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Frenulum - smiley piercing in 14DD

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carolinecupcake · 15/02/2014 17:08

Just found out from third person that DD had smiley piercing done 2 months ago! I was really shocked because I had told her how much I hate facial piercings. I let her keep it in hoping that she'll eventually get bored of it and remove it.She wears a really small one for school that doesn't show. I'm still in shock that she did it behind my back and my main worry is hygiene and the damage it could cause to her teeth. DH doesn't know and would go mad if he found out.Anyone else had a similar experience?

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pinkyredrose · 15/02/2014 17:35

There's v little risk to this piercing.

Btw the limit for tattooing is 18 not 16.

PublicEnemyNumeroUno · 15/02/2014 17:38

Good god it looks bloody awful

Ihavemyownname · 15/02/2014 17:41

I have my tongue piecred twice and have had it for 3 years.
To be fair yes she may only be 14 but she could of had worse piecred and least its not on show all the time

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carolinecupcake · 15/02/2014 17:53

I'm hoping the novelty will eventually wear off and at least it's not permanent. It cost £8 and she went with a friend to get it done.

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brokenhearted55a · 15/02/2014 18:08

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Sparklingbrook · 15/02/2014 18:11

I don't get that at all. What about school? Confused

LaurieFairyCake · 15/02/2014 18:14

They only tell them to remove ones you can see

The OP didn't even notice for months her daughter had one - very easily concealed

mollypup · 15/02/2014 18:17

I had it done when I was 17. It doesn't hurt, heals very quickly due to where it is and doesn't cause any problems. Mine was out by the time I was 19 purely as I'd become bored of it & had grown up a bit. Don't make a mountain out of a molehill, she will be over it soon enough.

BuggedByJake · 15/02/2014 18:17

Its really no big deal. As someone with a very 'alternative' past it really won't bother me if my dd does the same. It's only a hole!

LEMmingaround · 15/02/2014 18:21

she'll grow out of it, it will irritate her and she will remove it. I think they look quite nice

greenfolder · 15/02/2014 18:22

if you havent noticed for2 months its not an issue.

pick your battles.

Sparklingbrook · 15/02/2014 18:30

Should be fun at the next dentist appointment. Confused

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FlockOfTwats · 15/02/2014 18:41

Just be thankful that its not in a visible place for when she does get bored of it, and that she had it done properly - When i was her age, my mum told me i couldn't have my lip pierced.

Did it myself. Got infected. Very ill and painful.

She let me have my tongue done when i went to her asking if i could use my birthday money though... I think she was scared i'd have a go at that on my own if she said no.

NewtRipley · 15/02/2014 18:41

I too thought about penii

I like some piercings, but Gawd, that's an ugly one, IMO

I suppose you do have to suck it up. I think I'd need to calm down a bit if I saw it in.

TheDoctorsNewKidneys · 15/02/2014 18:51

How are you going to make a teenager take it out? Pin them down and yank it out of their face? Really?

Not worth the battle. She hasn't done anything illegal. It can be taken out when she inevitably gets sick of it. What's the point in creating all this drama over it?

DownstairsMixUp · 15/02/2014 19:00

As people have said, not much you can do as there's no law on it but I would keep a good eye on it for infection and find out where she got it. I have lots of tattoos and piercings and tbh most reputable places don't pierce under 18's without consent/an adult with them even though the law says it's fine to. So I'd want to know where she got it done!

Misspixietrix · 15/02/2014 19:52

that looks painful!

PiperRose · 15/02/2014 19:59

How did you not notice ?

ChasingDogs · 15/02/2014 20:09

I imagine if it's a small hoop or bar you would have to peel back her top lip and examine her mouth to see it. Which is why it has gone unnoticed by both parents and the school.

I rather like most piercings and tats but that one does make me cringe a little... more the idea of having that bit of skin torn (although hard to imagine how that would happen, not a lot for it to get caught on really is there?).

I'd wait for her to get bored of it as you plan to. Maybe buy in some mouth wash if you don't already have some and demand she gurgles after every meal/snack under the guise of preventing infection. She might get bored of it a little sooner if she has to follow a regime like that when she's at home?

Disclaimer! I don't have teenagers, just thinking back to how bloody lazy I was at that age Grin

WhileWeSleep · 15/02/2014 20:33

Depending on the jewellery you can see it when smiling or talking. You can get a small curved bar which can only be seen with the lip up.

A horseshoe or a ball closure can be seen when smiling.

I paid £25 for mine. I personally wouldn't touch a piercer if they are charging a fiver. Confused

AtYourCervix · 15/02/2014 21:01

How bad is it that i rather like that?

Topaz25 · 15/02/2014 21:15

You're shocked that she went behind your back but she couldn't exactly talk to you about it, knowing your views about facial piercings. It's better to be open minded about this sort of thing to keep the lines of communication open. The teenage years are the time when children start to assert their independence and make decisions about their appearance, just be glad this decision is so minor and reversible. Smiley piercings are prone to migration and rejection as it is such a small piece of skin so she may lose it or get bored of it. There is a risk of it rubbing teeth and gums so tell her to watch out for any irritation. She can keep it clean by practicing good oral hygiene and gargling with non-alcoholic mouthwash after meals. She can also dip a cotton swab in saline solution and clean it twice a day.

mrscumberbatch · 15/02/2014 21:20

They shouldn't be piercing anyone under 16 for definite, but a lot of reputable places wouldn't do this till 18.

For what it's worth, I had loads of face piercings. They made me happy. I felt pretty with them.

By the time I was 24 they were all gone, there's tiny scars that are barely noticeable.

I'm glad I did that and not something more permanent. (Although I have stretched ears but I'm keeping them as I love them.)

I'd strongly advise against smileys. I like them, but it's very likely that she'll have to get her teeth veneered when she's older if she keeps it. The hoop rubs away the enamel on the teeth.

Alisvolatpropiis · 15/02/2014 21:21

How did you not notice for 2 months?