Homeless with son. Should I live in a tent? Or on a beach somewhere?

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I live in the south of England.

I have one child.

I have a serious chronic illness.

I cannot afford to top-up my housing benefit any more. After one year, my savings are now gone.

I worked for 25 years. My parents worked all their lives.

I will be homeless.

Its seemingly impossible to find a Landlord, Social Housing, etc without a Guarantor. I cannot find anyone unless I have a rent 'Guarantor' (which I don't have).

Any thoughts? Just don't know what to do.

Feel weird about it all too. Not sure what to do. Should I live in a tent, etc? Feel very marginalised and strange situation, horrible really.

Um, Swimming, are you drunk?

TheXxed's post is clearly sarcasm, because you keep sticking your fingers in your ears when literally everyone tells you you have options other than damp tent in a field.

It could be argued that making a child homeless. Because you feel uncomfortable using the same method thousands of other vulnerable people use to obtain social housing is abuse.

I heard the advice, not what you offered, piss-taking me and my son living in a tent. Scummy, scummy. I hope they delete it soon. Its nice to know how out-of-touch people are. Fancy making fun of people's children living in tents in February because nowhere to live.

you sound drunk and self-pitying and asked for advice you do not want to hear for some obscure reason.

Swimming, deleting your thread is not going to fix your problems. Nor is being convinced people are out to abuse you.

Not sympathetic to sarcasm when homeless. Vile people, really.

you are not homeless though are you?

But you and your son are not living a tent.

And the only way you will is if you choose to ignore every piece of advice given because self-pity is more important than your collective welfare.

YOU DO NOT HAVE TO LIVE IN A TENT that is what we are saying no one thinks a mother and child living in a tent is funny. You have to take responsibility for your situation. It does not have to be like this.

You are NOT homeless!

Homeless is living under a bridge or spending nights is a charity run shelter with no fixed abode and no options. YOU have options but you do not seem to want to use them.

And nobody has abused you. By the sounds of it you are abusing yourself.

And if your son has allergies (is that right?) it's not going to help living in a tent, surely?

I've asked MNHQ to delete this thread.

Don't feel like being attacked when imminently homeless, without support and chronically ill.

PLEASE DELETE THREAD MNHQ.

Could you also point out the posts where people "made fun" of you and your son living in a tent please.

I think you need to click the report button.

But they might have gone to bed now.

I have worked in housing including homelessness (currently managing a homelessness charity in south London) for 15 years. Your situation is not hopeless and there is help out there. Give me a PM if you like, happy to give you some free and professional advice. I wouldn't post any more OP as I think your understandable frustration with your situation is causing you to not take friendly advice in the spirit in which it's meant.

I hope MNHQ DO NOT delete this thread because the only person who has name called and being down right rude is you.

But you're not imminently homeless (imo)
If you'd been served an eviction notice, and had bailiffs due to forcefully remove you then yes imminently homeless.
And when I say I've experienced a similar situation, my local council said they had no duty to house us. Then they referred us to ss, claiming they may be able to help. Ss told me that if I didn't get it sorted my dc would be taken in care (i accept they would have had no choice)
I've seen no one being vile on this thread, only people trying to help despite the fact you refuse to listen.

uh, you are as anonymous as everyone else.

Can you point out the vile nasty posts swimming?

Can you point out the posts where people made fun of you and your son?

I think you've had a really tough time on this thread OP, you sound so upset and at the end of your tether. Please do go to the agencies other posters have mentioned for help and advice. It is commendable that you don't want to let your guarantor and landlord down, but sometimes needs must. If you stay on in the property you're in, you will be helping yourself and your DC (and I say that as both a landlord and tenant). Good luck.

MNHQ PLEASE DELETE THIS THREAD

MNHQ PLEASE DELETE THIS HORRIBLE THREAD

what did you WANT people to say? Come and live in my mansion?

i have read back thro the thread and while some of us may have given inaccurate advice based on your misleading thread title, all advice was given in a friendly and helpful spirit.

I did wonder from the start if you had addiction problems tbh