guy ?

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Koothrapanties · 22/02/2014 09:25

I have changed my mind. A joke about anal rape is just sick.

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BakeOff · 22/02/2014 09:26

Please add Funky's post to the comments! Show them how ignorant and idiotic their wanky picture is.

FrigginRexManningDay · 22/02/2014 09:36

I would put that up on his page.
Do you really think anal rape when applied to women is ok? I always thought you were a decent person but now youve shown this disturbing side I dont want anything to do with you.

He will reply with something along the lines of Its a joke, relax.

And you can reply with You think rape is something to joke about? Thats even more disturbing.

pluCaChange · 22/02/2014 09:40

Tag your family members so they can see why you're de-friending, and so they can, too. What a disgusting individual.

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Koothrapanties · 22/02/2014 09:41

It would be very satisfying to post these things, but I can't. I will delete and block, but I can't rock the boat as his family are business clients of my dad. Otherwise I would happily tear him a new one.

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Joysmum · 22/02/2014 09:41

Friend of the family or not, he's no friend of yours and there comes a time when dark facets of personality overshadow the good and then it's bye bye

JeanSeberg · 22/02/2014 09:44

I've never classed myself as a single parent as have always had 50-50 split with their dad and think it would be an insult to 'real' single parents to call myself one.

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Koothrapanties · 22/02/2014 09:44

I just went on his page to see if anyone had liked or commented on the anal picture and it's gone. I wonder if someone had a go at him about it.

Right, goodbye knobhead. Delete!

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Original poster
Koothrapanties · 22/02/2014 09:45

Jean, I think you are still a single parent, but not a lone parent. :)

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diddl · 22/02/2014 09:50

He sounds absolutely awful.

Well I suppose if there are two parents, then neither is a single parent, really.

But I guess you're single parenting!

roughtyping · 22/02/2014 09:51

I never knew there was a difference between a single parent and a lone parent (I've been both - I think Confused)

He sounds like a twat and is talking total nonsense. People like these things because it makes them feel better about themselves.

JeanSeberg · 22/02/2014 09:52

I'm a parent that's single. Smile. Definitely not a single or lone parent - the two are interchangeable surely?