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AIBU to think bouns presents are .....

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trampstamp · 19/02/2014 17:17

Indulgent to say the least I was watching this moring and they were talking about the rise in bouns presants were parents buy siblings a gift on the other child's birthday so they don't feel left out Confused

They survey they came up with said 40% of parents now do this

Who are these people and should they be slapped with a wet haddock and brought back to reality

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kazkiss · 19/02/2014 17:18

My two always get gifts on each other's birthday. They are allowed to though because they are twins :)

SauvignonBlanche · 19/02/2014 17:19
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MrsCakesPremonition · 19/02/2014 17:20

My MIL thinks I do this. I don't. But every birthday I have to have a bloody long conversation with her about how I don't buy a present for siblings because it is not their birthday. Why doesn't she listen? And why does she say that she doesn't agree with it either and then try and buy extra presents for siblings to make it fair.

Sorry for derailing your thread.

YellowDinosaur · 19/02/2014 17:20

Well slap away if you like I don't really give a shit what you think Hmm

We do this. Only small things but I really don't see why is anyone else's business, or indeed of any interest to anyone else. Our sons are kind and considerate and happy to see other people being happy and getting presents. So they certainly haven't been negatively affected or turned into entitled brats by this. It makes them both happy, including the birthday boy who helps to choose for his brother.

clairemum22 · 19/02/2014 17:21

I buy one present for the non birthday child and see no harm in it. Am sure you're a much better parent than me though.

squoosh · 19/02/2014 17:21

My parents did this back in the early 70's when they just had two sweet children. They were less sentimental about hurt feelings when they got to five kids!

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trampstamp · 19/02/2014 17:21

What why are people,buying birthday gifts gor children when it's not there birthday.

What ever happend to saying your not the center of attention today when it's your birthday you will have your turn now suck it up sing happy birthday to your sister and have some cake

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EmmelineGoulden · 19/02/2014 17:21

Would that be a survey paid for by Toys-R-Us or similar?

gamerchick · 19/02/2014 17:23

I don't. I see it the same as everybody winning in sports day.

Birthdays are the one day of the year when it's about you. I wouldn't make my kids not have that.. no way.

People can do what they want though.. I don't care.

YellowDinosaur · 19/02/2014 17:23

The birthday child is still the centre of attention. Why does this bother you or make any difference to your life? Why? Just because someone does something different to you?

squoosh · 19/02/2014 17:23

Each to their own etc. but personally it's not something I'd do. Surely the whole point of a birthday is that it's the birthday child's special day. Part of feeling special is knowing your siblings are looking at your presents slack jawed with envy! Grin

EatShitDerek · 19/02/2014 17:24

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trampstamp · 19/02/2014 17:24

the physiologist they had on was not wrong

I actually never heard of this until today

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YellowDinosaur · 19/02/2014 17:25

Exactly gamerchick. I have no interest in whether people do this or not. You do what you like for something totally inconsequential to everyone else. I can't see why the op is getting so irate she wants to slap people with a wet haddock...

mumbaisapphirebluespruce · 19/02/2014 17:27

I don't get it either, but it's none of my business if other people want to. Just seems unnecessary for me. The non birthday children get party bags or get to experience the treat of a trip to the cinema or soft play or whatever the birthday celebration is, so I don't think they are missing out.

EatShitDerek · 19/02/2014 17:28

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IneedAsockamnesty · 19/02/2014 17:31

I once slapped someone with a manky wet fish,

It's not really that irate it's slightly less irate than accidentally on purpose getting their ankles with a buggy but more irate than the cats bum face

CorusKate · 19/02/2014 17:31

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trampstamp · 19/02/2014 17:31

What type of fish was it???

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GingerRodgers · 19/02/2014 17:32

This used to happen in our house only, it was my brother getting a present on my birthday. I never got one on his. Don't really think that's fair but he always was favourite!

squoosh · 19/02/2014 17:33

That's pretty crap Ginger.

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littleredsquirrel · 19/02/2014 17:35

I don't get it either and I think its right that children learn that they are not always the centre of attention.

I'm amazed anyone does thins though. I've never heard of it. The only time Ive heard of anything similar is buying a present for the young sibling when a new baby arrives and thought that was just to make sure the toddler didn't deliberately pinch the new baby through jealousy!

wheretoyougonow · 19/02/2014 17:37

I don't like this either. Children need to learn its not always about them. My kids love choosing and giving each other presents. I find it sad that parents seem to over compensate or just can't bear to say no.

needaholidaynow · 19/02/2014 17:38

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