To be shaking with anger at this advice RE controlling behaviour

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Friend has met a man. Very very recently.

She has young children (Twins) and had planned to use a personal trainer to get fit. New man recommended his cousin (Female). Friend would prefer to use the PT recommended by her friends. (Male).

New mans cousin uses her home and local parks (?) Recommended PT uses a gym.

New man has thrown his toys out the pram because she said she will be gong with the recommended PT, Very professional man, all positive recommendations and feedback from others who have used him.

New man has been in a mood with her over it and has said;
Why are you using recommended PT when you could use my cousin, bet its because its a man, no doubt youll be showing him cleavage

Try not to jump into bed with him just because he's got tattoos

if he's not good enough there is no point in their relationship because she will probably find someone at the gym

IMO its controlling behaviour and ive told her quite plainly to run and not look back. Others are saying she should reassure him, dont give up on him yet, he might just be insecure?! (thats the bit im angry about). AIBU To be angry and feel that this sort of advice just encourages controlling and eventually full on abusive relationships?

My DP gets very jealous. He does his best to hide it, has never once told me he didn't want me doing something (unless it's driving a long way at night in the rain and he gets worried, but he's never stopped me) and when I give him a reassuring kiss and a few texts through the night he's fine.
Most I get when I get home is "You'd better not have let any blokes buy you drinks" in mock angry/fist shaking way.

I have also had a bf who didn't want me to read books in case I enjoyed it more than being with him.

Guess which one I Love and have been happy with for 6 years

YANBU. Those other people are giving crap advice. The fact he's trying this on this early is a bad sign. He's probably embarrassed as he promised his cousin a new client - well sorry, but he shouldn't have done!

ALARM. ALARM. DANGER WILL ROBINSON. ALARM.

Run away, close the door, don't look back. If it's like this now it'll be worse later.

Get. Rid.

and open a bottle of champagne at a narrow escape. As people have said, if he's like this a month into the relationship, god knows what he'd be like 18 months down the line. Might as well throw herself into a black hole now and be done.

I really hope she can stay strong and tell him she wants no more contact after the "apology-to-reel-her-in"

This is how he is at the START of a relationship, imagine how bad it will definately get unless she cuts him out of her life.

What hickorychicken said.

The apologetic texts are textbook - not a sign that he's worth staying with. She needs to ditch him, immediately.

If he's insecure, that's his problem, not an excuse to act like a knob.

Those are some major red flags there, I'd be ending the relationship now. Been there, done that, not putting up with it ever again.