what is it about people that annoys others?

[pamelat]

What attributes annoy you in people?

As im getting on, im realising that I dont have that many friends!!

I have a few close friends, mummy ones, a couple of cousins but they dont have much choice ;) and one school friend. Others seem to have life long networks of close friends.

I think I was rubbish at maintaining friendships at 16/17 when I got my first boyfriend, he was an idiot, very possessive etc.

Now im sad that I lost those friends, its a long time ago but by the delight of facebook, I see that those friends meet up etc and im almost envious!!

More recently, in group situations, school playground, work courses, I find that I make an effort to chat but that no one is very interessted.

Im almost paranoid now. I habe asked my old school friend what it is about me (!!) And shes I credibly honest but says there is nothing.

Dh says im too self absorbed so perhaps just notice it nore. I dont think that I am self absorbed, but am aware of most things around me. Is that self absorbed thougb?!!!

When you're talking to someone and they keep checking their phone to look on Facebook or messages from their friends which is just so rude if you're having a conversation.
One friend who I used to go out with would always be on Facebook sending messages etc so I'd be sitting there staring around the room. I felt as if she would rather be with the people she was messaging. When I'm with someone I give them my full attention and make eye contact, the other person then feels important and listened to!

Also pamelat I've found as people get older the less inclined they are to want to make new friends. Most already have a good circle of friends and don't feel they need any more so don't always think there's something wrong with you. But keep talking to people and ask them questions. People like talking about themselves! And treasure the friends do you have it's not always about the amount but the quality of said friendships so it's good you do have some friends

"People don't like me because I'm too honest." No, you're just fucking rude.

"I'm mad I am." No, you're just a fucking twat.

"My life is so hard at the moment, I've been in hospital 6 times this month." No, you used the hospital car park when you went shopping 6 times this month.

"Drama just seems to follow me around." No, you chase drama like it's a robber.

I could go on...

(I don't have many friends either )

Alfie urgh I forgot about the phone checkers! DP and I went out for lunch the other day and there were two girls at the table opposite us, sat in silence for about 10 mins while one was giggling at a text conversation she was having. The other girl did not look impressed...

Oh and another. People who do the "You haven't called/visited me for ages" thing. Did you lose my number? Navigational skills?

There seems to be a lot of narcissistic people around, just all about them ALL the time, hence the uprise of "selfie's" i had to have a huge fb cull as I was sick of filtered close up photos (that look NOTHING like said person in real life) with the usual so gorgeous hun, beautiful etc comments urghh just fishing for compliments! Drives me mad!

Shit stirrers. Hate people that thrive off gossip and love being the first person to tell you the new bit of gossip. Most of the girls at work are like this!